2007-04-07 04:17:14 · 12 answers · asked by foxxybabe0430 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Try to find out why he would rather be in his room and work from there.
2007-04-07 04:19:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he have a computer/tv in there? If so, maybe bring it out into a more communial area. That way he's not being forced to interact with the family, but at least he is nearby and can hear conversations that might get him interested? Encourage him to share his opinions?
You could also maybe try making a deal with him. You won't bother him about spending time in his room if he agrees to spend some time with the family. Like an hour for an hour - he stays with you guys for an hour and in return gets an hour in his room uninterupted.
Does he have younger siblings? If so, you should maybe explain to them that he needs his own space and privacy for some time, but make sure he can hear you perfectly as you explain it so he understands that you're ok with him having his own space and then it won't feel like such an "attack" when you ask him to be with the rest of the family for a little while.
2007-04-07 11:27:00 · answer #2 · answered by esmall 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take away his computer \ tv and put it in a neutral place, like the living room or the study.
Just ask him to come and help you with stuff you know he will enjoy(and which all of you can do together as a family) - gardening , washing the family car , rent his fav DVDs , play board games , etc. Take a vacation to some place if you can afford the time. And most importantly - when he is around all of you, DON'T ignore him - indulge him in whatever you do - no matter how petite the work is. Constantly talk to him, don't let him get bored.
2007-04-07 11:29:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a stage he is going through. the more you make him come out of his room, the more he will want to be there. If he isn't in his room and spends time with the family when he doesn't want to, he will make everyones life miserable. It's best to leave him be and eventually he will come out on his own. I don't know of any teenager that doesn't like being in their room. Just give him some space and eventually he will come around.
2007-04-07 11:51:34 · answer #4 · answered by cee cee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does your family do sit down table dinners at night? Do you enjoy speaking to each other? Are most of you in a "rush" to get some where?
Outside of taking things "away" from your son for reasons to be with the family, maybe consider a board game night as opposed to an electronic gadget. If his room is set up with TV, phone, computer, etc., there is no wonder why he would want to spend more time with the family.
Sit back and consider the "bigger" family picture before you take anything away and decide to alienate him further.
Best of luck to you and your family!
2007-04-07 11:25:59 · answer #5 · answered by Gerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's normal. try to find an activity your son will jump at and do it as a family. movie, beach,biking,skateboarding. yes , you will have to include his favorite activity once in a while. dont try to hard or to fast, the worst thing you could do is pressure the boy. it's a difficult time for him, torn between wanting to be a man but still being viewed as a child. some alone time in the room is fine and should not be viewed as wrong or strange by you. if all else fails take the kid on a camping trip, it always works.
2007-04-07 11:26:55 · answer #6 · answered by dredead1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I plan things outside the home and make them go. My daughter gets very upset with me at first, but by the time we are where we are going, she comes around. Teenagers are becoming adults and needing our constant attention less and less, but if we can catch a few moments and make a difference, I think that is important.
2007-04-07 11:29:09 · answer #7 · answered by A B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hahahahha, ur funny. becuz the answer to that is u cant.im almost a teenager and the last thing i want to do is go spend time with family, i just want people to stay out of my face. give him room. especially if hes a guy!?!?
2007-04-07 11:20:31 · answer #8 · answered by Calia w 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
if he has a computer or a tv or any electronic that he has in his room then take it out and put it downstairz
trust me i would no my brothers like that cuz we just moved and like we hate this town so we r home alot more then we used to be
if u take is electronics out then he will have nothin to do in his roomm so hell come out more
2007-04-07 11:23:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out whatever he likes in his room and take it away.
2007-04-07 11:21:50 · answer #10 · answered by Naruto #1 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋