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see im the black sheep of my family and i feel like SUCH a outcast! i mean everybody thinks im dumb and lazy and living off my good looks they think im dumb cuz my cousins are in a magnit school and i have horrible grades and they always compare me to my cousins IM SICK OF IT! what can i do?

Answer 1

Sweetie, you have to tell them exactly how you feel. Tell them that you are trying your best, (if you are), and tell them that when they compare you to your cousins, that it breaks your spirit. They may not even realize that you feel as if you are the "black sheep" of the family. They most likely are comparing you to your cousins in an attempt to inspire you to get better grades. Tell them that you know that they are only trying to help, but that it really bothers you. It wont ever get resolved if you hide your feelings. One day, you may look back, and reget that you never brought things to thier attention before. Now is the best time. It could turn your relationship with your family into that relationship that you are so longing for. Isnt it worth another try????

Answer 2

First off, don't call yourself a Black Sheep.. you have given yourself that title and you will always be that. In your own head. You need to think different thoughts about your self. No one is the same and if you get bad grades and your cousins get good grades, your talents lay somewhere else. What do you like to do? Do you draw? Do you write? What draws you back all the time, simply because you love it? As long as it isn't illeagal (LOL) put all you have into it. Do it for yourself. No one will ever be the best at anything, because someone will come along that is always better. But if you know in your heart you did your best, and it was all you could do then be proud of what you accomplished. If you are good looking, and people say you are... be a model, they get paid good. The whole world is out there. How can you bolster sagging self-esteem? First, take an honest look at your assets and liabilities. You will discover that many of your so-called liabilities are quite petty. What about serious flaws, such as a quick temper or selfishness? Conscientiously work on these problems and your self-respect is sure to grow.
Furthermore, do not blind yourself to the fact that you already have assets! You may not think that being able to cook or to fix a flat tire is that important. But a hungry person or a stranded motorist will admire you for having such skills! Think, too, of your virtues. Are you studious? Patient? Compassionate? Generous? Kind? These qualities far outweigh minor flaws.
It may also help to consider this brief checklist:
Set realistic goals: If you always shoot for the stars, you can suffer bitter disappointment. Set goals that are attainable. How about learning a skill such as typing? Learn to play a musical instrument or to speak another language. Improve or branch out in your reading. Self-respect is a useful by-product of accomplishment.
Do good work: If you do shoddy work, you’re not going to feel good about yourself. God took pleasure in his creative works and declared the creative epochs to be “good” at their completion. You, too, can take pleasure in whatever work you do at home or in school by doing it skillfully and conscientiously.
People who are high-minded or insulting can indeed make you feel bad about yourself. So pick friends who are truly interested in your welfare, friends who build you up. I hope this is a bit of help to you sherrie

Answer 3

Sandy, you have a poor attitude about yourself--I mean low self esteem from years of being treated as you are. You are an individual with talents and abilities that are unique to you--so first off--stand tall and quietly be proud of who you are. Everyday be thankful for what you have and who you are. Give some real deep thought as to where you want to be in 10 years....what will it take to get there?? Start working toward YOUR future--and you know education is a big part of success--whether you go to a special school or a public school--just do your best and no one can ask anymore from you. Keep your goals in sight--visualize them everyday--that should motivate you. Learn that failure and disappointment is a part of life--EVERYONE fails and has disappointments--EVERYONE has to learn the word NO---life is what YOU make of it. Now you need to ignore and just let the comparisons roll off your back--you cannot stop them--they will just keep doing it--so don't say anything---dream of something while they talk---thenjust walk away--do the adult mature thing--ignore it all--no fighting--no screaming--just walk away. . You will be a better man for learning how to handle these difficult situations. You should be old enough to leave home soon--so save up--have a plan---get a job if you can---watch your money and when you can--move out. Just be nice as long as you are in that house. Finding a job or staying at school or the library will keep you busy and out of the house. Keep thinking of your future---be nice, be cool, good luck---YOU CAN DO IT

Answer 4

Study harder, and get better grades.

Ask your teachers for feedback on what questions you got wrong on quizzes and tests.. Ask them to explain the correct answers. Find and join and take an active part in study groups for the classes you're not doing well in. You'll probably find that most of your teachers will be very happy to help you.

Schools give you the opportunity to learn. YOU have to take advantage of it. You can't sit and dream about Sanjaya or Justin or some cute purse you saw online. You have to pay attention, and be an active learner. It comes easier to some people than others, but just about anyone can do it if they want to.

Or you can be a ditz, and get by on your looks, as long as they last. But every time you look in the mirror, you'll be looking for signs that they are fading. It's your choice....

Answer 5

You can try and prove them wrong. Do something that's not lazy. Go find someone to help you with your schoolwork and get an A in a course. Do some volunteer work, or help around the house. Then if they still do that, talk to them about it. Tell them how it's making you feel. Hopefully they'll listen... if not, at least you'll feel better about yourself for knowing you've done someting worth doing.

Answer 6

My family is the same way, I'am right the opposite from them. I also have bad grades I know what you are going through, you just want to give up, screw the World but the best thing to do is just push throught just keep on going annoy what the say. and I guess you go to a public school I do too and it sucks.

Answer 7

This is a very sad question. I sincerely feel for you. I tend to be the type of person who refuses to change to please others.
You either like me as I am or I do not need you. But it sounds to me that you want to do something to make your family proud of you. Pick a profession you like study and make them proud. Find an interest research it show your family you are working toward something. Best wishes!

Answer 8

im also a black sheep in my family. i mean the complete opposit in everything imaginable but i try to get through it and i also pray that god would change there hearts and see that i do belong in the family

Answer 9

Every family has a black sheep. It doesn't mean you have to accept that label.

Answer 10

STOP worring about what everyone thinks. Just be yourself and be the best that you can be and don't try to impress your family just excel in what interests you.