Hello! I'm a mother of a 12 year old girl. Just earlier I caught my daughter watching tv and touching herself. I was shocked and couldn't say anything. What so you think I should do about it?
2007-04-06 14:29:48 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I'm not religious and I don't think it's wrong! I just don't know how to approach the subject. My parents never talked to me about sex!
2007-04-06 14:47:28 · update #1
Make sure she washed her hands before dinner.
2007-04-06 15:06:59 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Trying♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So, what's the problem. Judging by the subject of your message, "My God! What do I do," am I to understand that you are a religious person? Should you explain to your daughter that masturbation is a sin against God? That God can see everything that she does, even if she is in the bathroom or in bed, and that touching herself makes the baby Jesus cry?
No!!!
I'm kidding. Seriously, do you have any idea what the sarcastic advice I just gave would DO to a girl at that delicate age? She'd probably be a sexual cripple through adulthood.
I wouldn't even mention it until it really does become a problem. If anything, have her cool Aunt whats-her-name talk to her.
2007-04-06 21:44:19 · answer #2 · answered by J.C. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you asked for answer and opinions, here's an honest one from me.
As a Roman Catholic I know masturbation to be a sin and children nearing the teenage years should be gently but firmly taught this fact so that they don't form a habit that can cause a lot of guilt and years to break.
However, what your daugther was doing might be just some preliminary exploring - i.e. she might not have been trying to arouse herself. Still, though, because she is exploring it's time for you as parents to teach her about this aspect of sexual morality.
Masturbation can be a serious hindrance to staying pure until marriage.
I would not tell her you saw what she was doing. Instead, try to bring up the subject in a round about way. Or give her something to read. Either way, she needs to understand now that any sexual act outside of marriage (even with one's self) is against the natural order.
2007-04-06 21:40:02 · answer #3 · answered by Veritas 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I told my daughter that is something people do in private. Not in front of the TV or in a place that someone might find her. Try to be a nonchalant about it so you don't embarrass her, but let her know and then don't say anything else unless she does. It's normal and it's better that advice come from you then someone else.
2007-04-09 15:23:05 · answer #4 · answered by Penny K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off this is not abnormal. Secondly you probably need to have a talk with her. Make sure you do not shame her for this. Let he know that being curious is natural but that you need to make sure you are exploring in a place that is private. She is obviously aware of how her body feels and how touching certain spots feels good. Be careful in your choice of words......good luck!
If she doesn't know you saw her I really wouldn't mention it. Just wait awhile and then talk in a more general way.
2007-04-06 21:34:43 · answer #5 · answered by Oh me oh my...♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
very normal, shes discovering her own body what feels good and what doesnt. We all had to do it at one point. You dont have to bring anything up with her, im sure it would make her feel embaressed. Shes 12,and 12 yr olds are pretty smart with the birds and the bees this day in age.
2007-04-06 21:33:57 · answer #6 · answered by lovesugarkisses 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think I was 13, so your daughter is completely normal. I would have a talk with her and just explain that it is a private thing to be done in private. Oh I have all this to look forward to.
2007-04-06 21:44:09 · answer #7 · answered by clare 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie I'm only 21 and I can tell you right now that what she did was completely normal. Just sit down with her and explain sex. Now with the "sex talk" dont ask me about that one because I still have a while before I have to explain it to my daughter. Good Luck and have fun. hehe
2007-04-06 21:34:04 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try giving her the sex talk. Do it causally. Don't make it a lecture, but be open. Tell her if she wants to do anyting, make sure it is in the privacy of her own bedroom with the door closed.
2007-04-07 08:53:48 · answer #9 · answered by Popsicle_1989 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing.
Seriously if you caught a 12 year old boy masterbating would you think anything was wrong, NO! Girls are no different.
2007-04-06 21:35:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to her and let her know its a natural thing for girls her age to do. Masturbation is healthy. Secondly this opens the door for you to talk about sex in general with her which is a good thing. Having open conversations about sex with your children aloow them to feel comfortable with telling your problems they may be having with boys/girls.
2007-04-06 21:40:14 · answer #11 · answered by hmsmomof6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋