Hey babe. U may hate me when ur done readin an if u never want 2 talk 2 me again I understand. I have never lied 2 u bout anythin, afraid I did mislead u though. I wanted to tell u the whole time but began to like u & didn't think you'd give me a chance, then time passed & you told me u luv me. Remember on my profile on the site where we first met? I had a few xtra pounds 4 body type & u never said anythin bout it. I'm fat dude. Ur 2 good for me. Since I started havin feelins for u I've hated myself an became obsessed with changin my body. It's a good thing but 4 wrong reasons. I should be doin this for me and no 1 else. All the pics are me & recent but they leave out the ***. I'm a beautiful person inside & out, have a great life, great friends, & a ton of people who luv me, don't need to feel like this cuz of a guy. That's it, up to u where we go now. U can think I'm a bad person and never talk to me again, or be like who cares she'll be skinny when we meet, friends, or take sum time
2007-04-06 17:44:24 · 12 answers · asked by Cammy S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should have been honest in the first place. Some men aren't sticklers on weight, some want skinny, some want a little meat, and some want women larger, fat even. I'm a larger woman myself, and when I am presenting myself on a personals site, I am very up front about my size. And I don't feel like I should apologize for it. If you're honest with others, they will more than likely be honest with you. You can weed out the shallow ones early, and you can tell by the responses those who have ulterior motives or think that you're desperate just because you're fat, leaving those who are willing to get to know you for who you are. That's ultimately what you want, don't you?
But it seems like there are more issues involved than just weight. In the letter you come off as being a little too needy and clingy, and your lack of confidence seems more a problem than your dishonesty or your weight. It sounds like you're putting this guy on a pedestal at the expense of denigrating yourself, and I can tell you from experience that such relationships inevitably end in disappointment. If you're going to try to lose weight, do it for yourself, but be confident regardless. Remember that you are still a good and worthy woman, no matter what size you are.
2007-04-08 06:59:19 · answer #1 · answered by marina_breeze 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love does some pretty crazy things. Some positive, some negative. But one thing it always brings, if it is true love, it makes you completely and utterly blind.
Now this may be a problem b/c u lied. But it wasn't to be mean or malicious. How ever in a long distance relationship, or one that exists online, honesty is needed more so than anything. An although you may not have been at first, you are now, and that's important.
If i were you, id lose the wait. Losing wait can be a very difficult thing. So id use the current emotional state your in right now to lose it, you got some real inspiration. An the best relationship is when you really like yourself as much as the person you are with.
Basically I'm saying if he's the guy for you, wait will not be an issue. So if he doesn't like you for it, well at least you can scratch another *** hole off your list an move on.
P.S. One of the best ways to lose wait is to join a gym an get a personal trainer to show you around, you will drop it in no time if you stick to it.
2007-04-06 18:04:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. I like you and I'm a woman and heterosexual to boot, but I gotta say, you sound like a winner, fat or not. Sweetie, tell him just like you told all of us. I know just how you feel. I just met a guy and we have a lot of heat between us and since I have a bit more body fat than I used to have, I'm scared for the day when he sees me naked for the first time. I'm just going to eventually get over it and go for it, because I know he likes me now, but, I'm still scared. Maybe your guy wont care especially if you are as beautiful as your words. I wish you luck!
2007-04-06 17:52:17 · answer #3 · answered by sustasue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey there, people come in all shapes and sizes and like you said you are a beautiful person inside and out and thats all that counts. It doesnt matter what colour you are, how fat you are or what ever so chin up and go get that man of yours!
2007-04-06 17:49:46 · answer #4 · answered by unfixingblowfish 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should send him this...what you should send him is the truth that you are fat and that you are OK with the way you look.. and tell him sorry if you misled him ... and just see if he has a problem with you being fat, but sending him this is all wrong it will make him think that you have a problem with your weight and if you are self conscious then guys don't like that.
2007-04-06 17:50:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a good thing that you're telling him the truth, but you come across as having really low self-confidence, which is probably going to be a bigger turn-off for him.
2007-04-06 18:04:27 · answer #6 · answered by Happy go Lucky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For each surprise hate mails u sent me, hmm...... I will sent u 4 No surprise hate mails with a really chewed gum
2016-05-19 01:39:46 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's too depressing, make ur letter more optimistic and maybe a bit less blunt
2007-04-06 17:56:30 · answer #8 · answered by Matt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just send it and get it over with that's the only way your ever going to know!! good luck!!
2007-04-06 18:13:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hit the "send" button!
2007-04-06 17:51:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋