theres this guy who ive been friends with since i was 4 our parents are good friends and we are good friends hes a year older and we are make out buddies i feel like a w h o r e because i know thats the only reason we hang out i put my foot down and said we had to stop about 2 weeks ago but then on tue(that just past) he came over and it just happened i feel like hes losing respect for me help i think im getting attached
2007-04-06 18:10:13 · 8 answers · asked by kind2all 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
how do i go abouts doing this
2007-04-06 18:20:04 · update #1
Knowing your age would have helped. You are showing no self respect and he has lost respect for you because of that. Talk to him and tell him it's over. Then stick to your guns. If you can't gain enough self respect to say no to him, then don't be alone with him. Don't answer the phone when you are alone. Don't answer the door when you are alone. Don't be alone with him. You will begin to feel better about yourself as soon as you stop allowing yourself to be used. Good luck.
2007-04-06 18:17:33 · answer #1 · answered by lcmcpa 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your avatar contains a great clue....sometimes when you put too much importance on being kind 2 all, you do a great disservice to those few special people you really need to be kind 2.
You're only human, and it is not possible to please all people.... Think about it....if you value kindness, how will you explain these interludes to your future (kind, no doubt) husband?
Or will you, by then have hardened yourself into thinking that "since it feels good, do it".... Honestly, I don't know how old you are, but your current situation sounds like plain old garden-variety lust. You're probably just attached to the good feelings. If he really liked you (even as a good friend) you wouldn't be getting the "disrespect" vibe.
If you want to be Kind2All, then the greatest kindness you could show this friend would be to frankly tell him that if he doesn't help you put a stop to it, you'll involve both sets of parents. And then, DO.
P.S. And of course this guy's losing respect for you... (just as you are for yourself)... (because you know he's not going to stop. Sorry. He's a guy---they can't help it. )
(Unless he's a super-guy....and they're few and far between.)
PPS. Hey, Kimmy T... you might want to buy yourself an apostrophe before you go getting out your red pen. It's a little mark that goes between the "u" and the "re" in "you're"....Also, you might consider that periods don't actually belong IN a sentence, they go at the END of one. (wink...sympathetic moue...)
2007-04-06 18:25:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously the guy's just using you. You're an easy target because you're weak. If you love and respect yourself, you'll say NO the next time he wants to make out with you. It's difficult at first but try to control yourself by avoiding him or ignoring his calls. Be with your girlfriends so you'll have an excuse. Focus your attention on another guy. You deserve a much better guy who'll treat you with love & respect.
2007-04-06 18:23:54 · answer #3 · answered by majika 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think about him coming and going as he pleases. Think about him just taking from you what he wants and going on with no respect for you. Think about him telling people that you're easy. Think about him not calling, not taking you out on a date, focus on the bad stuff. That should clear up this crush.
2007-04-06 18:15:14 · answer #4 · answered by Ade 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
i know its hard because there is a lot of histroy...but you have to ask yourself first what you want out of this relationship..if you want more from him..your gonna have to tell him so and stick to whatever you tell him your gonna do...
...if you keep on saying no and then contradicting yourself and then say yes...your telling him basically by your actions that he should not be respecting your wishes...so he wont
...do you really know what you want with this guy..is it just sex..is it a relationship you want...you need to set the pace and stick with your decisions...because frankly...guys usually dont...so good luck
2007-04-06 18:16:21 · answer #5 · answered by Evie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sounds like to me he knows you will do whatever he wants, and you did so he's not worried about it. If you wouldn't do anything he would have more respect for you
2007-04-06 18:17:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u like him too and hez just using you he already lost respect for you if you guys are not in a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship already then hez just using you...
2007-04-06 18:15:41 · answer #7 · answered by Legant 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
how about you put periods in your sentence so people would understand on what your talking about
2007-04-06 18:18:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋