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Question

Maybe you could help me with a big problem. I can't find proof that my grandmother Delores Taflinger was married to a Fay D. Amick b.1910 in Marysville, Indiana. BUT I know that I think two of their kids are Marilyn Joan Amick, and Mary Josephine Amick -2nd child) I'm wondering if you could help. I get Fays name, but her name isn't linked up with his. This is my big problem, proof. I'm hoping you can help. I can't get help from the familyh because we are not on speaking terms. (My grandmother hasn't seen me since I was three and now I'm almost 17) I really want to know about that side of the family and it's very hard to find it. Hoping you can help

MANY SAY, WHY DON'T YOU JUST CONTACT HER, WELL I GOT A LETTER THREE YEARS AGO WHEN MY FATHER DIED THAT SHE STILL WISHES NO CONTACT. SO I ABIDE BY HER WISHES. MY MOTHER SAYS IT'S HER LOSS THAT SHE'S MISSED OUT ON MY GROWING UP. BUT I STILL WANT INFO ON MY DADS SIDE OF THE FAMILY, THIS IS WHY I'M ASKING FOR YOUR HELP.

Answer 1

I know this doesn't really answer your question but I still think it's important. At least try to get in touch with your grandmother. If she refuses to speak to you, then let it go, but if she hasn't seen you since you were three then she'd probably be thrilled to hear from you. I know this wouldn't be easy for you since you're under 18 and still have to respect your parents wishes, but it's really important that once you are able, contact her.

I found that most of the time, people blow things like family feuds waay out of proportion. Sure it may have been a big deal 15 years ago but as time goes by, people let go of that because usually the issue isn't worth never seeing your family again. I know this isn't always the case, and some family members do terrible things and that's different, but most of the time it's over some small issue.

I once was told not to contact a certain person in my family because she had turned bitter after the death of her granddaughter, grown downright mean, didn't like to speak to people, and certainly didn't want to talk about genealogy. So, for a long time, I didn't contact her. But then I met someone who said she really wasn't all that bad. So, I sent her a letter, that way if she didn't want to speak to me, she could just throw it in the trash and ignore it. Two days after I sent the letter, I received an email from her and she was extremely excited and happy that I wrote her. She is nothing like everyone said she'd be.

Their are only two things I regret in my life. One of them was not spending enough time with my grandmother, getting to know her, and recording her stories. My family was on good terms with her but she lived about 45 mins away and I never was able to really get to know her. She died when I was 19, so granted for most of the time she was alive I wasn't able to go visit anytime I wanted but I still couldn've/should've done more. I know I'm probably like her in many ways, but I'll never no for sure.

Get in touch with your grandmother as soon as you can. Maybe you could send her a letter as someone already suggested. That way your parents wouldn't have to know, granted I don't usually tell people to go against their parents but you should still have the right to be able to see your grandmother regardless of their opinion of her. Just be prepared, because there may be a very good reason your parents don't speak to her, but if you don't try to find out, you'll never know.

Answer 2

I wrote to the owner of a Rootsweb tree that has the name of the suspected parents for Delores Taflinger Amick asking if he could transcribe the obituary he mentions in one of his files. If I get an answer, I will post an edit here. I suspect that his obituary will conclusivley tie Delores Taflinger to Fay Amick. If they were in fact married then the surviving daughter will either be listed as Delores Amick or Mrs. Fay Amick. I will let you know the outcome. Blessings,

Answer 3

Jennifer, I don't make this offer very often, but I see your frustration. If you would like some help sorting this all out, send me a message through my profile and let's see what we can find. I'm a professional genealogist and I've done quite a bit of research in Indiana. I would be happy to help you organize what you have, figure out what you need, and point you in the right direction. Next week is spring break around here, so I'll have a little time to myself and would be glad to help you get things in perspective.

Answer 4

Log on to Ancestry.com Check the message boards. Since i have some free time 4-14, i'll check for you. I'm not a pro gene. but i've got all my family talking to each other now.

Answer 5

You need to go on ancestry .com and go into the 1910 census and find out where they lived, then you can cross referee the county court records and find out about births,and marriage licenses. if that is not something you can do. here at yahoo. there is something called groups, I belong to the canter family website, go in and look for the family names and see if someone else has your information.

Answer 6

I guess you still live at home and can't just send your grandmother a letter and photo, so she knows who you are and that you want grandparents? Maybe use your pastor's or someone's return address?

Answer 7

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Answer 8

I will be really happy to help, but Delores is a girls name right? but so is Fay, if you could give me the correct name I will do the search now and then email you straight away with my findings. [e-mail]

Answer 9

First of all you are 17 years old. Call your Grandmother and ask her.

Answer 10

Go to the Public Library and ask the professional genealogists to help you find the information.