I am a 21-year-old university student. I talk with a lot of guys and have a lot of male friends, though none of them could be considered close friends. They always seem to go out of their way to talk to me but never ask me out. I'm fairly attractive (my parents' clients have told them that I was "very beautiful"), have a nice figure and wear flattering (and, I admit, occasionally revealing) clothes and always try and look my best. Guys compliment my outfits, jewelry and hair too, which I find odd. I'm pretty confident and a bit of a flirt, I will admit. Guys laugh at my jokes and tell me that I'm smart. It makes me wonder what I'm doing wrong when other girls get dates and find boyfriends and I don't and I've actually never had a boyfriend or a date. It's not like I'm sitting around weeping, waiting for some Prince Charming to show up or anything but I'd kind of like to know. I don't have any close friends, which doesn't bother me very much, could this be an impediment?
2007-04-06 12:06:11 · 6 answers · asked by Cybele 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't go out either, I only ever see guys in class
2007-04-06 12:14:18 · update #1
::shrugs::
Maybe (in a very suble way) you intimidate them?
Maybe they can compliment you but don't feel confident to go further?
Maybe you should take the first step.
Good luck =)
2007-04-06 12:13:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree theres something wrong with the picture.
Somebody should be asking you out unless your sending a signal that you arent interested. A lot of guys around but not one close friend and no date offers. Many guys wont ask if they believe you will say no, they will ask a plainer looking girl they think will be happy to get asked.
Is your Dad maybe a Mob boss ? are you filthy rich compared to your friends ? Do they think you are a lesbian ?
Smart can put guys off , but at least one should have tried.
This is the sort of question you ask a close girlfriend.
2007-04-06 12:22:06 · answer #2 · answered by mark 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, God has some man, the right man, and he will bring him to you. Just because you are pretty, does not mean you have to be weak. Which you seem not to be weak...what I mean by weak is weak with your beauty. There are a lot of us pretty women out here who take their beauty for granted and end up being ugly on the inside and/or having an ugly attitude. Keep enjoying your male friends company. If you're having sex with them and that's all they want, you're making a huge mistake (from what you're saying im sure you're not). Other than that just be patient.
2007-04-06 12:24:10 · answer #3 · answered by I AM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The lack of close friends isn't hurting you, in fact the last thing you want is to be fixed up.
Something is wrong with this picture, or you are leaving something out. At your age you should be beating guys off with a stick. You haven't given the whole story, or you don't want too...
2007-04-06 12:12:10 · answer #4 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It always seems like other people get more dates, but it's not really so. Don't worry too much.
However, it is a little worrying that you don't have any close friends - this may be a sign that you have difficulty getting close to people, opening up, getting beyond that initial acquaintance. Ask yourself what is really holding you back from having close friends - fear of rejection? doubting your self-worth? lack of patience with other people's imperfections?
Perhaps once you deal with this issue, you'll see a connection to your dating life - perhaps other people sense in you what you can't see in yourself.
2007-04-06 12:15:27 · answer #5 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry you will get a nice guiy soon.
2007-04-06 16:22:29 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋