My boyfriend is 23 and has been to iraq 3times now. he has 4more years left to serve so he could possibly return to iraq 4-12 more times. im starting to get worried about him. he is on his 3rd tour right now. i think he is starting to have problems with depression and anger, he is so hopeless about his future b/c of constant deployments i seriously think he needs some help but b/c he loves the army and what he does he will not seek help. he admits he is having problems but doesnt want to look like a pu*sy in front of men who have no problems and dont complain. im afraid the army is going to suck the life outta him and he eventually just let himself die, he is sooo loyal/proud of the army. is there anything he can do to get deployed less, 4 more times is ok but he cant do 8,12 more times without admitting he has problems?
2007-04-07 07:33:22 · 6 answers · asked by coffee g 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
why does everyone keep saying the army deploys for a yr?! he has never been there a whole yr. a lot r deployed 6,7months it obvously depends on their job.
2007-04-07 08:07:18 · update #1
Your boyfriend's only hope is for him to embrace God. Only when he sees that war is an immoral violation of God's law, and gets out of the military, will he find his sanity.
May God bless and keep you both.
2007-04-07 08:22:52 · answer #1 · answered by sudonym x 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Crap crap and more crap fed to you by Y/A military bushbots who sound like a Bush Public relations sign.
Contrary to people here telling you the army will insist your BF gets help, this is not true. They may get him minimal help, however, his mission in the field will take priority and if he's in the field how in the hell can he get psychological help?? It's like when the recruiter tells 11 Bravos they can go to school on the GI BIll if they join the army, thenthey later find out since they are constantly in the field they can't possibly logistically go to school.
Someone said in WWII they were deployed for the duration, this is true, however be real careful comparing Iraq to WWII since we like to compare it to WWII when it fits our argument but the other 100's of time it does not we want to dismiss the comparison. If you went to WWII in 1943 you were in combat for roughly 2 years, let's say you were there for 3 years, that's a hell of a lot better than getting re-rotated into combat continuously with no end in sight.
In the end your BF made his bed and now he has to suck it up and live or die with it. That's what the Bushbots here are not saying to you that they should be.
2007-04-07 09:10:33 · answer #2 · answered by huckleberry1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back in WWII, the men were deployed "for the duration".
No deployment is a vacation at Club Med,
but sure beats being stuck there for 4 years straight.
There is help available, have him go up the chain of command, and good luck.
2007-04-07 08:34:08 · answer #3 · answered by TedEx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
4 years left he might get deployed 2 more times since the army is gone for a year. they will see he has a problem and make him get help if it is as bad as you say. he needs to talk to his commanding officer they cant help him unless he admits to having a problem
2007-04-07 07:55:12 · answer #4 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first go to an army Champlain and talk to him. bring proof and what ever to support your knowledge. he will be able to guide you and get you started on what to do next. a lot of our boys and girls are in the same boat.....it is really a big problem. are you strong enough to stand by him to help get him through it? it may take a year or two and i would hate for you to make a decision and regret it later. you have to be very strong to get through this...he may say things that are not nice but you have to remember that this is not a permanent problem, you will cry and feel like you have lost him but hang in cuz he doesn't mean any of it. I can't express enough to hang in there...when the going gets tough the tough get going. May God bless your soldier and keep him safe. love, granny
2007-04-07 09:42:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to let him know that the Army has help for him. He is not a whimp. Many of the men he is serving with are going through the same thing.
No one will think less of him if he asks for help.
2007-04-07 07:53:01 · answer #6 · answered by Catherine B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋