So I met this girl at my job who has had a crush on me for a while. I always wanted to ask her out, but she had a boyfriend. One she lived with for two years. She was dumped by him, and it's a situation where there is virtually no chance they will get back together again. Anyway, a month after they broke up I finally got to talk to her and we have hung out a bunch of times and we talk on the phone every night for at least three hours. And things have gotten sexual. But the thing is, even with us hitting it off so well, even though we are very physically attracted to each other, she still is so devestated her boyfriend broke up with her and she always brings him up in conversation. And what irritates me more is that she told me she was jealous of my Ex who dumped me like 7 months ago. Does anyone out there have experience with this situation? If so i really could use some guidance on how to make her forget about this guy at least a little more. And do i sound like rebound guy?
2007-04-06 19:28:26 · 9 answers · asked by Chara Pointshot 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She was with this guy for two years it will take a little time for her to get over him but. for u to take her mind off of him you need to stop worrying about it and just do your best to make her happier than she ever was with that other guy. then she will grow more attached to you and eventually forget about the other loser. Things like that take time.
2007-04-06 19:36:52 · answer #1 · answered by bamaboy3653 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the rebound guy. You got involved with her too soon. She is still vulnerable and grieving. She needs more time to get over this guy. Don't be upset when she talks about him, this is a normal part of the process. Just be good to her and let her know you care. You might end up being THE guy if you play this right.
2007-04-07 02:33:42 · answer #2 · answered by lcmcpa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all i agree with the person on the bottom. anything that en voles an ex is not worth the time of day. but anyways, this sounds like she is on the rebound. she cloud be going out with you to ease her pain. I'm not saying she is using you but sometimes when people break up with someone, and get with another person right after, they will use that person with out actually trying to do so (rebound). but she doesn't seem like a bad person so still talk to her, but next time this happens, give that person there space, but let them know that you are there!
2007-04-07 02:41:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anais 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do sound like a rebound guy and since Ive been a rebound girl, Id advise you to continue to be friends with the girl but don't expect her to be able to devote herself to you entirely.You may just end up with your feelings hurt. Alot of times when people seem like they are over they really aren't.I also believe everyone needs time after a serious relationship but sometimes people don't wanna be alone because they are not used to it and its depressing and lonely. I suppose whether you continue or not with her is up to how easily you are hurt.
2007-04-07 02:37:44 · answer #4 · answered by angela h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im in the same boat my friend, but seriously if that girl has that on her mind so much then shes thinking about him more then u so thats a bad sign, u have to get her to like u more then her ex (badmouthing her ex is sometimes good or bad depending on what u say such as, I cant believe your ex did something like that, 2 me u have to be mentally retarded to do something like tat to u, Bad way is if u badmouth how he looks cus then she will think yur saying, I cant believe u liked that kinda guy and so-so) but anyways another way is to confront her about it, or have her friends say something like u have a real nice guy right there but yur wasting your time thinking about a relationship that will never come back.
2007-04-07 02:35:27 · answer #5 · answered by nzagito 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any question that involves the word "ex" is not worth answering. I don't like that word at all, sorry.
The reason is that people living like pigs is usually the case.
2007-04-07 02:30:42 · answer #6 · answered by Joe C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We can't just turn our feelings off and on. At least she's not lying about her feelings. If she's worth it, be there for her. Make her happy, make her laugh, make her feel special. This is what she needs to get over him.
2007-04-07 02:33:18 · answer #7 · answered by Truth Hurts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to deside if she's worth having you heart hurt or look at it like this you can keep fu****ing her when she wants your c*ck inside her.So give it to the f**kin Whore..
2007-04-07 02:34:19 · answer #8 · answered by Bread 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. If she is continually bringing him up, she isn't over him or the pain.
2007-04-07 02:31:18 · answer #9 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋