Just found out that my ex-brother in law is abusing cocaine again. he is not home alot, the boys are left to take care of each other since they were very young. He loves his boys, but he just isn't the greatest at buying food or clothes for them. These boys have been through so much, their mother abandoned them long ago (they are 11 and 12 yrs old now) the mom is un-fit to parent. Now all they have is their father, I am their aunt, but live 35 miles away. My mom cleans their house weekly, and she found little empty bags of cocaine today, he said he had quit, but I guess not, and no food in the home. So I took your advice, and called CPS, but CPS did not care about any of what I told them, in fact they told me that having no food in the home is very legal, because they "could" be eating out 3 times a day at Mickey d's. CPS told me it's not my biz how he raises his kids, cocaine, rotting teeth, bones showing, always home alone, no haircuts,doesn't matter,and that I was wasting her time!
2007-04-06 10:00:24 · 11 answers · asked by "Mia" 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well its either
A . Well call the mangement of CPS and And the CPS Will fire the people who dont care and will save the children from him or
B. Get the Police involed
2007-04-06 10:14:24 · answer #1 · answered by tikiramfan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go call CPS again .. this time ASK to speak to a SUPERVISOR or ... better yet, file a complaint with the Inspector General of the State ... who WILL investigate the CPS and its caseworkers (there usually is a complaint line .. and that can be used too).
Have you asked him to GIVE UP custody of the children? If he does, and you agree to take on the Custodial Parent Role (LEGALLY -- which means you may need a family attorney to help you here) ... that could help.
HOWEVER, if there IS cocaine in the Home (and you know he is using again) -- your mo should IMMEDIATELY Call the Police and have them come to the home right then .. and that way, for the sake of the children, there can be emergency action taken for sure.
2007-04-06 11:50:14 · answer #2 · answered by sglmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding me? Do you really have to ask? Take them home with you ,where they can be feed ,loved, have a stable home, or Foster Care or CPS will make sure of it.This is a no brainer.These kids need a place to go ,that is happy and healthy.Not in some crack house with no food or love provided.It is not love putting children through something like that.He is very selfish,and folish to think his behavior will bring out a positive out come.Get some help for those boys now! Counciling/Food/Shelter/Love. I dont care if you like there father or not.The children come first.Please wake up and smell the coffee on this one.Sorry, but I have 3girls and if I found$Y^%$ like that it would more than over. Get help ASAP.
2016-05-18 23:28:09 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are that worried keep persisting. It sounds like an awful enviroment for a child and they do not deserve it. Try contacting Childline, NSPCC, Barnadoes or your local council child protection service, please act on this and if you are absolutly sure that abuse (which is what it is physical, mental or poverty like keep getting at those authorities. Look at all the cases we see in the paper of authorities not acting soon enough. You never mentioned their ages but no children deserve to live in an enviroment liike this. Good luck to you and at the end of the day you are only looking out for family, they will thank you for it in the end. If people turn against you at least you know that you did your best to improve innocent childrens lives and take pride in that. Just make sure you are 100% sure first x
2007-04-06 10:28:50 · answer #4 · answered by Gem Lou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like my ex-husband. I left my son with him when we divorced because I had to move into another school district. After that he married Mrs. Crank head. Then he became one, too! Now I'm in a court battle against them both. They really don't want my son there but they don't want to loose their "benefits" from him, either. You could call your local DHS office and say something like "I saw the father hit one of the boys in the face". Thats all it would take. They will come in there and clean house! Even though he doesn't really beat them, its a way of getting the attention of the system. Just tell them your a neighbor and you witnessed this. They will never know who you are. And while they are there, maybe they will notice the same things that you did.
2007-04-06 10:21:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the kids with you for a while...school is almost out...keep them for the summer and tell him to get clean.....have him take a pee test randomly...even if you have to pay for it....and tell him when he's clean for 90 days he can have his kids back......unless he wants to report it to the authorities...and I don't think he will...I find it hard to believe CPS in your county would do that...but I bet the police won't.....they'll keep him until he rats out the seller. These kids are old enough to know what's going on and they deserve better! And personally, I'd write my Senator and report the CPS agent that told you this....have an investigation done! It may be stirring up stuff, but you know what, when it comes to kids, it's worth it!
2007-04-06 10:19:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is very sad...
cocaine addiction (or any addiction) is very tough to beat, and most people don't just quit by themselves. rehab is a good start and they and most NEED to go to Narcotics Anon meetings quite regularly in order to stay on the straight and narrow.
i can't believe child protective services didn't interview the children at their school... usually that is the practice.
the only other thing i can tell you is to call the State Police and let them know. it's worth a try.
god bless those kids! and you, too -- hugz.
2007-04-06 10:17:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well maybe you should take them for a while because now that you know what going on and you called cps and they're not responding help them.
2007-04-06 10:08:25 · answer #8 · answered by drw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if cps isn't doing anything ...they must not be that bad off ...are they eating, are they getting baths, is there a roof over their head, are they being abuse ...if you answer no to all these questions then nothing can be done...if your bro wants to get high let hime
2007-04-06 10:22:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
amazing that CPS would do that, call the cops if he goes to jail maybe he will straighten up, I cant believe your mother has not done something about it yet,
2007-04-06 10:37:22 · answer #10 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋