There is this guy that I like and he been in and out of my life for the past year. The first time we went out it ended bad b/c he secretly tlkin to his ex even though I can had a feeling he was still talkin to her. Then wen it came down to tellin the truth he chose his ex over me. Now he is back in my life again and Im starting to like him we talk almost everyday for 3 weeks now. Like 2 weeks ago we went the movies and I kissed him. Now Im starting to get use to him but we have been talkin less on the phone and I usually do the calling. Should I keep calling him or should I just ignor him and never worry about him again even thought that is going to be very hard to do?
2007-04-06 18:15:11 · 12 answers · asked by Sexy Girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am thinking that this fella really might want and need his space..but if you two do not have a commitment to one another..he may be playin' you...and using you, big time!
You deserve love, but NOT with this fella!
I hope that you can find it with another person instead...because you deserve that!
2007-04-06 18:20:27 · answer #1 · answered by ladyk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guys sounds like bad news, so I would you advise you to forget about him. However, if you really want him, keep calling but keep doubling the distance between calls. (so if the space between the last two calls was 3 days, call him in 6 days, and then again in 12, and then in 24.) He'll notice the calls are getting more and more infrequent and he'll try to stop the pattern and keep you, or let it slide because he does not care. If it gets to a point where he goes two weeks without calling, you need to move on and protect yourself. Someone, I know, wants and appreciates you out there.
2007-04-07 01:26:59 · answer #2 · answered by strozek 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand how frustrating this is for you because I find myself in a similar situation. But I reccomend that you not call him. He likes to come in and out of your life when he wants. You need to draw the line in the sand. It only strokes his ego when you do all the calling. Let him call you. Its like getting over an addiction or at least thats the way I feel. Im used to this man writing me and calling everyday, etc. Now hes stopped. Im hurt but I refuse to start chasing after him. Dont do it...Find a worthy man. There are others out there!!! You deserve better!
2007-04-07 01:24:17 · answer #3 · answered by Christine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you stop yourself from doing something sometimes you send yourself round the bend for no reason!!! Believe me I have done it!!
What I do now and it may work for you is to say to yourself you can call him whenever and wherever you want to. But you need to stop, always think though you can call him that way you won't get so stressed about it. Then when finally you can't hold on any longer call him chat quickly and slowly reduce the amounts of time you call him until you feel like you can let go completely.
Going cold turkey works for some people but not for everyone if you think you can do cold turkey go for it.
2007-04-07 01:21:14 · answer #4 · answered by Tinker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is better not to call him, if he will again leave u and go to his ex u will be the sufferer , let him call and let him take the intiative, the more u give importance to him the lesser importance u get, let him feel that u r indispensable in his life
and be straight forward with him regarding his ex
please dont trouble yourself
2007-04-07 01:23:13 · answer #5 · answered by nakshitra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey i feel your pain. im going through the same thing at the moment with this girl. i suggest that you keep strong and let things be. if he truly cared about your presence then he would call you and talk to you. you also gotta play hard to get at times. i know it sucks but hey life goes on. im sure you'll find someone worthy of your time in the future.
2007-04-07 01:27:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't call him. It's a sad fact, but men want what they can't have and he knows he can have you. Go out with your friends have a good time and let him call you. The absolute worst thing that will happen is you get to have some fun.
2007-04-07 01:19:36 · answer #7 · answered by Jenn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should call him and ask him if he wants this to carry on, or something like that. If he doesn't, then you should just get him out of your life, and if he does, well, that's just great.
2007-04-07 01:19:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on there are plenty more fish in the sea.
2007-04-07 01:20:28 · answer #9 · answered by leann 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't call him ......... he will start calling you with a vengeance
2007-04-07 01:21:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋