when she first told me she said one person was the father, a week later she said she did'nt know who the father was; now she does'nt want to talk to anyone because people are less than thrilled with the situation. she;s 21yrs and single. i don't talk to most of my family (father and stepmonster, and my brothers) because of things she's done in the past . i was the only person that tried to tell her the things she did'nt want to hear about how hard it would be. Her grandparents just outright said they disowned her. after these things happened she wont talk to me anymore, but i found out she's talking to the grandparents. should i just wait for her to come around (she's due in august) even though she's burned me many times with her lies; and broken-up me with my family, or should i get a-hold of her?
2007-04-07 05:02:39 · 13 answers · asked by Janet C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think your daughter knows how to play you all. She is 21 years old you know shes not a little girl anymore and if you allow her to make you feel this way, you are going to be stuck. Give her time and please dont give in to her games. Time will tell if she wants you in her life. Give her the space she needs. Its very hard to give advice on this when really we dont know the whole story.
2007-04-07 05:08:37 · answer #1 · answered by jeannie f 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a hold of her and do it now!!
She is 21;a legal adult. I can understand about the evil of pregnancy, and it is always aimed at the only one who has your back. I would let her know in no uncertain terms that I am the one that she has to depend upon and if I got up and put her evil behind out she would be worse off than she is now. Lay down some rules and stick with them. You don't owe her anything and she is working you like a mule. I would not put up with her mess. If she has told lies about you in the past she will continue to do so once this child is born. It seems that this is her personality, preggers or not. August is a long time down the road. Make her confront the father and make her go get some sort of financial assistance and a place to live even if it is a room. If she complains that all the places are not acceptable tell her the son of GOD was born in a barn!! Hold your ground and it will help you with your sanity. If she is talking to the grandparents that claimed to have disowned her, then you can bet she is setting you up for a doozy. Maybe they will take her in and you will have some peace in your home.
2007-04-07 13:42:29 · answer #2 · answered by MissUnderstood 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sorry to hear how bad she is but if she really is pregnant, she will need a friend maybe that's why she's going to the grandparents. But if I was you I would go to there when she's there and talk with her and tell her she can count on you and open the lines of communication so that the family can go on. But without communication it will always be this bad. So just talk with her and remember that she's an adult now and doesn't have to listen to you anymore so when you chat with her give her more advice than a lecture.
2007-04-07 12:09:24 · answer #3 · answered by John S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should get hold of her. No matter what she's your daughter and you understand her better than the rest of the family. You've given up such family because of her. Now, the more. She has nobody and she's confused. You are the only person who will be able to understand her. Try to win her again and be patient. If by all means you have extended your support and wasn't appreciated, at least you act being her mother.
2007-04-07 12:30:17 · answer #4 · answered by angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like there is a lot of pain there. Sounds like also your daughter needs someone to have a nice chat with her. The biggest thing for your daughter that you can do is pray for her. I think you need to pray for your family too. When a family member is in a crisis. You don't "disown" them. Your daughter needs her family more than ever. Change gonna come and that is what you hope for and believe.
Good luck.............
2007-04-07 12:14:56 · answer #5 · answered by operationspiritlift 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would contact her. Pregnancy is difficult - especially when you are alone. I understand you are less than thrilled with the situation but it's happened, it's here and it's time to handle it. She may have done some wrong things before, but you need to forgive her. She needs someone on her side - someone who can give guidance and support. You're her mom... that's your job.
2007-04-07 12:27:03 · answer #6 · answered by *Just Married* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one should put down this girl while she is pregnant,worst thing anyone can do to her and the baby,they need to be there for her so she can have a healthy pregnancy,and then work out there problems,Everyone makes mistakes and you have to deal with it as best as possible,not be out to hurt someone that you have loved all your life until they make a mistake in life,be there and give them love.
2007-04-07 12:10:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you her mom no matter what she loves you she is goin thorw a hard time being prgnat is not great and well if she think one man is the father or another she should get a dna test well no matter how many time this happens they cant do much they are still your family no matter what i am not shure what els to say on this matter only that no matter what happens she is you duaghter and your family is your family.
2007-04-07 12:10:31 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit back and do nothing. She's "broken-up with me and my family". I know she's your daughter, and she's in a difficult situation, but she's an ADULT. She has made some bad decisions, let her face them like an adult. If she needs help, she'll come to you.
2007-04-07 12:10:07 · answer #9 · answered by RepoMan18 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been where you are, and i feel for you.
the only thing you can do is wait it out she will
come to you when shes ready. i know its hard shes
your baby haveing a baby. and let her know u are
not mad and that u will be there for her no matter what.
my daughter called me when she was in the hospital and
i got to see my granddaughter being born, that brought us
closer together.
2007-04-07 12:41:17 · answer #10 · answered by tammy g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋