how sad is this, please answer and what would you do,?

Question

i am a stay at home dad of 3 boys since they were born,my wife just left with her friends to go to a party and when i looked in her car there were 4 bottles of unopened vodka, i guess i will be coloring easter eggs with the kids by myself, she didnt show up for our 4 year old kindergarten sign up orientation because she was partying and for christmas while we were making ginger bread houses she was in las vegas partying, what would you do if your spouse acted this way

Answer 1

You should be writing for the soap opera channel.

Answer 2

That is so sad! You always hear about the dead-beat dad who is doing stuff like that, but not very often about it being the other way around! I'm glad you took the time to remind everyone that there are still some great dads out there! I'm a single mom of two small kids and I know how hard it can be to do it on your own! Good for you! Keep your head up and have a great Easter!

Answer 3

Well, most women nowadays would firwst warn, and then consider starting divorce proceedings. However they might be concerned about losing complete access to the kids. I wonder though if your wife even cares about the kids. You could just as well bring them up on your own. I would certainly confront her though. Although you certainly don't sound like a very confronting person! Perhaps you ought to consider a bit of counselling for yourself first, so you can learn to affirm yourself.
This kind of advice would apply equally to a man or woman in that situation.
Before making any serious moves, it would be wise to make sure you are employable.

Answer 4

I agree with what funny said and if talking doesn't work try marriage counseling. I would not be very happy about my spouse acting this way and would do something about it.
My sister was doing the same thing to my brother in law. They attended Christian counseling and came through it fine. She was just going through a phase, unfortunately at her family's
expense
Please try to work on your marriage with her first. It takes two willing parties, speaking of her.

Answer 5

It's hard for us to be able to give you any reliable advice based on what you told us. There may be more to the story. I suggest you discuss the situation with your clergy, preferable ones that know you. But if you don't have any, then maybe get some kind of counseling.

Even if your wife won't go, you and the children would benefit from it.

Answer 6

If it was a one time thing, forgive and forget, but apparently, this is her new lifestyle, and kids don't seem to be very important to her, so I'd have to say divorce would be the only option. Sorry, but its not much of a marriage and she's not much of a mother.

Answer 7

Discuss the situation with her, and ask her if partying was more important than her kids. Try to be a little forceful, you sound a little mellow. Be a man.

Answer 8

I would divorce her because she does not seem interested in being a wife or a mother. I think that you and your boys deserve someone who wants to be there and be a part of the family.

Answer 9

First of all, let me say I am sorry. It is never easy to see someone you love behave in this manner. I personally would not tolerate the behavior, nor would I allow it around my children. Good luck with the situation.

Answer 10

You just described part of the reason I'm divorced. My hubby slipped out of hospital while I was giving birth to our first (and only) child in order to go to a strip club. Strip clubs have never bothered me, but that time - it sure as hell did!

~Morg~

Answer 11

Headship is lacking and both need to start satisfying their roles in the marriage and family as a whole.