My boyfriend and I have been together for only 3 months and I'm already starting to lose interest. I WANT to keep this going but its not working. I think of him more as my best friend than my boyfriend. Our conversations have been dead lately and I don't know if I should break up... I'm afraid that if I do break up with him I'll never talk to him again. I'm not exactly a "people person" and I hate confronting people. He is a great guy and quite frustrating because he doesn't seem to have any flaws, a perfectly boring boyfriend.
2007-04-06 15:58:23 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I guess that the question is really just, do you love him or do you love him as a friend?? I mean i love all of my guy friends, but only as friends, there is a clear dividing line between bf and friends... But if u r sure that you have lost interest.. it is probabaly time to break it off .. start out by brining him somewhere like the park to have a nice lunch... tell him that you really love him but the sparks have gone... that he is a great guy and you love him as a friend but he is no longer teh special one... he will make someone else really happy one day... that u wanna stay friends and most importanly, it's not you it's me
But you might wanna do it fast like a bandage but still make sure that he understands that you don't hate him...
Lollie xoxo
2007-04-06 16:01:48 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ Lollie ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about it all. Maybe he's feeling the same way. If conversation is dead then it's not fun for anyone. If you're in the conversation and he agrees about things not going well then it's going to be easier to be best friends and ONLY best friends. If he doesn't feel the same way, then tell him you think you can work it out and then end the conversation. Email me to keep me posted on what happens. my email address is barbiegrrrrl194@yahoo.com
2007-04-06 16:06:48 · answer #2 · answered by barbiegrrrrl194 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just come out and say it. Guys like you to be honest and direct when breaking up. They hate when you try to be nice about it, just means that you are being cruel. Whatever you do, don't tell him you still want to be friends...he doesn't want to be your friend. You also run the risk that he might misunderstand and think you are still interested.
2007-04-06 16:07:12 · answer #3 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well this is my best bet for you. alright since u are likin him anymore. u just get together with him. don't mention to him that u need to talk bc then he will know that something is up. alright but when u guys are alone. just look at him and tell him what has been on your mind. and then tell him "maybe it would be best for us just 2 be friends" and then he will say what he feelings. and then u tell him that u hope there is not gonna be any hard feelings between u 2.
2007-04-06 16:03:30 · answer #4 · answered by Nicole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best solution would be to confront him about it and hope for the best...like tell him how u feel but sound sensire. Its better then just screwing urself 4 his fealings
2007-04-06 16:05:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You owe your friend your honesty. If you dont you are preventing him from finding a more meaningful relationship with somebody. So do you too. Be honest with him. Ask for a break and space.
2007-04-06 16:03:02 · answer #6 · answered by BigBro Paul 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that u would much rather be friends with him than boyfriend/girlfriend because u don't have enough "chemistry" to be going out.
2007-04-06 16:08:39 · answer #7 · answered by Hi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your not sure if you want to break it off or not.
Well after you make your decision........
First weigh out your pro's & Con's before deciding what to do.......then, just be honest and say what you said here...minus the BORING part.
Good Luck
2007-04-06 16:04:18 · answer #8 · answered by Rain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) you can tell him the truth which is the honest thing to do or 2) you can make up something (tell him that you have feelings for your ex, or that you want to date other people, or that you want to be alone, or that you need your space, or you think you are too young, or you want to be more religious, or that you don't have time to date, etc...be creative)
2007-04-06 16:14:51 · answer #9 · answered by batinara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should break up with him because it seems that you already have, you just haven't really completely let go. Let go and move on.
2007-04-06 16:04:02 · answer #10 · answered by mamashortydoowop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋