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My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 months, and recently his mom looked through his cell phone and all his text messages, what we had been talking about wasn't very appropriate and she read all of it. It was something you would never want your mother to read and was totally embarassing. She got very upset and now she doesn't like me at all. I'm really sorry that we even talked about what we did and I completely regret it and I wish that she would like me again because that's very important to me but I don't know what to do!

2007-04-07 05:21:49 · 19 answers · asked by eleanor rigby 3 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

19 answers

Has she told you that she does not like you anymore? She might just be shocked at what she read. If your boyfriend still likes you then half the battle is won. Tell him that you feel bad that his mother's feelings for you have changed since she read his text messages. Ask him to feel her out about her deep down feelings, and if there is anything that you can do to change her mind about you. I guess Mother's don't like to think about their children knowing anything about sex or talking explicitly about it. I think she just needs some time to come to grips with it. Tough it out.
Peace

2007-04-07 05:31:50 · answer #1 · answered by MissUnderstood 4 · 0 0

You have nothing to be ashamed of, she does. She invaded his privacy. Unless what you were discussing was illegal or seriously immoral, I wouldn't worry about it.

If you feel it would help, apologize to her but make it clear that was private communication and you never imagined anyone would ever see it...just as if it had been a verbal conversation and the words were gone right after they were said. Let her know you are still the same person as prior to her reading those messages and you feel bad that she sees you differently now.

Perhaps if you open the lines of communication, she'll talk to you and y'all can work it out. She was young once, surely she can remember some of the things she said/did that she wouldn't have wanted anyone else to know about.

2007-04-07 12:27:53 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 0 0

i know exactly what you mean.........

when you see her it feels like she has a invisible rifle pointed at you..and that you just dont belong there.

,my advice to you would be to go over there in person......and apologize for what she read.........
let her know that you know what was said was very inappropriate and it was a one time thing.

as for your boyfriend...HOW DARE HE LET HIS MOTHER GET A HOLD OF THE PHONE THAT HAD THOSE MSGS???????

you need to talk to him as well and let him know that his mother dont like you cause of him!

even though it was the both of you who had sent the msgs back and forth..........because he allowed the msgs to be viewed( even if his mother slapped him and had to pry it out of his hands) it is still cause of him...those MSGS were read!

i would say before you make any arrangement you should try to get an apology out of you BF .............

good luck to you and i wish you the best!


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2007-04-07 12:34:37 · answer #3 · answered by bRoWn eYeD BuTTeRfLy®210~TX 6 · 0 0

Be up-front and adult about it...apologize to her for being improper, but keep in mind, she should not be snooping (don't tell her that!, she already knows that too) Actions speak louder than words, so make sure that all your future actions are above reproach. Time will heal the rift.

2007-04-07 12:33:36 · answer #4 · answered by territizzyb 3 · 0 0

Send her a card, and tell her that you apologize, that you had no idea that any one would be reading, your boyfriends messages but him. Say I am sorry, I hope that you can find it in your heart to forgive me!

2007-04-07 12:28:47 · answer #5 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0 0

Maybe you should talk to her one on one sometimes that will break the ice. What have you got to lose. I am a mother so I know its hard for you to talk to us older people.. you feel intimated, but we are just like you and sometimes thats all it takes. Talk,talk and more talk.

2007-04-07 12:25:48 · answer #6 · answered by jeannie f 4 · 1 1

Tell her that you were only saying those things because your son said he wanted to be gay.

She will invite you over to come over and sleep with him any time

Mark Burnett
author GirlsTellAll.com

2007-04-07 12:37:40 · answer #7 · answered by GirlsTellAll.com 3 · 0 0

But it's more important that your boyfriend likes you. And I think if he really likes you, he'll like you even if his mom doesn't. I wouldn't worry about her if I were you...

2007-04-07 12:33:39 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Ms. Heart♥ 5 · 0 0

Let her know you love her son and that you don't care what she tries to do to break the love you will still love her son. If thats how you feel.

2007-04-07 12:28:20 · answer #9 · answered by Natasha G 2 · 0 0

the answer to all our problems is the menage a trois. she's probably jealous that you're doing all those things to her son and not her, so to keep the peace, might as well do it to her. then she'll really love you.

2007-04-07 12:28:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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