i dont think so
2007-04-07 07:49:32 · 33 answers · asked by Travel 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Take him to a local shelter for abused children or local childrens hospital and make him give it to someone much more deserving!
2007-04-07 07:59:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it's your kid, it is a really good time to teach this child what a gift means and what it took for you to provide it. I really don't think these kinds of kids were explained this. It's really important, because the lesson of give and take needs to be taught very young. Otherwise we will raise very thoughtless people. If the child does not like the gift, that's okay. It's the behavior that is the concern. Teach this child the proper edicate in such a way that it's not punishment, but a lesson. If this child in the future shows no change in behavior after the lesson, then the gift could be returned. If we "punish" first before they are taught then we are creating a negative experience that affect the future of gift and receiving.
If the child is not yours and you witnessed the behavior surrounding your gift, then express your feelings to that parent. I have no problem with that. You have a right to say, "Gee that really hurt my feelings your child treated my gift to him/her like this." It's up to the parent to teach this child. You don't have to participate in the giving of this child any longer.
I'm glad to see this question. It has really bothered me to see that too. When I was working for McDonalds years ago as a Birthday Party Hostess, I saw such children doing this. The parents had no clue of it. It just amazed me!
2007-04-07 08:15:56 · answer #2 · answered by sweeta : 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think either. I think he's stuck with what he was given. A gift is a gift. If you take it and return it you teach that it's OK to take gifts back. If you buy a new one you teach that he can dictate exactly what he wants.
Last Christmas my DD bought me a gift that I was really offended to get. But she choose it herself and was so excited to give it to me so I couldn't return it. Guess what? I use it quite often now. It was a personal hangup that I didn't want to admit to that made me mad getting it. But I had to learn that gifts are from the heart and she really was thinking of me. Hard lesson from an 8 year old.
Your "jerk kid" may not learn anything like that by keeping the present he was given but you never know.
2007-04-08 06:04:52 · answer #3 · answered by Critter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends how he reacted. If he just calmly said that it was not exactly what he was hopping for, I'd take it back and give him money instead so he can pick out what he wants. It's the best approach.
If he cried and whined the whole time and whatnot, I would not do much. I'd do my best to explain that in this life you can't always get what you want. This does not mean you should always think that negative events will arrise, it just means that sometimes, they will occur; so you should not be sad about them.
I guess his birthday is a rare event, but still. It's the thought that counts. He is not entitled to anything just because it's his birthday, you give it to him willingly. He should be happy about that. :)
2007-04-07 08:17:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids should learn how to be grateful, he doesn't like it? Too bad! His parents should do something about it. I know someone who's kid got a present from the neighbors for xmas (a coloring book) and his parents bought their kids something pretty cool (nothing too expensive) and he said "that's it?" when he opened the present to find it was a coloring book. His mom marched him straight over there and made him apologize to her even though she wasn't present when he opened the gift. He said thank you and that was that. He was embarassed in the end, but he learned to be grateful of what he recieved as a gift from then on.
2007-04-07 07:56:22 · answer #5 · answered by throughthebackyards 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Return it and give him nothing. Teach him to be gracious. If he doesn't learn now, he never will and you're his Mom and it's your responsibility to teach him. He may not like it, but that's tough. That's what life is. What will he do when his boss gives him a crappy present, tell the boss to stick it up his *ss and demand another gift of his selection. No, the only proper reply when given a gift is to say thank you. Then you can give it away to goodwill or trash it.
2007-04-07 10:33:09 · answer #6 · answered by Superstar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would take it back and just give him gift cards from now on. I know there very impersonal. But your not really being the bigger person and teaching him anything but to continue being a jerk if you don't give him something. It's only once a year. I just wouldn't do those special little things for someone who is so ungrateful.
2007-04-07 08:21:23 · answer #7 · answered by baby♥Justin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Return it and get him nothing! If you just buy the kid something new, that wouldn't teach the child to be grateful for what he or she got, and the child would continue to do the same thing over and over.
2007-04-07 07:55:21 · answer #8 · answered by ashleystar1992 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You gave it to him, so it's his now. You shouldn't do anything more. Don't return it, don't take it back, and definitely don't get him a new one. If you decide to buy him anything for Christmas make sure it's just like what you got him for his Birthday.
2007-04-09 08:33:09 · answer #9 · answered by Penny K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do anything. Leave him with his ingratitude.
My rule of thumb is that if it's a part of real life (getting what you don't want) and it's not traumatizing to the child, then let them experience a little difficulty now and then and mature from it.
2007-04-07 08:13:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋