We ( my husband and I ) can't afford to fly to their homes all the time and I work so I cannot take the time off work.....But we hate spending holidays alone...Any Recommendations? What do other couples do?
2007-04-07 05:44:16 · 20 answers · asked by calming 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
this situation always makes holidays less than perfect. I am in a similar situation and I sympathize with you very much. the only way to deal with this is to phone them all. This is what we do and it is about as good as you can get it under the circumstances. Rather than dwelling on the absence of your children, try enjoying each other 's company on the holiday, and together look forward to talking to each of your children. Happy Easter!!
2007-04-07 05:52:31 · answer #1 · answered by al b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why not trying to make your own traditions. Yes I know family is important, and it's wonderful to share time with them, but when money constraints and time off of work do not workout, then I might suggest that you and your husband start in on your own tradition, perhaps, a nice brunch out somewhere, sightsee different areas, plan a day trip somewhere, maybe even take in a bed and breakfast place, These are just some suggestions, I hope they help, Take care, and good luck.
2007-04-07 05:56:10 · answer #2 · answered by Cindybear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is common with adults who have grown children.
It's time to start thinking of your marriage, as you did before the "kids" came along. You didn't have any trouble thinking of what the two of you would like to do then , so now you have to go back.
We had a tradition to drive to San Francisco for the Day After New Years..when the streets are littered with calendars..Its so quiet that day and beautiful.
Find your own pleasure, and if the kids want to have you, they will pool their resources and fly you both to their homes!
2007-04-07 05:54:00 · answer #3 · answered by Eartha Q 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We artwork flat out and are prepared to do what it takes to furnish for our babies. If i attempted to positioned my little ones in daycare and were given my hair, nails, and different junk finished for all time then i does no longer be able to locate the money for them. fairly, we stay interior our means and do not spend like there is not any day after today. We plan and keep and with any success are preparation our babies the price of exertions! Now i does no longer have 10 little ones, yet we are about to have our fourth and we do fairly properly. My husband makes an outstanding residing, and has an outstanding career and we be certain you tell the babies that the in simple terms reason we are able to stay like we do is via creating certain we went to varsity and dealing not basic each and on a daily basis.
2016-11-27 01:18:18 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom lives in Florida and I live in ohio. I have not spent Christmas in florida in five years. Travel is more expensive at the holidays and it is also hard to get days off. This year my fiance and I went to florida in January. I purchased two round trip plane tickets for 300$. When I was there my brothers who live there and my mom had a big dinner, exchanged gifts etc. So it was christmas but just not on december 25th. What has really helped is knowing that christmas is in your heart not on any one paticular day.
2007-04-07 06:01:54 · answer #5 · answered by celticpixie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WEBCAMS! Digital Photography! Digital Videos .. you know, the things that are available now! I just enjoy taking Digital Images and sending them to my siblings ..
You know what ... I'm a recent Empty-Nesting Single Retiree ... and I am having LOADS of fun EXPLORING the Local Area, enjoying sitting down to relax IN MY HOME (Something that I was NOT able to do as a single parent!), going around to local events, getting in my car for day trips, going to museums, and yes, going BACK To College once again and LEARNING ANEW -- and enjoying the classes (I'm taking Website Design and Digital Imaging/Photography Courses -- LOADS of fun!).
SUCH a pleasure to FINALLY be free to enjoy life and what I've EARNED through MY Hard Work .. and that is the POINT! (It is not that I don't have feelings for the children -- but really -- after all those years of sacrificing everything for them ... I WANT to learn and explore and find out what will let me be MUCH happier inside and not so stressed!)
2007-04-07 06:01:03 · answer #6 · answered by sglmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what you can to feel good...but for my family we make it home when we can and my mom just has come to the realization that Christmas is celebrated when the family can be together...not because it is Christmas time...or whatever holiday you are referring to.
as far as being alone...i am sure you have friends you can spend the holidays with. and if your friends are like mine then you are practically family anyway.
2007-04-07 05:50:00 · answer #7 · answered by abbie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a shelter or other entity that serves meals to the homeless and nearly-homeless and volunteer a few hours of your time.
Do it in honor of your faraway children and remember that even though you're sad that you can't be with your kids, that you're making the day a little brighter for the people you're serving.
2007-04-07 05:51:59 · answer #8 · answered by Elizabeth 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call ..it's the next best thing to being there . Put a webcam on your computer and get together that way . Next year , save all year and plan early if you want to take a trip . There's always Greyhound .
2007-04-07 05:48:20 · answer #9 · answered by missmayzie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you could start a lil "family fund" ya know like save all your change or something for 1 hole year you'd be surprised how much money you would have and then for one holiday a year you could go see one of them each year on whichever holiday you choose or you could send one of them the money so that they could fly to see you... just a suggestion hope it helps...
2007-04-07 05:54:06 · answer #10 · answered by korn_chk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋