should i tell my mom that im in a relationship......shes very overprotective....VERY..i can't stress that enuff....and if i tell her i think she would make me n my boyfriend brake up and not see each other.......o and were 4 yrs apart...still in high skool.....?
2007-04-06 16:15:14 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
NO!!!!!sorry,but if it was me i wouldn't tell her!!!!!
2007-04-06 16:19:11 · answer #1 · answered by l♥ve143~♥~♥~♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a similar problem, though not quite as severe. My bf's mom doesn't even let my bf have FRIENDS, let alone a gf. So we're keeping it secret from both our parents. I hate that feeling of having to keep something secret.
On the other hand, the four year age difference is a lot. Soon whoever's older will be at college and the other will be in high school... and trust me, i know from experience that that's really hard. your mom might be right that it might not be the best idea. On the other hand, i know that you don't want to break up with him, and reason and logic have little place in how you feel about a member of the opposite sex.
This isn't much of an answer, but it's really up to you. Can you deal with lying to your parents without it changing who you are? how much is your relationship worth? only you can answer those questions.
Best wishes!
2007-04-06 16:33:29 · answer #2 · answered by maethoriel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother is being overprotected for a reason. First you say this person is 4 yrs. apart in age? That would make him too old for you Dear. If he cared for you he would stand up and be a man, go with you to your mother and ask permission to date you. It's obvious why your mother is overprotected, but obviously not enough because you say you are in a relationship. Sneaking will lead to disastrous consequences. Believe me. If he can't be a man and stand up for you now, when the situation is uncovered, he won't stand up for you then.
2007-04-06 16:22:06 · answer #3 · answered by mrsbasemore 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know she'll make you two break up, then telling her may not be a good idea. I don't know how old you are, but so long as you're living with your mom, you have to respect her and follow her rules. And think about this too: one day you might have a daughter of your own and you would want only whats best for her wouldn't you? You'd want your daughter to always be safe and happy right? Well put yourself (if only for a minute or two) in your mom's shoes......she may just want you to be safe and happy. No guy will ever be good enough for you in your mom's eyes. She just wants the best for you. Good luck sweety.
2007-04-06 16:23:33 · answer #4 · answered by apache_lizz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mom eventually but i'd dump the guy. Any guy dating a girl 4 years younger that is in high school is a loser who generally only wants a few things. It's easy for a guy that age to seem cool/important to a high school girl but trust me, he's not. Stick to guys in your age range [1 year above/below], it'll turn out a lot better.
2007-04-06 16:23:33 · answer #5 · answered by tothebeans 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
4 years apart? If you are even in 12th, he is in 8th? You should have given your ages. But at any highschool age, 4 years could be a lot. You should respect your mother, she only wants what is best for you, take your time growing up. Learn to spell first, get your education.
2007-04-06 16:19:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well my best bet would be to just sit down and talk 2 her. just ask her questions like " mom am i allowed to date?" and then she will tell u yes or no. and if she says why. then just be like no reason. i just wanted to know. and then she might try and keep the conversation going and if she seems that she is gettin a lil upset then just be like "mom i just wanted to know if i was allowed to date u don't gotta go all bonkers on me" and then walk away. but if she is all nice bout it. tell her that u are interested in this guy. and that he rele nice and he treats u nice. and that he said he would gald to meet her. ( even if he didn't say that) and bout he age thing. do quite mention that 2 her yet. lol
2007-04-06 16:21:17 · answer #7 · answered by Nicole 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In that case- hide it until you can't any longer or until you don't have to live with her. Not that lying is a good thing but if you definitely know that she opposes you dating, then you should avoid telling her. I have seen what happens when this occurs!
2007-04-06 16:19:40 · answer #8 · answered by critter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
both in school? or is boy friend out of school? if out i can see the problem your mom might have. guy out of school has experienced more has totally different out look on life. if shes as protective of you as you say id bet your innocent in thought and deeds and not the best judge of characters yet. tell her and talk as adults. don't pout or shout. don't make threats that will end up hurting both of you.
2007-04-06 16:24:34 · answer #9 · answered by windriver 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you feel you cant trust her with your feelings then dont tell her right away. Bring up the discussion on dating and see what she says on the other hand you dont want to be sneaking around. if your honest she may surprise you with her reaction depending on how old you are
2007-04-06 16:19:18 · answer #10 · answered by bbinqueens33 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I think you should take your mom to his house or introduce each other but dont mention the age diffrence and lay it done cool not like hey mom this my boy friend good question by the way
2007-04-06 16:21:50 · answer #11 · answered by pimpin bunny 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋