Sisters...help???

Question

I have an older sister who is the favorite in my family...
she was told that she could only have 1 car and shes been through 3 already, and in 3 years... she has her own house that my parents paid for and take care of, she leaves it a pit, she played tennis when she was a teenager and my father said that we only got one sport to play and now shes taking golf lessons....
and it upsets me to see everything that happens and i barely get anything and am treated like a slave by him, and im always in trouble no matter what i do,
should i just forget about everything and just not think about it or should i talk to someone about it

Answer 1

It is frustrating, I know. I have 2 sisters and one brother. I am the oldest girl. My brother is older than me.

I have had to pay for my clothes when my parents bought the rest of their school clothes. There are other things too. It taught me that I can do things more on my own and that I did not need my parents as I got older. They had it hard with 4 of us and they didn't have a lot of money. I have even had to pay back my college, even though they didn't expect me to ever pay it back. It teaches responsibility. I had a job and none of my siblings did. I babysat and detassled corn before I graduated from high school

I will look at it at a different perspective: They are probably being harder on you because they realize the mistakes they made with your older sister and do not want the same mistake made with you. I would encourage you to sit down with your family and discuss it as "open family discussion" to be able to discuss how you are feeling as a part of the family. When you do, try not to start it off as accusatory because that will not get you anywhere. Start it off with positive things you have about being in the family. Say something positve about each person in your family. That way, it will show them you are responsible enough to have thought this through. When you discuss how you feel. Don't say.... She is your favorite...... Say something like.... I feel like I can have more responsibilities placed on me such as::::::another sport. Tell him why you think you can handle another sport. Are your grades good, things like that. Try not to have a "tone" in your voice. Be calm. Make sure you think it over before you meet with them. If you start to feel frustrated, say so. I feel frustrated: Or I feel angry that you do not think I can handle this,

I believe you should not cut off communication with your family because you are angry. Be an adult about it and try to come to some comprimise about some of the issues you have. You may want to tackle one issue at a time to see how you can handle it.

In the meantime, show you can handle things at home. I am sure you are doing your homework, helping with the housework, do something extra, like make dinner once a week to help your mother. Best wishes to you. My prayers are with you.

Answer 2

You can talk to your parents about how you feel and hope that they see how they are treating the both of you differently and unfairly. But, if they are treating her so different and don't realize it, the odds are they are oblivious and you pointing it out may not do a thing. But, if you think it may make you feel better then you should tell them about their actions.
You might wanna keep in mind that whatever your parents give to you or your siblings is out of the goodness of their hearts. They don't "owe" you anything and while they should treat you all exactly the same, you shouldn't hold it against them.

Answer 3

It does sound like you are angry and frustrated by the situation. Ask yourself why you are feeling this way. Is it that you do not want your sister to be happy? Or maybe you are feeling jealous because you feel like your parents do not love you the same. First, you have to figure out what about this situation is upsetting you..then you will be able to better answer your own question and be able to do something about it...

Answer 4

You need to talk to your parents and tell them how you are feeling have intelligent conversation don't be a whiner or they won't listen. Have your self prepared for the questions they might ask such as (how would you like to be treated) show them your not a child any more with unclear and indecisive decision's. They might just respect you for having the courage to no your own mind and speak up about it.

Answer 5

Talk to someone!!! Absolutely talk to someone... You must have an outlet for your feelings!!
You could try letting them know how you feel, in a letter or in person, remember to sandwich...you know.. good thing, like I love you and... I feel invisible and I want to have a better relationship with you.. good bad good, makes everything easier to accept...
love your self, find good in you.... you are a perfect and wonderful child of GOd... no matter what anyone says..
find an outlet for your anger,.... music, musical instrument, sports, writing...
Anger is just hurt with a different and more acceptable face..
Find a place to vent, a trusted friend or relative, counselor, writing can be very cathartic...

Answer 6

I would talk to your parents about it, but if that doesn't work it will only make you a better person having to work hard for what you recieve. Instead of your sounds like spoiled sister.

Answer 7

It seems to me that she is the favorite. YOu cant change that but you can tell him how you feel. Thats sorta lhow it is with me and my sister. But really just talk to your dad or your mom and i'm sure he'll try to fix it.

Answer 8

i know, how you feel. except my sister is younger. my mom took my sis to london for her birthday...and she's nine. i mean i've never been to london before, but still i don't hold it against my parents. my advice, talk to your parents. sit them down and talk to them. and give examples why u think ur being treated badly. they will listen if you talk to them, trust me.

Answer 9

You should tell them all to kiss your a**. You are not a dam stepchild. Speak to them about it. I know exactly what you are going thru. Parents can be so stupid.

Answer 10

u should talk to someone don't forget about it. maybe talk to Ur parents about how she been breaking the rules so much.