After 4 years and both being very excited about getting married next month, and honeymoon trip to Mexico paid for,he decided he wants to be single and packs up everything and moves out of our home. Over night he doesn't love me anymore, he wont even talk to me, or give me a reason, he promises no other woman and I told him if that is the case that is fine I just need to know and he still says no other woman. We always got along great no figting,He was my soulmate and he was always so good to me-- I even hacked into his email and found nothing. We have been together since my daughter was 3 weeks old and we are both lost. I feel like I am dieing. I texted him yesterday after not talking for 5 days and asked is it over forever? He says he loves me and wants me to be happy and he just isnt ment to be with anyone and he is sorry he hurt me. 2 weeks ago we where laughing and talking about Mexico and picking out clothes to marry in on the beach. Am I stupid I dont understand.He's just gone
2007-04-06 18:53:15 · 9 answers · asked by pax123 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
As a guy I think I can explain it. He is or was happy with you, but not with himself. It is something a guy would not tell anyone. It is not something you could help. He has to go on a journey to re-discover himself and his identity and unfortunately you are not part of the equation. This bothers him, however, not enough to return him to you. I do not believe that it has to do with another woman and in fact, he ultimately will remain true and faithful to you. His journey comes from deep inside that something is not right inside him and he is compelled to leave by a force that cannot be called anything but self-preservation.
This is a lonely journey he is on. The timing is never good. I can understand your anguish and his desire for you to be happy is honest. His apology is sincere.
My own journey lasted about 5 years.
2007-04-06 20:06:10 · answer #1 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's sometimes unbelievable but I have had bf's who don't give a clue anything is wrong. Even my ex-husband wouldn't share his thoughts. It's very bad communication. If something had been wrong he should be sharing it w/ you to work it out but he already worked it out on his own w/ no input from you. I'm very sorry for you and your daughter but in the long wrong you might be better off. He's either going through some crisis because the wedding is just coming up so soon or there is something he hasn't been sharing. maybe he'll come around. Give him some time before you pressure him for answers. let him know you're here for him and when he's ready to call you.
2007-04-06 19:02:43 · answer #2 · answered by uknowme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man that has to suck. But aren't you glad you found out now, instead of a week after you got married? At least he had the guts to do it beforehand, instead of leaving you at the altar or something equally stupid.
Obviously he is having some doubts. Those things can happen. However, to pack up and walk out on you and your daughter with no explanation is selfish and wrong. Grieve, and then find someone who has no doubt that they want to be with you for the rest of their life.
2007-04-06 18:59:36 · answer #3 · answered by Kristine R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say check the length of his nails first. If they get too long, sometimes they'll make noise on the floor whereas they won't outside. If that's not it, you may want to have his hips checked. If nothing else, the vet can find out for sure what it is.
2016-05-19 01:52:34 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww hon im so sorry thats a terrible thing to be going through. maybe he just got a case of cold feet. it happens to the best of us. if there is no other woman then apparently he just has some personal issues that he has to work out on his own. i wish i could be more help. i hope everything works out for the best for you. just stay strong. good luck :)
2007-04-06 19:02:22 · answer #5 · answered by me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has another woman and doesn't want to hurt you further by telling you that. That is too long to live with a guy if you want to marry him. It will be hard and you will be heartbroken for a while, but eventually you will get over him.
2007-04-06 18:59:07 · answer #6 · answered by lcmcpa 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ya know, I truely have no idea. Perhaps he is just afraid.
I just wanted to say Im so sorry that youre going through this. Its got to be so tough. I hope things work out for you and your daughter.
2007-04-06 18:57:54 · answer #7 · answered by Peg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An old flame popped up?
He's seeing someone else and is lying about it?
He's having doubts?
He is secretly gay?
His friends talked him out of it?
Could be a number of things.
2007-04-06 19:05:17 · answer #8 · answered by Tumbleweed 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe his gay and confused,,,
im sorry for your lost,,,
2007-04-06 18:58:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋