i have a boyfriend and we love each other a lot, but he said that he would break up with me if we dont have sex. i dont know if ui should have sex or not. help me!
2007-04-07 05:30:31 · 25 answers · asked by Angela A 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It certainly doesn't sound like he loves you. If he did, he would not be pressuring you into something you are not ready for. Guys use that ploy all the time. Don't fall for it. Sex is something that requires a great deal of maturity to deal with. Many teens find that out the hard way. Sex changes everything.
Let this guy break up with you. Move on. You will find someone else who respects you and respects your choices.
I can almost promise you that if you and your boyfriend had sex, the relationship would end shortly after. Why? It's simple...he got what he wanted. You will not only lose your virginity (something you can only give once) but also your self respect.
You didn't say how old you are but it seems that you are pretty young (teenager?).
Wait until you are ready. Don't give into the pressure. If I had to do it all over again, I would have waited. I was not ready for the emotional impact that having sex so young would have on me (I was 16 but that was a long time ago). I was not mature enough to handle it. You have plenty of time.
2007-04-07 05:42:27 · answer #1 · answered by emt_me911 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend tell you he will break up with you if you don't have sex with him, well he isn't much of a bf. He is an idiot who wants to have sex with you and then drop you like a rock once he gets what he wants. If he loves you as much as he says he does sex shouldn't be a factor. But if you decide to ahve sex with this Jack A*S*S then make sure he wears a condom. But knowing him he will not agree to wear one because it doesn't feel good, and if he tells you that then ask him how do you know that? But I would just get a bf who will love you for you and not put pressure on you to do something youd on't want to do. SO be carefull.
2007-04-07 05:40:47 · answer #2 · answered by John S 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is a liar. If he loved you he would never ever say that to you and no its not the answer. DO NOT let anyone tell you differently. Obviously you are not ready to have sex and should not feel pressured into doing this. Hold off until you find someone who you are sure you want to have sex with and it is your decision not one made because you did not want to lose a guy. It's not worth it and he is only using you.
2007-04-07 05:35:33 · answer #3 · answered by bbinqueens33 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How do I put this?
You should never and I mean NEVER let anybody make you do what you are not comfortable doing especialy if this person is your boyfriend. You should take another look into your relationship and see why you two are really together. If it's because you both think that you are made for eachother, then he wont break up with for this stupid reason.
2007-04-07 05:45:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie never feel intimidated to have sex with anyone! This guy is obviously an @sshole and does not deserve to be with you.And as far as love you,I doubt he understands the meaning of the word!If he needs to "love " someone tell him to get a bottle of lotion and go "love" himself! You dont need to be pressured into something you might regret later.God has made someone for you that will love you and respect you for who you are and will not put stipulations or requirements for his love for you.My advice...ace the loser! there is someone out there just waiting for you to find them! Good luck hun,and God bless! C.
2007-04-07 05:41:42 · answer #5 · answered by chris w 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Newsflash, any guy who gives you an ultimatum on sex "Have sex or I walk." doesn't respect you or your relationship. Sit down and have a talk with him. Tell him how you like him a lot, but don't want to keep feeling pressured.
If he continues to pressure you, "If you loved me, you'd do this." dump him. If HE loved you, he wouldn't pressure you into doing something you didn't feel comfortable doing.
2007-04-07 05:36:49 · answer #6 · answered by doglover12789 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way! Never feel pressured to have sex. Thats a big step, that u should only take when and if YOU are ready! Do not let him pressure you into anything, you will only end up regretting it and most probably breaking up. If he truly loves you, he will wait till you are ready.....if not......HE IS NOT WORTH STAYING WITH...YOU DESERVE MORE!
2007-04-07 05:40:33 · answer #7 · answered by SaZ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If all he wants is sex to be with you then kick him to the curve and move on.Do not give your body to anyone until you are ready.People will use you until they get what they want and then they will dump you and tell the world that they got your booty.If you give in to his wants,you will feel used and wonder why you did that.Remember there is pleaty of time for sex,and if you are not ready DO NOT DO IT,
2007-04-07 05:40:07 · answer #8 · answered by junior1108 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex may be HIS answer, but someone who loves you would not be giving you ultimatums! When he says 'if you love me ,you would'....you counter with..'and if YOU loved me, you wouldn't ask'. Stand your ground...a lot of boys tend to leave once they get the 'prize'. It is okay to say 'no', and to set limits. If he can't see this, then he isn't mature enough to handle the complexities of a sexual relationship.
2007-04-07 05:45:27 · answer #9 · answered by territizzyb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Angela A
NO !!!!!!!!!! You should not have sex with him . If he truly cares about you , sex would not be an issue . Do not be used , he has nothing to loose , but you do .
He couldn't love you that much if he expects you to have sex . Life doesn't revolve around sex .
2007-04-07 05:37:31 · answer #10 · answered by dolores h 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋