I'm fine when I'm at work, but the weekends I just feel totally down, and now I have a week of work for Easter its going to be a nightmare, I'm not sure if its depression because as I say I feel 100% at work, maybe its because I haven't got any friends outside work (Well apart from my wife)
Sure I've tried to keep busy at the weekends by going shopping, going for walks etc but it doesn't do any good, I just feel fed up.
Since I got married I;ve lost my mates, they've moved away etc and we don't keep in touch, could it be lack of friends doing this.
Any ideas appreciated
2007-04-07 04:55:25 · 16 answers · asked by danny d 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Maybe you are quite a driven person who likes to work because you have an aim or an end goal as it were. Some people don't have the mind set to just wander about aimlessly without an eventual goal. That probably isn't depression, you merely have a different attitude to other people.
You would probably suit a hobby/ activity where you are constantly having to plan ahead, react quickly, always learning etc. And you would meet like minded people who do the activity for the same reason you do. You would probably suit rock climbing or sailing. Steep learning curve, have to keep focused etc. Leisure time needn't be depressing or futile, just find the things that suit your personality.
Good luck.
2007-04-07 05:03:12 · answer #1 · answered by meynell35 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's depression and the only reason you feel it on the weekends is that because on weekdays, you are burying yourself in your work. It doesn't mean your emotions/pain aren't there; you're just not paying attention to them. Then when you get idle time, it's easier for those emotions to come to the surface. I personally don't think it's a bad thing that you forget when you work...it doesn't sound like you're a workaholic and it's a healthy outlet for your emotions. Most psychiatrists tell depressed people to make themselves busy, find a job, etc. So you working and feeling OK during the week is a lot better than feeling sad all the time. However, you really should seek some couseling or at least think about what it is in your life that is making you feel fed up or down in any other way. You can't run away from your problems. THe sooner you acknowledge them and start to deal with them, the less they will build up and become overwhelming. In the meantime, try to get out and make new friends. I wish you the best of luck.
2007-04-07 05:07:52 · answer #2 · answered by girlie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may as you state, be simply lonely. Sometimes you can be surrounded by people but still suffer from lonelyness.
Maybe you could make an effort to get to know some people at work and perhaps invite them over during the weekend.
Do things for yourself perhaps, go out and enjoy stuff independantly, this can often help you overcome lonelyness because it teaches you it's perfectly fine to spend time with yourself.
Work is also a stimulating invironment, maybe the weekend is just not challenging or interesting enough. Maybe you could challenge yourself to do something different every week or two weeks.
If all else fails, go and see your doctor and they may be able to figure out why you are feeling down. If you are in winter at the moment, you may be feeling down because of lack of sun. this is called SAD (seasonal affective disorder).
2007-04-07 05:07:08 · answer #3 · answered by ♪ Rachel ♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be mild depression. But More than Likely it is the lack of a social outlet. For some people they like to stay home during the weekends and relax. while others feel the need to go out and have fun with friends. You sound like the ladder, you should try to make some friends with the same interests as you. if you like to go to games invite a co-worker that you know enjoys sports as well to catch a game with you one weekend. If you enjoy plays invite a few coworkers to join you and your wife to a show. and so on. eventually not only will you have things to do on the weekends, you will also have friends at and away from the office.
Good Luck
2007-04-07 05:05:38 · answer #4 · answered by Randi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like when your at work your fine because your mind is occuppied and your are around your peers. Maybe you should find a hobby like, going to the gym, golf, bowling, something like that, I personally am into MMA. Ive heard that when you exercise it releases chemicals in your brain that help with depression. I have met a bunch of new friends from the gym, and not only do I feel better physically but mentally also. This works for me, but what ever you do it should be something that you really enjoy. Something else you could do is maybe you and your wife could find another couple to hang out with, club, dinner, movie that sort of thing. Just try and keep yourself occupied by doing things with other people.
Hope this helps.
2007-04-07 05:17:30 · answer #5 · answered by IIIxKrazy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Evaluate your relationship with your wife. She should be your best friend. Talk this over with your wife about how you are feeling down. Hopefully she is supportive and both of you together should be able to come up with something you all both can do on the weekends to have fun together. Also your male co-workers, plan some men stuff with them on the weekend. It seems like that's missing in your life. My husband and I do everything together sports events included. Some men need male companionship and some don't.
2007-04-07 05:39:32 · answer #6 · answered by sharon s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have worked so much you can't appreciate time off work, for yourself. Learn to relax. What sports can you get yourself and your wife involve in? Lawn tennis, table tennis? Squash is a good way of getting rid of the stress, and boredom. Did I also detected a sense of lose of your friends with since you got married? Try and find out what you both enjoy and find out about other couple who enjoy the same past-time as yourselves. Do you remember how you used to make friends so easily as a child well. that magic is still there even as we become adults, you just need to tap it in. Remember that you also need to call others to find out about the old friends and let them know that they still matters. Invite them over and make time to visit others. Go on holiday in Africa, to Egypt, cruising the Nile, Get yourself involve in charity, join clubs which encourage meetings once a week or so. Instead of going shopping and acquiring more material things, find out who needs help in your neighbourhood and lend a hand.
2007-04-10 12:26:27 · answer #7 · answered by mothergoose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depression often feels like no matter what you do, you are unable to feel happy doing the things that you would normally enjoy. It sounds to me like you are bored and lonely. You need some friends other than your wife, not that there's anything wrong with your wife, but it is hard for one person to be able so satisfy all of your social needs.
2007-04-07 05:04:22 · answer #8 · answered by Simmy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's Boredom, u can go out with ur wife and have fun, u can go to cinema,restaurant or a park for example, u can also do the things that interests u in ur holidays, reading a book that u like for example, you can also join a club and find new friends.
2007-04-07 05:10:43 · answer #9 · answered by Hermione 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps your feeling a little isolated with just your wife for company. Why not call up your old pals and arrange to go see them or have them over to you, I'm sure they would be pleased to hear from you. What stuff are you interested in? Sports/Hobbies etc. What about visiting family? Having them over. x
2007-04-07 10:32:11 · answer #10 · answered by farleyjackmaster 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋