Why are people so mean to overweight people?

Question

I just started dating a heavy guy i can't say i love him yet because we just started dating but i do love the way he makes me feel and how he's there when i need him he's by far one of the best things that's happend to me i'm 134lbs 5'5 all in the rear end and legs lol but i'm getting so sick of people judging me for being with him and making fun of me for being with him saying things like he's gonna squash you when y'all have sex or he's gonna sit on you or you're gonna be busy for a very long time tryin to please allllll of that there. why won't it stop why can't society take the time to get to know people before judging them based on their looks why?? why is it so hard on me now?

Answer 1

Those people suck.
But think about it.
I bet you've made some kind of comment about someone you didn't know.
Everybody does!
So screw them, but understand where they're coming from.
If you were walking down the street and saw some girl who must've been about 6'9 in 3 inch boots, what would you say to the friend standing next to you?
"Move out of the way, ya might get squashed."
"Was that a girl? Or is there a new epidemic that turns us into giraffes?!?"
When people say things like that, they don't really mean them.
So if someone says something like that to you about your boyfriend, shrug it off.
There's not much more you can do.

Answer 2

I'd like to know the answer too., but even with an answer there will never be a guaranty that people will change. I myself am heavy...No I am fat..I have been all my life and believe me I have heard and been the butt of everyones joke for as far back as I can remember, I even had a small child tell me that I "was super fat"..We learn from a small age how to behave and sadly some are taught that belittling others is "ok" But its not.. It hurts, it make one think that they are less then equal..that they have no importance in this life...And i agree with others here..If you have found someone who truly makes you happy the go with that feeling,size has nothing to do with love.....And I too am seeing a large man..and I have the best time with him..He is my "Big 'ol teddy-bear".. And would not change a thing about either one of us.

And once...I asked some jerk, why the rude remarks, and his response was " well, maybe that will make you realize you have a problem and change it"...........Tell me something ..WHO HERE HAS THE PROBLEM

My theory..If you don't like what you see, then why are you looking?!!!!!

Answer 3

It is because our society (north America and some parts of Europe especially) have been sold this ridiculous image of the human body that has no basis in reality. All woman are supposed to be stick thin and the men are supposed to be muscle bound with huge six packs.

It is a totally unnatural and almost unattainable body image to get or maintain for 99.999% of the human race and it is also a totally unhealthy state of being. To get and maintain such a body image for both men and women requires out right starvation, unhealthy extreme exercises and damage to the persons own self body image.

It is criminal what the mass media, movie and fashion industry is doing to our collective perception of healthy body image, especially in the case of young people, both boys and girls.

What is even more criminal is the fact that so many people are buying into this mind set ...don't do it.

People come in all shapes and sizes and I say viva la difference!

What is most important is who you are on the inside because if that's not there it doesn't really matter what you look like on the outside any way.

Love yourself and others for who you are and who that really are.

Answer 4

Trust me, get used to it and learn to live with it.

Everyone has a problem or two (or three or four), being sensitive really isn't going to get you very far. If you are satisfied with your body, or feel you cannot change it, and you are okay with your boyfriend, then grow a backbone and don't let family, friends or strangers abuse you!
Work on some REAL zingers and let them have it full in the face publicly when they say inappropriate things to you.

A couple of things for people to remember is that we all judge others, and what goes around DOES come around to bit us in the ***. So it is important to respect others for us to be respected ourselves.

James 2:10 will tell you why judging is a sin equal to the sin of glutony or adultery, read it if you are religious.

Answer 5

Fear and ignorance. Next time someone says something let them know that it's absolutely not ok. I'm a casino dealer, and when a heavy person passes by, and someone on my table starts to make a joke, I always say something like, "I'm sure that's hilarious, but you are talking to the wrong person." Being fat (I used to be a lot heavier) is usually because something happened in one's life where eating became a place of solace. Fat itself is kind of like an armor that a person puts on, keeping other people that much further away. Anyway, good for you for seeing beyond the physical and looking at someone's heart. That's absolutely wonderful! Please, please stop listening to the ignorant people. Don't let it get to you. People just don't know how to handle people not like them. Your boyfriend will probably give you a more rewarding and fulfilling relationship than any skinny boy could.

Answer 6

People who are heavy are one of the last "safe" targets to bash.

You can't make fun of disabled people, or a person's race or gender without ramifications, but it is open season on overweight people.

Why?

They are preceived as being weak willed, sloppy, dirty and ugly by a society that uses an unrealistic body ideal.

Heavy people are played for laughs in popular culture and until they get the courage to fight back they will always be the ones at the receiving end of abuse.

Answer 7

First of all, some parents and caregivers have not taught their children good and proper manners in most cases when this happens. Unfortunately, most people overweight tend to be the butt of many jokes during their lifetime. Some kids feel that makes them look so cute in front of others to make fun of others.

The way to over come rude comments is ignore them. Believe in yourself, and love yourself for what you are. You have to be confident, because that tends to aggravate the one making asinine remarks about weight problems. Also, a good sense of humor helps in any situation. Laugh in their faces. Most of all, just remember this 3/4 the American population is overweight, so you are not alone.

Answer 8

Sorry they are doing that to you.May I say now you know how it feels to be put down.I am heavy and have heard some really nasty things about myself.People are mean because they are not the person being made fun of. the old saying"If you were in my shoes" would change them for life.Truly you should defend yourself and him if you like him.Don't let him get away if you feel a lot for him, people will always be mean.

Answer 9

you know what --its your life-- so live it your way. dont worry about what others say. some people just get their kicks by belittling others, it tends to make them feel better about themselves. My older sister is that way. she can never give anyone a compliment or be happy for others. she is always worried about why someone else can drive an expensive vehicle or live in a nicer home than hers. the moral of the story is that she isnt happy in her own life either.

its hard now days to find someone who makes you totaly happy, so if youve found someone who will make you happy - have fun with it and good luck

Answer 10

Because instead of looking at it as an illness they look at it as a flaw. Comfort eating is an illness just like alcoholismn. And then it could be just because of the wrong foods. But obesity differs from the norm and that's always a reason why people get picked on.