She comes over and at times disrespects my stuff. She takes my ferrets out of the cage without asking as Im telling her "dont take them out, dont take them out". Then she tests my limits and puts them back in the cage, while poking at them with her fingers through the bars. Then when she helps clean up her mess, she carrys about 7 glasses all stacked up on eachother and as they are tipping over with liquid in them, and Im telling her "put them down" she is screeching and laughing (ear piercing shreeks". She interrupts me and asks all these questions without even waiting for the answers...anad jumps from subject to subject without carrying on a normal conversation. I want to still have her over, but its getting to be too much ?? Does she have ADD?? Is she just not disciplined enough at home. Please help!
2007-04-07 13:32:58 · 13 answers · asked by B 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
by the way..her mother (my stepmother) is never home and lets her do whatever she wants when she is home.
2007-04-07 13:56:02 · update #1
I'm tempted to go with ADD here. But in all fairness, she might simply be pushing your buttons because she is your sister and feels there's only so much you can do, because in the end, your parents are the authority figures, not you.
Just put your foot down. Explain to her that in your house you are the boss. And enforce the rules. If she gets too out of line, just toss her out and send her home. If she cries to your parents and they try to intervene, just explain that it's your home and you would expect them to respect that. After all, if someone else's kids come over to visit your sister, they enforce the rules I'm sure.
good luck.
2007-04-07 13:39:08 · answer #1 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Next time she comes over, sit down and ask her why shes not listening to you. Is she having problems at home? Is your mother raising her right? She might be doing things just to get attention. When she comes over you can take her somewhere that you both like. That way she can't do anything to your house. If she keeps acting up, tell her she can't come over for a couple days. Go over to your mothers house and talk to her about the way your sister acts. Only a doctor can tell you if she has ADD or not. Hope this helps. Good luck.
2007-04-07 13:49:17 · answer #2 · answered by homeatlast2110 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit your sister down,.a nd have a face to face conversation with her put some stipulations, and guidelines on her. She's thirteen years old, she's old enough to know right from wrong, and if that doesn't work then, I know how much you don't want to do this, but don't allow her back into your house.
2007-04-07 13:55:49 · answer #3 · answered by Cocoa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try sending her home until she can listen to you. its your house and if she cant respect it then she shouldnt be there. at 13 she is old enough to act right. you probably wont get much help from you step mother. you sister must enjoy coming over so give her an ultimatum, either act right or stay at home alone.
2007-04-07 14:44:02 · answer #4 · answered by suthrn_yanky 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your little sister is testing you to see how far she can go!!!!! Put your foot down right away. Tell her if she can not respect your house and belongings that she will not be allowed to come over, and then stick with it
2007-04-07 13:54:34 · answer #5 · answered by Carole D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your parents about her behavior. Is this how she is at home? If so, perhaps she needs to be evaulated as it sounds like odd behavior and very juvenile for a 13 yr old.
Let her know you'd like to have her over, but until she learns to respect your home and your things, and listen to you, she will not be welcome.
2007-04-07 13:39:51 · answer #6 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her that you love but you simply will not put up with her behavior in your home and that if she wishes to continue to come over that she will have to grow up, you are not her mother and ask if she would dissrespect her friends, like that in their homes
2007-04-07 13:39:29 · answer #7 · answered by ponitail 55 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
HERE'S THE WAY IT GOES. YOUR HOUSE YOUR RULES. NEXT TIME SHE COMES SIT HER DOWN ON THE COUCH OR KITCHEN AND TELL HER THIS. I AM YOUR SISTER AND I LOVE YOU BUT SOME THINGS WILL CHANGE OR YOU WILL BE BANNED FROM MY HOME. WHAT I SAY GOES. PERIOD IF YOU HAVE ANY QUESTIONS REFER TO WHAT I SAY GOES. GOOD LUCK
2007-04-07 13:39:01 · answer #8 · answered by dtwladyhawk 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just not disciplined at home, all you can do is complain to her parents..
2007-04-07 13:35:49 · answer #9 · answered by Boston Bluefish 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, don´t invite her to your house.
2007-04-07 13:45:53 · answer #10 · answered by nobodysfool 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋