everthing is so messed up! please help me out!?

Question

this isnt about religion its about spirituality.. ive going nuts! im 18 and im just not able to deal with my all the things going on in my life.. ok theres noting wrong or bad going on in my life its just me! i feel like i need to change desperately..

i need to lose some weight and i need to get organized... everything is a mess.i spent the whole day on the internet doing nothing and now i realize i have such a lot of work to do! ive not been able to do any recreational activity even if i am able to just about manage to complete my work.. where the hell is all the time going?

I eat all through my free time, i dont pray im even losing my dexterity! its crazy ive been dropping cups and glasses im just not able to focus my mind anywhere! apart from that ive become such a rude obnoxious person! i snap at everyone even my parents and then i feel bad about it! i need to totally clease myself, some sort of spiritual thing!! please help me clease my self and start over thank u so muc

Answer 1

I can relate. I thought I was reading something I myself had written when I was reading that!

Well, let me see if I can help a little. I also need to lose weight, and I've joined Weight Watchers to do that. I've lost 26 pounds so far. If you can possibly afford to join them, I highly recommend them. And if you do join, be sure to go to all the meetings, because that's what keeps you on track. You'll feel so much better about yourself. Now, even though I'm still overweight I don't feel "overweight" as much as I feel like I'm "losing weight." That slight difference in mindset makes a HUGE difference. And the great thing about weight watchers, is if you do what they say, you WILL lose weight. So you feel so in control. It's really great. And I don't feel deprived on it, because I actually found out that you need to eat enough to lose weight. At one point, I was not eating enough and when I started to eat more, like they told me to do, I started to lose.

You need organization in your life. You are being kind of aimless right now (I've been there). It makes you feel very bad all around if you are just going through life without a specific purpose. If you are wasting time on the internet all day, this is not much of a purpose. So you'll start to feel depressed. Depression can cause you to do all the things you said. It can cause you to be very irritable, clumsy, overeat, and just feel overall bad about yourself.

To turn this around, you need to really schedule your day. Schedule time for both work and play. But stick to the schedule as much as possible. Once you start to do something such as a chore, you usually want to just get it done. So the key is to start it. So perhaps you can tell yourself something like, "I'll work on this chore for 5 minutes, and then I'll go do something fun." Well, in 5 minutes, you'll probably find that you just want to keep working until you're done with the chore. And you will feel SO much better when you do. So just make a start. That's the key.

You are entitled to inner peace when you are doing what you ought to be doing. Find out what is important to you. What should you be doing with your life? What are your goals? What are your highest values? Figure this out and plan your life around this. Everything you do ought to in some way contribute to those goals. Play can fit in, because we need that to keep us going. But when we start just wasting time, and going overboard with it, that's no good, and our soul tells us so by making us feel lousy. That's when you need to get up and start doing that which will contribute to those goals you have set for yourself.

If you try this and still feel bad, then I think you might need an anti-depressant or something, and you might try talking to your doctor. You may have a thyroid problem, or any number of illnesses that can also cause these similar symptoms.

I wish you the best!

Answer 2

You've solved the biggest part of your problem by admitting you have a problem. the best way is to start with the smallest problem and work upwards. Probablt, first, the easiest should be to apologize to your parents and express your love and appreciation for their love and ASK for their forgiveness. Then you have their support and help to work on the rest of the problems.
I am long past 18 and have had lots of things go on in my life. Right now my husband's cancer has returned. I've had times when I couldn't pray, but I just knew the God and His Angels are just slpit seconds away and even help without being asked at times.
So you spent all day on the internet!! You were not sleeping or committing a crime!!Next time, take a walk before and after your nrxt computer session!
No need to diet! Just eat better, healthier food! Move around and burn a few calories! Moving aroung improves your dexterity and mental function!
LOVE YOU AND OTHERS WILL TOO!!

Answer 3

Let me say, that by now you, may have found your way, I hope, your problem is one of the best sing peoples can give to others clearing what is going on, in to-day's world Now a day's. Of course this is rhetoric, but, "Plutosam", Something, or someone, has or its, steal trying to take over your self, you may think that such is some of your own capabilities and potentials been use in reverse, and you are controlling your own way's, to manipulate your own existence?, so, you can't understand, anyone any way.!, Not I'm so sorry, I meant to say, truly "my own life". I which not to scare you with the same conditions, circumstances and plans the Devil, Satan and all minor demons, can put and present to our self, apparently in a silver platter, which we can also discard?, and allow our self to enjoy, whit-out, becoming self-irresponsible to our own Kind?, Body, mind, spirit, as well than irresponsible to our own Humanity and Humanism, that we should practice any way, once in a while perfectly, again avoiding it!, though to be and become irresponsible to our own self. I know you have the answer's to your own problem, my problem, so, thank-you, but now, you will has to, go back and (literally), begin again, and one more time, a new,! from the time you didn't have yahoo answers and question, (this can take pretty long time..,), So, (continue....), perhaps as back as went there were no computers available to talk and try to use others for the purposes of Evil?<<< That is where the mess is, and not in you, so you allow, your own self, to become part of such a mess. But you can fix-it, because you are human, call on God for that little help you need, you never know if Jesus will be the one, answering the call, just to help the Father?, and the Father's business which I call LIfe!.

Answer 4

wow...first of all know that u r not alone..until a few days back i used to do all those things u mentioned(apart from the dopping glass thingy). First b determined to make a change, set out a timetable for urself and watch how u talk 2 people. Being self-conscious really helps. What do u do on the internet all day?? Is it profitable? If not u need 2 limit it. Feel free 2 contact me if u have any questions.+ pay no attention to the Yoda guy..he's an idiot!

Answer 5

You would be surprised on how many people actually go through the same thing you are going through now.

Really unpleasant isn't it? Been there myself!

Its actually the "Spirit of God" - giving you a wake up call to "Get with the Program"!

Sit down and relax this evening and have a real good talk with God and even though He knows what exactly is going on in your life and in your mind - explain it to Him in your own words, and ask Him to "help" make you into the person that He wants you to be.

He could do it all alone - but He wants YOU to do this - with His help!.

And He will give you all the Help you can handle - and then some!

Remember that God never gives a person too much to work with that they can not handle!

And with God - Nothing is Impossible!

GO FOR IT!

Good Luck and Vaya Con Dios!

Answer 6

Hey............it sounds like you're a typical teenager!!

Don't worry.

Worry is like a rocking horse.
You put in a lot of energy but go nowhere.

Just relax.

Life will get even more complex as you get older, but you learn to deal with it and find with every year that you can somehow appreciate what life has to offer just a little bit more.

Whatever you do, don't listen to the fundies...........the last thing you need in your life now is an imaginary friend called God.

Find the strength in yourself and live your life with joy.

It's the only life you have, and the only one you ever will have.

Answer 7

Step 1 is recognizing that there is a problem. You've done that so you are headed in the right direction. I would suggest writing down the things you need to accomplish, from weight loss to everything else. B/C time is an issue, make short term goals and aim to complete one task per hour. Sometimes we eat uncontrollably b/c that's the one area we have control. Enough is enough. Purpose within yourself to be more productive today and begin by praying, asking for forgiveness and help. And remember Phil. 4:13-you can do all things thru Christ who gives us strength. YOU CAN DO IT!!

Answer 8

Your hormones are probably a bit messed up today, you'll feel better tomorrow!

Just do something now to make tomorrow a better day. Make a list of a few (not too many!) of the most important things you want to do and write down the times when you want to do them. Then follow your schedule, and once you've achieved something, reward yourself by going out with your friends or watching a movie.

Answer 9

FOR YOUR GUIDANCE!
THE BANDAGE fans, and belief becomes conviction. Liberation and redemption lie only in conviction!
I am addressing earnest seekers only. They must be able and willing to examine this matter objectively! Religious fanatics and irresponsable enthusiasts may hold aloof, for they are detrimental to the Truth. As for the malevolent and prejudiced, they shah find their sentence in the very words.
The Message will strike only those who still carry within them a spark of truth, and the yearning to be true human beings. To all such it will become the shining light and staff. It will lead them unswervingly out of all the chaos of the present-day confusion.
The following Word does not bring a new religion, but is intended as the torch to help all serious listeners or readers find the right path, which leads them to the longed-for height.
Only he who bestirs himself can advance spiritually. The fool who uses extraneous aids for this, in the form of the ready-made opinions of others, only walks his path as if on crutches, while ignoring his own healthy limbs.
But the moment he boldly uses all the abilities which lie dormant within him awaiting his call, to help in his ascent, he is employing the talent entrusted to him in accordance with his Creator's Will, and will easily overcome all obstacles that seek to divert him.
Therefore awake! Genuine faith lies only in conviction, and conviction cornes solely through an inflexible weighing and examining! See that you are truly alive in the wonderful Creation of your God!

Answer 10

Start praying. Start your day with God and ask him to show you throughout the day what really needs to be done and to provide you with calm. Life always seems a mess to me. And even though there is never time. Try taking a half a day and have a date with God. Go somewhere quiet without the cellphone and just spend it in the word and then pray. Have a quiet time where God can speak to you. Not only will this help you refocus your life it will give you a break from life.
John 14:27
Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.