Ok, so heres the deal: I was married at 18 years old (big mistake). Now I'm 23, divorced, and I have daughter that will be 4 in a couple months. So now I find myself trying to jump back into this dating game with no clue of how the game is played because I was barely a part of the game in the first place. In addition to that, how do you involve a child in the whole dating/relationship process without scaring away the guy or trampling the child feelings?? And on top of all that, I find myself terrified of even the thought of having a serious relationship again, but at the same time the loneliness of the single parent life is driving me crazzy!!!!!
Advice please?????
2007-04-06 10:32:46 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The most important thing in your life is your daughter. Remember your divorce was not her fault so she is your first consideration. Her picutre should be the first thing you show to anyone that wants to date you and you want to date them, because you are proud of her. When the guy understands that your daughter comes with your attention, then you can better understand who you will go out with. Remember one thing, use your first marriage as a bad example and use an area that is positive to pick your dates from. Your field is changed but there are a lot of really nice guys out there if you look in the right place. Look at their friends very close. That will tell you a lot about who they are. You are who you assoiciate wtih. God Speed!
2007-04-06 10:45:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there done that.
You don't involve your child in the dating game, it's not fair to her. Don't keep it from a guy, but there is no need for him to get to know her until you are sure of him (like about 6 months). They can meet but that is about it. As long as he knows about her that is enough for him to make an informed decision on you (and he will probably think you are a good mom for not putting her into the goings on).
Why do you have to get into a "serious" relationship right way? Isn't that part of the problem from the first marriage. If you don't look around and date several guys, how will you know if you find the right one? You are at a tough stage right now, whoever you meet is just going to be transition man anyway. Ease into dating and what comes next, just have fun for awhile. There are a lot of things for you to do and experience before getting locked down again.
Good luck.
2007-04-06 17:42:49 · answer #2 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dated someone with a child. DRAMA!
Don't bring drama into the relationship.
They say it's not good to date someone who has a child unless your considering settleling down, but hey that's what I hear. I've done it and I'd do it again...Maybe...if there wasn't any baby momma dramma! =)
Your story is diff though cause you were married and aren't any more...=)
2007-04-06 17:38:35 · answer #3 · answered by lotsofluv007 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋