what do you do ? when my 15 year old daughter is verry abusive?

Question

my 15 year old daughter is out of control , i have went to different lengths to try and help my familly , nothing has worked , when is enough ,enough

Answer 1

You may want to consider residential treatment for her. Or at least some kind of outpatient program if you have insurance and can make sure she goes. You are right that she is out of control, especially if she is violent. Just as schools have zero-tolerance for violence, I think families should too! It would be horrible if you had to call the cops on your own daughter, so I would strongly suggest taking measures to help her before it comes to that. As for "when is enough enough?" I would have to say now!

Best of luck to you!

Answer 2

You don't say what kind of abuse she is handing out, whether verbal or physical.
At this age, most children become rebellious. They are often confused and have identity problems. Part of their search for identity is to try to separate physically and emotionally from their parents. They may dress differently (but like their peers), sass their parents, appear angry or pouty.
If that is the case with your family, in all likelihood it is harmless and this too will pass. Remember your own teens and how you felt at that age, half like an adult and half like a child - even if you never acted out. The best you can do at this point is to be a friend to your child and to be very patient.
On the other hand, if she is harming others or herself you have to take action. The first step is to see her school counselor, not necessarily for advice but as a source of information as to where to get help. There are many family counseling services that are familiar with this problem and can help you, either by yourself or with your child.

**Just one other thing: please don't even think of the 'boot camp' type of behaviour modification. These places are often not run by professionals and can be very dangerous; bad things have happened to children.

Answer 3

I hate to say this but that girl needs help now before she gets out of hand and hurts someone...she needs counciling...when a child starts the abusive pattern at such a young age it will only get worse...i mean even death..get her help now...and to show her you are not playing around when she starts the abuse call the cops and have her arrested...maybe she will then learn

Answer 4

Summer is approaching...does your town have a Scared Straight program or a summer youth detention camp she can go to?
The last resort would be a Youth Detention Center or a foster home.

Answer 5

You need a parenting plan.

Consistency is the most important element I believe. She will always be your daughter and legally, you are responsible for her wellbeing until she is of legal age.

Ask for help -Never give up.

Answer 6

If she's being abusive...have her removed from the home and put into counseling. It's tough love but you owe it to yourself and the other members of the family

Answer 7

Sue the government for not allowing you to discipline her, without the threat of 'child abuse'...and pray

Answer 8

has she ever had any kind of therapy,maybe something is making her that way? maybe she was abused by somebody in the family?? when i was in my teens i was molested by my older brother but i never told my family and i am 41.it would destroy my mother.