Ok, I went out with this one boy and then this other boy "Jack" broke us up, and then Jack asked me out and i said yes, well i really didn't like him so we broke up 3 days later, but he still likes me. He writes me notes like "I want to get back together" and "I still love you". So i asked him why he likes me so much and he said that he didn't know, that he just does. How do I tell him that it's really over, but that i want to stay friends. HE BROKE ME AND MY REAL LOVER UP SO HE COULD GO OUT WITH ME. HE TOLD MY BFF THAT. Excuses will work too. Even lame ones.
2007-04-07 02:07:45 · 11 answers · asked by nikki18218 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him "you broke me and ____ up and now it's over between us, I don't want to go out with you anymore."
2007-04-07 02:12:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, how did "jack" break up your first relationship? why don't you get back together with the first boy, that will give "jack" the message. I mean, you even go as far as to call the first boy your "real lover". Will your first guy not take you back? Sounds like maybe you need to find a new guy and maybe then "jack" will leave you alone. You probably won't let "jack" break up any of your new relationships, cause now you know better. Good luck.
2007-04-07 09:15:40 · answer #2 · answered by antonedbone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie,there are more issues to this than just breaking up with a "boy"(Yes,that is exactly what this "Jack" fella is).You need to sit down with this "Jack" kid,and lay the law down.Tell him you do not care for him in that way,and that there is no relationship or no hope for there being one in the future.How can he "love" you,in three days?I do not even begin to understand that.You need to lay the law down,say it isnt happening,move on,and get over it.You also,need to contact your ex partner who,"Jack" broke you up with.You need to tell him the situation and apologise for your friends irrational,immature behavior."Jack" is obsessed,or it seems as such and you need to make sure he knows it is over for good."Friends" is only going to give him hope that there will be something,i say end it all.If he is going to pull this stunt breaking you two up once,he will do it with your future relationships as well.Good luck hun,and have a good day!
2007-04-07 09:24:31 · answer #3 · answered by ~♡~Moon Goddess~♡~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't tell him that you still want to be friends because that is stupid. Fact is he doesn't want to be your friend, and you probably don't want to be his. Tell him direct and to the point, whatever you do don't try to not hurt his feelings. That just lead to misunderstandings.
You need to learn that boys don't want to be your friend, none of them. Whatever guy friends you have are just being your friend in hopes that someday they can nail you. If they knew that they never had a chance with you, they would stop being your friend within a month.
2007-04-07 09:18:10 · answer #4 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time he writes a note ask him to go climb a tree
2007-04-07 09:24:31 · answer #5 · answered by vijay k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well his reply says it all.I dont know?that's all?because I just do?is that it?you could tell the guy that he is confused with his emotions and that he feels somehing else rather than love.What he could be feeling is either infatuation,admiration of a crush on you.I bet his strong feelings for you wouldnt last.
Just tell him that he's confused that what his feelings for you arent love.
2007-04-07 09:20:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tell him that you won't go out with him because he broke you two so that he can go with you and you don't like that. Well, they are your words and they sound much better than I can come up with in my head.
2007-04-07 09:17:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him that what he did was wrong. I should know because I've done it before. Speeding up and/or causing a breakup for selfish reasons is wrong. And you shouldn't be dating self-centered jerks anyways. Basically, "You love me and the thing is, I don't love you back. For our friendships sake, please stop trying to get me back". you can rephrase it anyway you want.
2007-04-07 09:13:22 · answer #8 · answered by kemper 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Straight up tell him it's over. Guys can handle it unless he is a big pussy! No offense or anything, giving excuses only hurts yourself more, plus he doesn't know how you feel.
2007-04-07 09:12:22 · answer #9 · answered by Alex 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its possible you may never be able to be just friends with him if he can't respect your feelings. Tell him its over and don't have any contact with him after that.
2007-04-07 09:27:09 · answer #10 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋