I have a big crush on a boy in my school. He and I have our last class together but it's silent reading so we talk together. We have meaningful conversation, too. I started liking him when we played this ongoing game but that's another story. During this time he was going out with one of my very good friends. They had a messy breakup but they're ok now. Another friend who is very good friends with him says that when she asked him what he thought of me he went on and on, and that he also said if I was allowed to date, he would ask me out. I'm not allowed to date until I'm sixteen for religious reasons. I REALLY like this guy, but don't want to go behind my parents backs. Also I worry that since i have said I won't go out with anyone till I'm sixteen this will impact my intergrity. What should I do? He and I aren't very close friends and I want to become better friends, but I'm afraid if I get any closer,I will like him even more and will never be able to get over him. Please help!
2007-04-06 16:35:25 · 15 answers · asked by piano_baby 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I just asked a girl out today and she is not allowed to date anybody at this time for religious reasons as well. Life if full of unexpected surprises and although nobody can predict the future optimism is always helpful in life. Plus you are only 16! I do not know how old you are now but the longer you wait the more special your first date with him will be. Oh yes and don’t be afraid to be closer friends because without taking a risk like that you can never get what you want. The choice is ultimately up to you though hopefully this helps. --- Jeff
2007-04-06 16:46:15 · answer #1 · answered by Jeff S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you feel it hasn't been that long ago I was your age.(I'm 22) I think that it is awesome that you don't want to go behind your parents backs that says alot about you.
Listen don't sweat it you can have a relationship with him with out actually going out on dates. Talk in the halls at school,call each other,IM,write letters,ect.. If he really likes you he will wait for you and by the time you are 16 and can date you will already know him really well and so you will have a date you can trust 100%. You may find out having to wait was a good thing.
I have to tell you this... Listen to your parents they really do know what they are talking about. If I could go back I would have listened to my mom and dad and stayed young as long as I could. Instead I had to be stubborn and now I am 22 married and have 3 babies!! Life is hard and once your teenage years are gone you cant get them back!! MAKE THEM COUNT!!! When your parents give you advise its because, even if they dont say so,they have already been there!!!
2007-04-06 16:56:47 · answer #2 · answered by goodgirl5567 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nevermind religious reasons, if you are younger than 16, you are too young to date.
If you think you might "really" love this guy and that he might "really" love you if given the chance, then go ahead and wait. Enjoy the crush. If there's "something" to this "potential relationship," it'll survive waiting until you are 16. If not, brace yourself for more crushes and, meanwhile, do what every other girl with a crush has done in years past.
Dream about the guy.
Think about the guy.
Write letters to the guy, then tear them up.
Dream about what your kids would look like.
Write his name in fancy ways all over your diary or journal.
Wish that he would notice you.
Write about him in your journal/ diary.
If you have a great relationship with your folks, tell them (or your mom, at least) about your crush.
2007-04-06 16:53:18 · answer #3 · answered by scruffycat 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Slow down sweetie! Your parents are not making rules just because they want to be jerks. They make mistakes but they love you and they want the best for you. I don't know how old you are but 16 can't be that far away. Let him know your interested and when your 16 you would love to go out with him. A "good" guy appriciates a "good" girl. If he respects you he'll wait. Don't be afraid to talk to your parents about this they are not as out of it as you think.
2007-04-06 16:45:08 · answer #4 · answered by kindaruff4u 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you start to date outside of your parents wishes, that is just asking for them to distrust you in the future. Wait till you are 16, then date. Another rule of thumb. Don't ever date the ex boyfriend of a friend. That my dear is an unwritten rule.
2007-04-06 16:40:42 · answer #5 · answered by dakota_gal_1968 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
first you should never go out with good friends ex boyfriends that is a BIG no no .... so anyway you need to decide what is more important respecting your family and religion or the boy... it sounds like you are young so you should not worry about one guy that you like trust me there will be more ( lots More) just be friends with him and if you want then tell him you like him but you cant date until you are 16 and if he still likes you then and you still like him then go out with him, if he really likes you and you really like him then he will wait for you, but in my opinion don't worry about it you are still young. You still have more time to find a boyfriend.
2007-04-06 16:43:39 · answer #6 · answered by BAT 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get to know him better, if he ever does ask u out , tell him ur not allowed to date but if u were , u'd definitly accept..ask him if he'd like to just get to know each other better, maybe hang out as friends...handle it responsibly maybe ur parents will be impessed and lighten up! Dont worry about it, the harder you fall , the higher you rise... and oh yea- things change, dont worry about u saying ur not gonna date till ur 16- if ur parents allow it- go for it! good luck :)
2007-04-06 16:46:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sounds like you need to talk with your parents about dating and stuff and see what they have to say. I think they will be happy that you talked to them this shows your mature and ready to date. Good luck!
2007-04-06 16:38:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well you can talk to your mom about this. or you can just wait until you are sixteen. or you can go behind ur parents bacs but you said that you didnt wanna do that. right now i think that you should talk to himm. Friends with Benefits?!?
2007-04-06 16:41:55 · answer #9 · answered by laker4lyfe92 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
who cares if ur going behind ur parents backs, i was in a relationship that had to be kept on the down low for 2 years and we managed, just go out with him and don't tell ur parents
2007-04-06 16:39:16 · answer #10 · answered by zhilgy_4_13 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋