The wedding is for an ex work colleague of mine (I known him 6 months) & I already paid money in their wedding account at Debenhams (as their gift). I originally wanted to go but now can't be bothered because my other half ain't invited & not sure if my work colleague will be going or not, I feel lethargic & have big headache and I don't like my outfit. Would they be p***d off if I don't go? My mum says they will be as their final numbers determine their costs (food costs per head etc).
2007-04-06 09:36:46 · 28 answers · asked by Keira 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I wouldn't bother tbh, you don't sound like you're looking forward to it. Just say that you didn't feel well but you hope they had a great day and then prepare yourself for hearing all the wedding and honeymoon stories!
2007-04-06 09:40:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Hi!
There's no point going if you're not going to enjoy it, is there?
Anyway, I don't think you'll even be missed to tell you the truth! The bride and groom will be so wrapped up in each other to notice. It'll probably be a day or so when they say "Oh, such n such wasn't there", and by the time you see them again, you can always say you weren't very well - which is the truth anyway!
Have you been invited to the ceremony and the meal afterwards, or have you only been invited to the evening reception?
I'm surprised your other half hasn't been invited - that's quite unusual and a bit mean if you ask me!
Your Mum is a 'bit' right about the numbers etc., but I really wouldn't beat myself up about that one!
Stay at home, have a good lie in and enjoy the sunshine with your other half - it's gonna be a good one!!
2007-04-06 09:46:16 · answer #2 · answered by Moofie's Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not feeling well, there's a good chance you are coming down with something. And you'll do no favors to anyone by going to the wedding and spreading it around.
Your mom is right about the costs, but you could always phone today and apologize, but say you're just feeling rotten and much as you'd like to be there, you won't be able to make it. That's all. You don't have to elaborate.
2007-04-06 12:08:34 · answer #3 · answered by old lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have accepted the invitation, then you should most certainly turn up. They will have catered for you and probably arranged the seating (unless it's a buffet) and you will be conspicuous by your absence. If you didn't bother to accept the invitation in the first place, then you should not turn up now, as they will have assumed that you are not coming and will have planned accordingly. As you have sorted out your outfit, however, I assume that this is not the case.
This is a really important and happy day for the bride and groom and believe you me, they will remember everyone who turned up and everyone who should have turned up and didn't. Try to be unselfish and put yourself in their place. Go along -- in a different outfit if necessary -- and smile and do your best to make others happy. You won't regret it.
2007-04-06 09:54:52 · answer #4 · answered by Doethineb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have been invited then you will surely R.S.V.P. out of politeness. When you do, you can then say you are with someone and could you bring him as a guest. If they are rude enough to say no, then thank them for the invitation but tell them that you will not be able to attend.
simple really
2007-04-07 22:20:00 · answer #5 · answered by drstella 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They obviously want you to be there when they have invited you so you really should go.If you still feel under the weather at the wedding excuse yourself later on.Sometimes the things you don't want to go to turn out to be quite good and you could enjoy yourself.
2007-04-07 08:53:19 · answer #6 · answered by sanny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't feel up to going, then I suggest you don't go but ring or email or write to let the know and appologise for not going.
If I was getting married I wouldn't expect anyone to turn up if they were feeling under the weather.
2007-04-06 09:55:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you where invited to a wedding tommorrow i think you should go because if that's a close friend to you for six months then it would probaly be harshto not go. Do you like him?
2007-04-06 09:47:21 · answer #8 · answered by chococolate fever 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you better go my sweetie, you can always make a duck early on, just go show your face at least.
Your colleague will remember this
2007-04-07 10:09:29 · answer #9 · answered by The Desertflyer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are feeling so sick that you don't think you will have fun then don't go- you dont want to get other peole sick. But aside from that you should go- you have time to get or borrow another outfit if you don't like what you have.
2007-04-06 11:40:04 · answer #10 · answered by aly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋