if he loves me, why is he still going on a holiday with his gf? if he loves me, why do i feel neglected when he's back in town? i only feel *wanted* when he's far away from home and when he writes me letters.... if he does not love me, why does he still flirt with me? what should i do?
2007-04-07 06:56:41 · 19 answers · asked by counterculturalist 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You just gotta move on. It's hard sometimes, but so is a lot of life. Just remember if he's not the one for you there will be someone who is.
2007-04-07 15:15:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not get a man of your own. Your are nothing more than a "booty call" for this guy. What you should do, is stay away from men that are already taken. There are plenty of single men for you to get with. I have nothing nice to say about a woman that messes around with guys that are already involved with someone else. I am not going to sugar coat anything to make you feel better about doing it.If he breaks your heart, it is well deserved. Do the right thing and find a single man.
2007-04-07 14:09:21 · answer #2 · answered by BhitchyPrincess 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I too am an in love with a man who is taken... although he does not know and is just a really good friend.
This guy sounds like he likes to have his cake and eat it. He has a girlfriend, yet 'flirts' with you knowing full well how you feel? Get away from him, delete his number, get rid of every text, letter or card he has ever sent you, if he comes chasing, tell him you're too good for a man who thinks he's too good to be with just one girl. If you really want to get him back (depending on how much he's hurt you), tell his girlfriend what he's been up to - she should know the real him to be able to decide if she deserves better also.
Good luck!
2007-04-07 14:05:08 · answer #3 · answered by Kirralilly 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First off in the question you mention he is taken that should be a red falg right there that he is off limits he is playing the both of you. Really tell him that you do not want anything to do with a guy that would treat the other person like this in your life. He is a pig and should not be in a relationship with anyone until he figures out that one women is all you are allowed at one time!
2007-04-07 14:01:11 · answer #4 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He is using you. I would dump him and find some one else who will treat you nice and like you for what you are. I love this guy a lot but he says that he is in a relationship with someone else. I am hoping that the relationship he is in now does not work out because all of my friends say that he will finally realize that you are the one for him and the two of you are meant to be together.
2007-04-07 14:05:45 · answer #5 · answered by Heidi T 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Back away. I've been in a relationship were one person has pulled me away and it made me feel terrible, and I've also pulled someone out of a relationship and that made me feel terrible aswell. However, the relationship I'm in now was another case of me being pulled away from a guy, but I've been with the guy that pulled me a way for a year and a month now and we want to be together forever...Hmm...
He's unsure of who he wants to be with, obviously. See, when I left my boyfriend for my current one, I was done with the one I was with. He was doing no good for me and he was pressuring me- I didn't like it. But if he's not done with the girl he's with, he may regret leaving her if he goes with you, which happens a lot.
He wants what he can't have. Ever notice he only pays attention with you when he can't be in town with you? He only pays attention to you when he's on a holiday with his girlfriend? I say drop this guy, and if he really does have more feelings for you, he'll leave the girl he's with now. But if he doesn't find you important enough to pursue now, he shouldn't be important to you either.
2007-04-07 14:04:50 · answer #6 · answered by msxcheshirexcat 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
if hes got a girl friend then flirting with him is not a good idea but you cant stop him from flirting with you. i no there is no way of controling your feelings and you cant stop yourself from falling in love but while hes got a girlfriend there is nothing you can do.
If you have to do somthing try sitting down and talking to him find out for sure about his feelings for you and make sure that your not just picking up the wrong signals from him.
whatever happens i wish you good luck!
2007-04-07 14:11:06 · answer #7 · answered by chimpapple 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
honestly i think he likes the idea of you always being there as a backup, i dont think he truly loves you but since he can see that he can string you along he will do that your best bet is to just give up and move on find someone who will truly value you
2007-04-07 14:01:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh my giddy aunt how old are you? of cource he doesn't love you he probably thinks of you as a distraction , something to amuse himself with when he has nothing better to do. Get a life!
2007-04-07 14:12:17 · answer #9 · answered by Mo 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he is already taken, it does not bode well for you to keep longing for him. There are plenty of other good men out there, searching to find YOU. You just need to find them.
2007-04-07 14:00:08 · answer #10 · answered by Kerry 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋