me n my finace are in long distance relation since 5 yrs now..he says he loves me but never stopped talking to girls whom i really hate.......every time i have caugth him red handed our relaiton has been on the verge of break of coz he cant stop talking to girls...although he talks he dosent like me tlaking to any guys even for work...
whenever i caught him red handed talking to girls he lied to me every single time tht he wasnt talking or they r all his sisters.they r old friends..every time eh promises me tht he wont talk yet he again lies n contacts them soem or the other way...last time i had warned him that if i catch him again i wont marry him..he said sorry to me tht time.but few days ago i discovered tht he was again chatting with girls.
i asked him who is more imp to him his finace or other girls n yet he argued tht i never gave such condition on him tht i wont marry him if he talks to girls...he igonres me comeplety.n.yet shows off infront fo every1 how much he loves me
2007-04-07 13:44:24 · 17 answers · asked by not_scared 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you are that possessive.Call the hole thing off if you get marred it will be hell on earth
2007-04-07 13:53:02 · answer #1 · answered by freddy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to know why he ignores your feelings? Because every time you have caught him red handed, your relationship has been ON THE VERGE of breaking up. On the verge??? Give me a break! In plain English, that means you ranted and raved for a while, he threw some lies and lame excuses your way, and in the end you let him get away with it. That is the reason why it's still going on.
Wake up and smell the coffee, honey. Your so-called fiance is a liar and a cheater. THIS is who you want to spend the rest of your life with??? Thought not. So do what you should have done the first time you caught him and kick him to the curb already. You can do better.
2007-04-07 13:50:06 · answer #2 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you asked him, not to talk to these particular girls, and he continues to do so, then that means that he's not respecting your wishes, and that you should evaluate. You can't be one sided in a relationship, if he tells you not to conversate with men, and you don't but yet he can do whatever he chooses to do then, Screw him, and think about your feelings. I personally don't see anything wrong with holding a general conversation with anybody, but if that what you guys agreed to then both of your wishes should be respected. Talk it out again, and this time put some stipulations on him, and if that doesn't work, then you guys shouldn't get married, because love obviously isn't enough.
2007-04-07 13:52:12 · answer #3 · answered by Cocoa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talking...to other girls, as you talking to other men, should not a problem for either one of you. to say or do otherwise is a control factor. except, if the...talking...is flirting or beyond. casual conversation hurts no one. it is when it goes beyond casual talk that it becomes a problem.
you tolerated it passed the first time. he know that you won't do anything about it, and does not take you seriously. he has openly shown disrespect and disregard for your feelings, and the relationship between the two of you.
will he stop? no. not even when you are married. infact the situation only becomes worse. further beyond, and more lies, and more deception. is this the type of "happily ever after you've always dreamed of"??? i think not.
when a red flag first presents itself in a relationship, it isn't about him anymore, it is about you. how much respect you have for yourself and what you will and won't tolerate out of that self respect.
good luck,
~~mafi
2007-04-07 14:00:41 · answer #4 · answered by JanRose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he meet this other girls is anything going on or are you just jealous. If you have reason to believe he is unfaithful then the answer is clear to me dump him. To me you sound like there is reason to dump him. He may very well be still shopping around for another girl or he may really love you. Or he might just be commitment phobic. Your not married yet and it isn't to late to back out. Go with your gut.
2007-04-07 13:51:54 · answer #5 · answered by Kathleen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He cheats on you and you forgive him and he still does it and you're aware of it and you haven't ended it? I understand that you want to make it work but he's a dog, as depicted by his redundant actions. Break it off with him, please. Unless you can deal with this when you are married. There are a lot of other guys out there who would treat you the way you should be treated. Leave he and his girls alone, besides he might catch something.
2007-04-07 13:49:29 · answer #6 · answered by tunrayo_tijani 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. I think he's trying to have his cake and eat it too. He parades you around to demonstrate what a great guy he is, but as soon as you're gone he chatting up every other piece of tail that will give him the time of day and ignoring you.
If he was just having casual conversations, and was completely honest about it, that would be different. But since he's lying about it and ignoring you, it makes me think he's playing the field.
2007-04-07 13:49:32 · answer #7 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is he only talkin to them or is there more goin on? I guess if u can't handle him talkin to them and he wont stop for you that just shows how much or how little u mean to him, especially when he doesnt like u talkin to other guys. Just talk to heaps of guys and throw it back in his face, if he overreacts dump the loser and find yaself a real man who respects u and loves u completely
2007-04-07 13:48:34 · answer #8 · answered by Onie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello, i see red warning all over!!! ur guy is a complete jerko. i know u love him and all but hey, can u really see urself happily married with him? u should think many, many times before marrying this guy cos he sound like a player to me. dnt ever think he'l change his ways once u guys are married. or u might regret it for the rest of ur life. if he really loves u, he'l respect you. he's honest with you and most of all, u should be the center of his universe. that's how love is.goodluck!
2007-04-07 13:59:03 · answer #9 · answered by mich 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're in the sort of relationship where neither you nor your fiance are able to talk to people of the opposite sex, you are not in the sort of relationship that is marriage material.
If he was kissing these women, or trying to bed them, it would be different. It is not wrong in any way for your fiance to speak to other women. You need to trust him, you will never last if you aren't allowed speaking to people of the opposite sex.
2007-04-07 13:48:06 · answer #10 · answered by * 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what's the problem here? Why are still with him? He's a dog, a liar and you are a fool! He will keep doing this and you know why.....because you've accepted it for five years!!!
2007-04-07 13:49:00 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋