Theres been a lot of guys that have liked me,but they all get turned off because they say that I'm "frigid". They all say that I'm to innocent but I dont want to be like that. I dont know how not to be like that. I get freaked out to hug them or kiss any boy, or when they touch me. I am in highschool now and I shouldnt be like that. I have lost a lot of guys because they havent thought I was interested in them. Please help me with this.
2007-04-07 13:41:59 · 12 answers · asked by Carson M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Best answer to a guy who tells you you are frigid:
"There are no frigid women, there are only clumsy men."
2007-04-07 13:45:42 · answer #1 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let me clue you in on a secret of the high school male: when they call you "frigid", it means that they are after sex and they are worried that you won't give it to them. These are NOT the guys you want.
I actually had the same issue when I was in high school. I didn't start dating until I was 20, because all of the guys who liked me in high school were the guys who were only after sex (most high school guys are like that), and I didn't want to be used like that. I waited until I found a real man, and I'm glad I did. Don't let these guys pressure you. Only you know what you're really comfortable with, so just do what feels right for you. When you find a guy who you're comfortable with, that will be the right guy for you.
2007-04-07 21:05:55 · answer #2 · answered by IQ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you! I think it is completely normal to be freaked out by hugging or kissing a boy!
It doesn't mean you will always feel this way, it only means the time is not right yet!
"Frigid" is a term used by inconsiderate dim-wits who want to make you feel bad. Don't do anything you are not ready for, and try not to worry about it!
2007-04-07 20:51:20 · answer #3 · answered by bluemountainsbird 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be careful that you may be listening but not hearing the message! "You are too frigid' may be another way of saying' You won't have sex with me". There is nothing to be ashamed of for being accused of being "too innocent". You sound like a great gal, and the right guy will come along and find you because he sees something in you besides a casual sex partner, Take your time, I promise you it will be worth it.
2007-04-07 20:51:19 · answer #4 · answered by Alfie333 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey, if you're uncomfortable with it, then that's the way it is. Don't worry about it. For a lot of guys when they say a girl is "frigid" that's just another way of saying "she won't put out". You wait until you are comfortable, and don't force the issue.
2007-04-07 20:46:15 · answer #5 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Okay i dont think you should try to change who you are for others cause if they like u they should like u for u... not something they WANT you to be... and from the sound of it... you're messing with guys who only have one thing on their mind... steer clear of them... theyre bad news... if a boy likes a respects you for who you are... being "frigid" shouldnt be an issue... when you are comfortable enough with a boy then itll come natural to do those things with them... you're still young... still in high school... maybe ur not ready to even be dating... dont rush things... wait for the right one to come along who respects you... most of em aint worth spendin 2 cents on lol
2007-04-07 20:48:34 · answer #6 · answered by Sun ☼Shine☼ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
maybe youre just scared. If youre attracted and comfortable with a guy there should be no reason to be that closed up around him. If youve never kissed a guy before I can see you being uncomfortable. Be loving but dont be taken advantage of..
2007-04-07 20:45:55 · answer #7 · answered by henry 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They are just using that as a pick up line to try and get you in bed. Sounds like you have your head on straight and are doing fine.
2007-04-07 20:45:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just be confident. there isnt any problem in kissing. try to get involved in talking. in starting u will have problem but then it will be fine.
2007-04-07 20:46:19 · answer #9 · answered by solver 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if they dont like you for who u r bump them..............you can do all that stuff when ur good and ready............nothings wrong with innocence
2007-04-07 20:45:38 · answer #10 · answered by nickname 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋