My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 4 years, in that period we have broken up about 5 times. He has broken up with me each and every one of those times claiming to need his freedom, which I always gave him. However this last time I broke up with him because I was having some family issues and just couldnt handle a boyfriend, that was about 5 months ago. Now its been all that time and hes called me a million times during this period and I just haven't taken his calls. Now though we are talking and he says he promises things are different now, hes differnt and I just need to let him prove it to me. And he has been really good for a few weeks but his friends just went to visit him, in his new hometown (we live in different states now) and hes reverted back to his old behavior...never calling me wen he says he will, ignoring my calls because hes out and its just killing my trust in him. Is it time for me to let go, even though I do love him or does he mean it this time? HELP
2007-04-06 11:10:26 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow, broken up 5 times... The relationship needed help after the 2nd time. Please do yourself a favor. Find out what happened so you can correct the trend. Move on, but fix yourself first.
2007-04-06 11:14:24 · answer #1 · answered by general.veers 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
These on and off again things never work out.
Go out there and get hurt over and over by different people instead of by the same guy every time.
At least this way you will have a chance at finding someone better.
I'm pretty sure a definition of stupidity is attempting the same course of action repeatedly and expecting a different result each time.
Learn form your mistakes.
He can only change for a short period of time before he reverts back to his previous nature. Do you see the pattern yet?
Hope I wasn't too harsh, wake up, date around, find a new outcome, you have to date someone completely different and or opposite.
2007-04-06 18:24:08 · answer #2 · answered by Eyerish 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you are getting the early warning signs that he hasn't changed. You managed 5 months without him during some troubled times, don't let this become an issue in your life again, let go.
He needs to deserve to be with you and quite simply the way he is acting right now he just doesn't!! Good luck.
2007-04-06 18:17:54 · answer #3 · answered by Tinker 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you did the right thing in the first place. I think you should stay in your state and he stay in his state. It doesn't sound like he has changed and you have seen in the past he didn't change in the many chances you gave him.
Sometimes the past is suppose to be just that, the past. Keep the good memories that you still have. Don't let anymore bad memories have the chance of ruining your taste of him. If he is already ignoring your calls, he has not changed. Let him go. When you do, that gives your heart room for someone New that God has in store for you to come in. We sometimes have to endure those types of relationships in order to really appreciate the one we are meant to be with.
Hugs to you and many blessings are sent your way. Happy Easter.
2007-04-06 18:17:35 · answer #4 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way it is DEFINITELY time to let go! Seriously! My boyfriend's sister is going through the same thing, except she got sucked back in. Run away run away! Whenever they say "I'll change" or "I'll do better", nothing changes and nothing gets better. Or they'll make it look like it is, and then just go right back to however it was before.
2007-04-06 18:29:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to spend the rest of your life with someone who doesnt deserve you I say let him back into your life. If you want to be happy and be loved by someone you love just as much, let him go.
2007-04-06 18:14:02 · answer #6 · answered by shortskirtmakeitwork 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. u need to keep it moving. if you keep goin back he wont ever think u are 4real. thats why he keeps doing it. Leave him along & keep it moving. Go to your local bookstore & get one of two books.
1. The Rules
2. Why Men Marry Bitches
2007-04-06 18:15:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Remember Saddam told Satan he could change also and we all know how that worked out. *grin*
2007-04-06 18:14:00 · answer #8 · answered by FatBoy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just move on simple. long distant relationships dont work
2007-04-06 18:29:34 · answer #9 · answered by APerfectCircle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋