what would you do if you had a member of your family moved in with you. and you can't get them to leave. in my case its my brother. he is older. we both in our 40's he always on my phone or my pc. even caught him having phone sex with a woman. he is sick. he don't have no place to go. have you ever been through this before? are what would you do. he don't work and living off me. it's just me . well should i say it was. then he gets on my pc. when he does i never know when i be able get back on it. tonight i went to eat some left overs and it tasted bad. i think he did somethen to it. but can't prove it. it tasted real bad. i got sick. beside that i have women calling my home none stop. maybe 4 women. talking to him. he lying to each of them. and they don't know about the other ones. what would you do? HELP PLEASE.
2007-04-06 19:40:39 · 4 answers · asked by Skitter 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You are going to have to do either of two things.
1) Tell him he has to be gone in two days NO LONGER. If he is not then it hurts you to say it but you will have to have him escorted out. (since you are worried that he may have done something to your food I would recommend you not eating at home or even staying in a motel until he is permanently moved out. Also change your locks)
2) Tell him he has 1 month to find a place of his own and thats it he has to go. Tell him you will even help him pay for the deposit. Like my mom says, It's worth it if you are getting rid of a major problem. Have him sign a contract between you both and keep in hidden. If he is not out by the end of his month then call the police and show them your contract.
I went through this and I hate to say it but he really has to go. I went through this with my mother in law . She was kicked out of her daughters house for the millionth time (but this time it was permanently) and she was only supposed to stay with us for 2 weeks. Well 2 weeks went to 2 months+. All she did was eat every second of the day and sit on the couch on the phone and on the computer. She constantly complained to me that she was fat..(wonder why) She never tried to get a job and then she had the nerve to start telling people she was my daughters mother. After I gave her the altimadum she attempted to break up my marriage and told my husband (her son)my daughter isn't his. Well sad to say he now wants a divorce. He has believed everything his mother has told him. Even though I have proof that she is lying he doesn't care. Well I kicked her out and she got her revenge. We are getting divorced. She got her way. She made my life a living hell but I know I will be better off without either of them now. Good luck. My prayers are with you.
2007-04-06 23:26:32 · answer #1 · answered by { Me } 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him it's not working and set a date for him to move out. Password your computer, disconnect your home phone and get a cell for your use. If you cut off everything he may be more inclined to get a job and move out. The left-overs could have just went bad, if you really think he put something in your food then set the deadline soon and eat only what you fix. Good Luck!
2007-04-07 14:57:35 · answer #2 · answered by Smilinez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are sicker than he is by allowing him to treat you this way. Show some self respect. You are not doing him a kindness by letting him use you this way. He doesn't respect you because you are showing no self respect. Kick him out. He is an adult but you are treating him like a spoiled child. And he doesn't appreciate what you are doing, he thinks (rightly) that you are weak.
2007-04-07 02:55:13 · answer #3 · answered by lcmcpa 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If he starts smoking weed he is just like my dad! Kick him out like my mom did my dad!!!
2007-04-07 02:46:00 · answer #4 · answered by Isabella B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋