My boyfriend who i care about so much use to be obsessed with my best friend for years and then this past summer before we got together they dated and then she ended it for another guy. He was crushed and still liked her months later. Then we started to like each other and he promised me he was over my friend. We were happy and he hadn't talked to her for months. Then i went on vacation and the first day i was gone he talked to her and told her he missed hanging out with her. I was upset and told him we needed a break because i don't trust him and i think he still has feelings for my friend. He swears he doesn't and i know he does care about me a lot. Right now we're on a break and he wants to get back together.....should i give him another chance .....do you think he still likes her? What do you think of this situation? I'm afraid if i go back out with him that i won't be able to trust him and won't be completely happy and always have what he did in the back of my mind.
2007-04-06 12:40:00 · 14 answers · asked by *lil' leasha lu* 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
its always dangerous getting into a relationship with someone who was dumped for another person. he is definitely still into this girl and if she ever asked him to come back to her he would. she probably isnt gonna do that, but the truth is that he would. you need to end it with him, dont be with someone where you're gonna feel second best. to him this will be a lesson learned. i'm sorry but you have to end it with him for your own good. good luck.
2007-04-06 12:44:44 · answer #1 · answered by Dimmy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they just talked, no big deal. If you still care about him and want to give him another chance, go for it. Was he honest with you about talking to her? If he was, that tells you that he cared enough to tell you the truth. If you don't feel you can trust him, there's no point in getting back together. Trust and communication are major components of a relationship, if you don't have them, it won't work.
2007-04-06 19:45:23 · answer #2 · answered by debrenee211 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, thats a tough one..... if you dont trust him then you cant really have a relationship because they are based on trusting eachother. he may still like ur friend but only you can find that out. if you still like him, then tell him that he must earn back ur trust before you can have a serious relationship. just tell him how you feel and work it out from there
good luck :)
2007-04-06 19:47:22 · answer #3 · answered by pointegurlie7706 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well do u really like him??? if u really like him, then my suggestion to u is to talk to him. ask him how he really feels about u, if he really cares about u and if he likes u a lot?.... and tell him to be completely honest... if his answer is positive, if he says yes, then i suggest u to ask him 2 date... tell him u will only accept him to be ur boyfriend, when uboth are ready to become bf/gf... go on date, get to know him better, let him really fall in love with u.... when he is really ready, and he's convinced that u r the girl for his... then he shall ask u to be his girlfriend... and if u still feel the same... u will accept him as ur boyfriend. gud luck, and if u really like him... i suggest u to u guys to try to get to know each other better, see if u guys are really meant for each other, or if u guys are better off as friends...
2007-04-06 19:50:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should try to work things out with him before you go back with him. In a couple of days or so see if he have prove to you that he is worth of you and your heart.
2007-04-06 19:47:19 · answer #5 · answered by apple_bottoms_4637 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart.. just two words for you..
DUMP HIM!
He's not worth your time.. And what is worse.. he's playing you.. he may promise and swear to you that he's over with your friend.. but he's just covering up..
You deserve better.. and I know you will find better..
But you don't have a promising future with this one..
2007-04-06 19:45:27 · answer #6 · answered by yumi_yune 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with your own gut feeling on this as playing second fiddle or consolation prize for ever is no fun at all.
2007-04-06 19:44:09 · answer #7 · answered by auburn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should sit down with him and ur friend and talk about it that might help but if he still has feelings for her i would just leave him go for now
2007-04-06 19:44:18 · answer #8 · answered by terri 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if my boyfriend did that to me while i was away i wud consider it cheating becuz he was thinkin of another grl....i wudnt of gave him another chance becuz i no deep down i wud no b happy and i wud not b able to trust him even though i might tell him i do trust him.
2007-04-06 19:44:32 · answer #9 · answered by annawuvzchris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't wast you heart on someone who's only gonna keep breaking it. move on now so you can find that special guy you can trust
2007-04-06 19:46:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋