i'm in love with a guy and he says he loves me back but everytime we get together he bails out n hurts me. He cheated on me but i still took him back. he also said he quit drinking and smoking but turns out he didn't. but thats not the half of it two of my really good friends dated him and told me not to go out with him n to cut off any form of communication with him. i was told not to forgive him by my friends should i listen to them for once lol???
2007-04-07 02:18:42 · 16 answers · asked by chloe w 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you should listen to your friends and do timmy
2007-04-07 02:22:32 · answer #1 · answered by Timmy!!!! 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
So, you're in love with a guy who bails, hurts and cheats on you...it seems that you have a different definition of love from others and I don't know how you do it...this relationship isn't worth pursuing for....yea, you ought to forgive but that doesn't mean you need to cut off any form of communication with him
Be with a guy who loves you...
2007-04-07 09:28:17 · answer #2 · answered by superb2dmax 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out of love with this loser. Do you like getting hurt??? You just said it yourself......he cheated on you. You don't think he'll do it again? Its obvious this jerk doesn't have any regards to your feelings by bailing out when yall get together. Come on sweety. Think about it.
Listen, there are other guys out there. One of them will treat you like gold. One of them will NOT hurt you. One of them will treat you with respect and always put you first. One of them won't cheat on you. I guess some people like getting hurt and disappointed and stabbed in the back. I know I'm not one of them.
Also --- this day and age....there are way too many diseases out there and honey -- if he cheated on you before, he'll cheat on you again and pray he doesn't give you a disease.
YES - listen to your friends. And its weird that two of your friends dated him before and then you gonna turn around and date him.....yall swapping men or what? And if they're trying to tell you no.......its for a reason.
Thats on you though honey, whether you realize you deserve better (or not). Good luck.
2007-04-07 09:29:16 · answer #3 · answered by apache_lizz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heey,well dear,I think you already know the answer but you just cant do it.Its obvious you shoudl leave him.In fact even your friends say that you should leave him.Love is blind I believe that,but this is a one-sided love that hurts you.He lies to you and cheats to you and probably he says i love you to you but doesnt mean it.I think you're a nice to person to be able to still love him and take him back despite all the things he's done.But I think you deserve to be happy,you deserve to have someone to love you back not someone who hurts you like this guy.I think you should cut this relationship because all this relationship gives you nothing but heartache and misery.Do yourself a favor,get rid off him and be happy.There are lots of guys out there who are way better and considerate than this guy.
Gud luck!=)
2007-04-07 09:29:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should listen to your gut instincts. It sounds like he isn't what you really want in a guy. He doesn't sound like he has what you are looking for in a real relationship.
You sound like you want someone you can count on, someone who is honest and can communicate. He doesn't sound like any of those things.
Think about what you really like in this guy. Do you really like this guy, or do you really like what you want him to BE.?
If I were you, I would end it and move on so that you will be open to the guy that God has in store for you. I have always said that you have to have honesty and open communication in every relationship, or you do not have a true relationship.
Trust your gut instincts and let him go and open yourself up to let someone wonderful into your life. You will feel free and you will probably wish you had done it sooner. Hugs to you. You deserve much better. Once you let him go, you will be able to let someone new into your life that you really deserve. Best wishes to you. My prayer for you is for strength, wisdom, and many many days of happiness.
2007-04-07 09:26:03 · answer #5 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you certainly know the answers to these questions and it seems you're just wanting your thoughts and felings validated..
sooo...Yes, move on, you're better and smarter than this...and so are your friends..(except maybe the two that dated(screwed him) ...that's why they call them friends..not enemies, right?
oh, and forgive, but never forget the lessons learned...this is how you move on and above these kind of mentally and emotionally damaging situations...
2007-04-07 09:26:03 · answer #6 · answered by simon07 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should listen to your friends. This doesn't sound like you have a romeo in your hand (or atleast a romeo with only you in head and someone who can keep up promises)
2007-04-07 09:24:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was going to answer this until I saw lol (Laughing out loud?)
So this is just a joke.
2007-04-07 09:26:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're "IN LOVE" with a guy who hurts & cheats on you? Think about that for a minute and !!!!GET REAL!!!!!
2007-04-07 09:28:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello helen! your two good friends dated him? how do you know they don't just want him for themselves? however this guy is trouble so for this one time i would listen to them
2007-04-07 09:23:26 · answer #10 · answered by C.W. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like he's not for real. tell him you don't want to waste your time on him. if you really mean alot to him, he will protest and do what he can to win you over. don't give in too easily. you need to be convinced that he means it.
2007-04-07 09:24:58 · answer #11 · answered by smethansmee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋