I have custody of my liltle brother because my parents died.Hunter doesnt listen to my husband at all sould he be aloud to spank him?
2007-04-07 05:06:53 · 30 answers · asked by katlyn b 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Heis 6 yrs old he respects me and he knows that i will spank .But is it ok for my husband to.The other day Hunter told my husband to shut up he just doesnt have respect for him.
2007-04-07 06:13:21 · update #1
clinton took hunter out for a guy night hopefully tha will help hunter to respect him more.Im glad clinton tryingto bond with hunter.
2007-04-07 08:18:44 · update #2
YES, OF COURSE!, you and your husband are his parential figures, you act like them, he should respect you like them. reguardless if he is your brother or not, he is the child, you and hubby are the adults. he should not be aloud to choose who he listens to as a child. if he gets away with it, odds are he will be at work one day and try to pick and choose which boss he wants to listen to, where will that get him? pull the leash tight now while you have the chance.
good luck!
2007-04-07 07:37:39 · answer #1 · answered by willtrade649 3 · 4⤊ 2⤋
If you are raising a child, teaching him to respect parents and rules are important. How you'd achieve this is up to you (the parents)
As long as he is not hurt, injured, leaving marks, etc, spanking is an accepted form of punishment. Most pain that comes from spanking comes from fear of pain, not the actual pain, anyway.
By the way, you should always try to reason with him first. Because of this fear factor, using it too often will lose its effectiveness. Also, be sure that your husband is controlling his force and emotion in check while he does this. Overly aggressive spanking will hurt your child and might even teach him that violence as a solution to problem.
I know it's a fine line.... yet, you guys signed up for it.
2007-04-07 05:19:19 · answer #2 · answered by tkquestion 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Your husband is now for all intents and purposes this boys custodial parent/father figure. However, being that he is your sibling and your responsibility, its YOUR call how this child should be disciplined and who should administer the discipline. Personally, I think I would probably prefer to be the disciplinarian for the sole purpose of giving the child and your husband a chance to get to know and like each other. I don't see him coming around to liking your husband if he's constantly spanking him.
2007-04-07 05:24:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
how old is hunter? if hunter is over 9, u should not spank him. he is old enough to understand things. take away his electronic games or cell phone or disconnect the tv or other thing he really likes until he listens.
if he is small, a spank on the butt will show him who is in charge.
he probably misses your parents so much, so maybe u guys should sit down and talk about how much u miss them and how u both wish they were still here.
2007-04-07 05:10:18 · answer #4 · answered by Miki 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Is Hunter is counseling to deal with the death of his parents and the fact that his sister is now for all intense purposes his mother? This could be a major reason he is acting out or being defiant. Maybe he is just having a hard time dealing with things regardless of his age. Good Luck and bless you for caring for him.
2007-04-07 05:53:36 · answer #5 · answered by proud2btysmom 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I', sorry for your lost , sometime you could talk to a child are put them on time out are give them exert thing to do around the house, let this be the last thing on your mind unless he do something unforgivable very bad, a good talking to is better then a spanking are he need att, because it might be hard for him to expected that mom and dad is gone this is not easy for him and try to understand his little feeling work with him
2007-04-07 05:21:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
What were you going to be called if you were a boy?
2017-03-05 21:13:03 · answer #7 · answered by Beverly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, spanking is something that people want to do when they've lost control. If he is doing something that is absolutely driving you crazy just walk away but tell him first that he has really upset you and that you will be right back to discuss it further (with this you are also teaching him to control his own temper). Sometimes we feel like we have to react right then and that makes us feel like over powering the situation but that is only a temporary fix and may make hunter resort to the same type of physical behaviour. I have cared for many children and it seems that they relax and actually behave better in the long run after I have looked them straight in the eye and said things like "I will never spank you." and one time I had a couple of children ask if I was going to cuss them and I said "I will never cuss you." Those children are so good for me and when they ocassionally use words that I find disrespectful I am able to remind them that I am not disrespectful to them and they are not to be with me either.
Good Luck to you. You are doing a wonderful thing, taking your brother in.
2007-04-07 05:23:40 · answer #8 · answered by Not Laughing w/ U 3 · 2⤊ 4⤋
As a parent of 3 I only approve of age appropriate spanking
say 6 or younger . If he is older I`d say to start by taking
privileges ( PlayStation TV limiting play time).
If you do have to spank tell the child why he is being spanked
and how many swat he will receive.
Then explain to him that you love him and need him to follow
instructions
2007-04-07 05:16:16 · answer #9 · answered by Henry J 3 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Hunter's world has been shattered. He needs counseling, but he also needs consistent discipline in your home, from both of his "parents". I couldn't bear to hit a child who's been through what he has, but there are other forms of discipline. At six he should be able to understand what is expected from him and what is unacceptable, and the consequences of both. Family counseling by all means.
2007-04-07 07:23:19 · answer #10 · answered by Patsy A 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes that is the only way to make them behave when they wont listen. There is a difference between spanking and abuse, and a fine line between the two, so be careful.
2007-04-07 05:11:07 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋