I'm 26, I've had lots of relationships, I've been hurt (alot), I've hurt women (unintentionally), basically I 've been around, I know life and relationships. I'm dying to meet that somebody, but I know not to look too hard for it because it always turns up when you least expext it. I work hard, I have amazing friends, I'm so much better off than most people, but somehow I still want that special something. I've had the highs and the lows, but because of the highs I know what can exist in terms of a relationship with that special woman. I'm stuck, I'm tired of the game, I want to love a woman and I want her to love me. I really feel I've given my all and lost (and gained), I don't know what to do next, I feel like I shouldn't complain because there are those worse off than me but I can't help it..... somebody point the way....
2007-04-06 15:54:21 · 13 answers · asked by T M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know you all mean well, but nothing you're saying really rings true for me, I think I'm just down, Ill be grand tomorrow....
2007-04-06 16:08:18 · update #1
Can you name some 'reputable' services Poohcat?
2007-04-06 16:24:23 · update #2
Trust me i am there and have been there.Very hard question to answer sometimes u try yr hardest and nothing works out even when u try yr hardest maybe its not u and i it might be the people we r meeting
2007-04-06 16:00:11 · answer #1 · answered by And life goes on 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, there is nothing wrong with you feeling frustrated. It's been a long time, and you've had a rough ride with relationships, it seems like you know your way through and around them. You're really young though! You have all the right to feel this way, and even though people are worse off than you, that doesn't mean you dont wish you were in a better situation. I think you're right about looking too hard, I think it's true too.
I think you just need to find a woman who is easy going and just laid back. Not one of those "girls" who make women seem difficult and annoying and jealous. You need to find the true person that will be interested in talking to you when you need it, and laugh with you, and be your best friend.
I guess you just have to wait. I know you're tired of waiting, but hey, like you said, it might happen when you least expect it.
2007-04-06 16:03:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not suggesting that you can't do things for yourself, but have you ever considered using a compatability kind of dating service? This big world of ours is full of wonderful people but lets face it, we can't always be in the right place at the right time so it is possible that the special someone you are seeking is just a couple of doors away. With the personality and compatability testing done by reputable services you will at least get to know a few people who you have a good chance of liking....which could lead to loving....which could lead to marriage and family etc. Not saying that it is perfect...but it will trim down the field for you. This earth is a big place.
2007-04-06 16:22:34 · answer #3 · answered by Poohcat1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out socially with friends...do things that will put you in contact with people that have similar interests as yours...like joining a club, doing volunteer work, joining a sports league, etc. Maybe some of your friends know some women with similar taste and interest as you
2007-04-06 16:01:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Work on loving yourself, and bettering yourself as a person. Travel, try a hobby, further your education, explore your spirituality, so when you do find that right woman, you will be in a position to compliment and support her. She will love you all the more so for all the work that you've done on yourself, just for her. Suerte, and peace to you.
2007-04-06 16:00:05 · answer #5 · answered by C. J. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're being rather hard on yourself, we all make mistakes in life, we're all human after all, try and put your past behind you, it's the only way to move forward, you will find that special someone and keep her, but only if you make that effort to stop dwelling on past mistakes, it's what you did, not who you are, remember that
2007-04-06 23:47:26 · answer #6 · answered by chakra girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LET ME TELL YOUU SOMETHING I HAD A LOVE OF MY LIFE AND WE LOST EACH OTHER FOR 3 YEARS IN THAT TIME I GOT MARRIED AND HAD KIDS. I JUST STARTED RECENTLY SEEING HER AGAIN AND NOW REALIZE SHE IS THE ONE I WANT TO BE WITH. LOVE IS A DANGEROUS GAME AND I KNOW YOUR PAIN TRUST ME. I WILL TELL YOU ONE THING IN THE END THAT LOVE OF YOU LIFE FOR YOU WILL COME JUST KEEP THE FAITH AND YOU WILL SUCCEED.MY JOURNEY IS JUST STARTING OVER AGAIN IF YOU EVER NEED MORE HELP OR SOMEONE TO REALATE TO GET AT ME.
2007-04-06 16:01:00 · answer #7 · answered by ROBERT MILLER 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be easy, join a gym, take care of yourself, then someone will come, might not be a model but a really good person.
2007-04-06 15:57:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give up. I mean, honestly what's the point? Might as well get drunk and drive my car up a tree.
2007-04-06 21:52:01 · answer #9 · answered by Gilligan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow you sound like i did a year and so i quit looking and there she was and we have been together for a year so my sudgestion is to stop looking things seem to come when we are not looking for them
2007-04-06 16:00:28 · answer #10 · answered by anita l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋