I cut. Should i tell my mom?

Question

Ok well in August my mom moved us from Indiana to Florida. I absolutly hate it here. and i hate my life. Im on anti-deprssants but i still cut. I know how bad my mom feels for moving us here. And every time i tell her i hate it here she gets all sad. and i know she goes and cries. I have been cutting for 6 months. But im afraid to tell my mom. Any good advice?

i dont want to tell my mom because i know how bad she will feel. A few of my friends from indiana know and my best friend from down here knows.

Answer 1

My girlfriend cut her self for 4 years. I know that the physical pain helps release your emotional pain, but you need to find another outlet. It isn't addressing your problem.

Yes, you should tell your mother and get help. You'll be better for it.

No one can understand how you feel, if you don't tell them.

Answer 2

Yes....in fact I think you know you asked this question because you want her help. Tell her she will understand.
As a teen it's a tragedy to be moved away from all your
friends and the lifestyle that was secure to you. This new place is intimidating and you feel insecure by not having had a chance to make real trusted friends yet. But this will pass!
You sound like an intelligent, sensitive person who understands your mom is doing the best she can....Help her
through this to. You know by now that the pain of leaving your friends has not been made better by the pain your inflicting on your body...So instead of spending time feeling sad about this, take the time to call some of the kids you met at school. Do something fun with them. You'll be surprised how fast you begin to like where your are once you make some new friends. Life is about learning lessons and how we
deal with them is what helps us to evolve into better people.
I know you got it -so be strong. Things will get better!

Answer 3

You just have the moved-left-all behind blues...and you think you are the only one feeling this way. Facts are probably underneath in the place where your mom hides things from you for you sake...Try to see things from her shoes...she probably has some huge reasons that you dont' know why she does things the way she does...you could get that and try not to make it harder on her...after all she isn't dumping all her woes on you...she too has to start over...make new connections for survival for you both, find a job, figure out what school and neighborhoods is best...among a million other things...you could be the one to open up the door and share that big cut secret with her...may as well she's going to find out and then there will be a big blow out between you two...that will just add to the distance you are already creating...fact is you miss your mom and she misses you...so get on with the mature thing to do...fess up and let her off the hook...she is the best person in your life and you will never have anyone else like her in your life again...I know I miss mine and she died years ago and I wish I could just be with her and chat...perhaps start with a cup of tea and cookies when she comes home and looks a little down from all she too is dealing with...let me know how it goes...

Answer 4

Your mom needs to know. You also have to look into how your mom is feeling and why she had to move you. She must of put a lot of thought into the move. You are trying to make her feel bad for this. Of course, cutting yourself is a cry for attention. Please stop this behavior and get some help. Honey, life moves on and you need too also. We all have problems in our lives. I was homeless for 6 months and lived on the street. Now I have a full-time job and make pretty good money. I also have kept and maintained a residence for 2.5 years. Please remember that life, no matter how bad it is, can make you stronger and turn out better in the end. You do need so help. So please talk to your school counselor, pastor, or a teacher. I do not mean no harm or disrespect, but I do not understand why all these teenagers are cutting thierselves, when I was in school you never heard of this. You need to stop punishing your mother for the move. She did what she thought was right at the time for her and you.

Answer 5

Hi Emily,

i'm' sorry to hear you're suffering from depression, and i hope you can take the steps to help yourself.

there are many, many websites which deal with cutting, self-injury and self-mutilation. you can do a search, or if you wish, email me and i will help you find some.

meanwhile, please consider therapy. a therapist is trained to help guide you and to help you explore your feelings and to develop coping skills... this would be a good start, but you have to be OPEN to the therapist, and WANT things to change.

while a therapist can't "fix" you, they are there to help you along the path to recovery.

the good thing about therapy is that the therapist can't discuss your sessions with anyone else, unless you threaten suicide or bodily harm to yourself or another. of course, you are a cutter, but that is what you'd be going for in the first place.

i'd talk to your mother if i were you.... hon, you DESERVE help and you deserve to feel better.

meanwhile, i know it's very difficult to up and move away from your home and friends. i hope you'll be able to find some nice, new friends, and will find enjoyable things to do.

take care of YOU... you have so much ahead of you in life, and i do believe therapy would help you get back on track and give you the ability to go foward in your life. hugz.

Answer 6

Sweetie, talk to your mom about the cutting. Yes, she will be upset and probably cry some more, but she is the best person to tell. She loves you more than any other person on earth -- herself included -- and she will want to help you. You need to work with a psychologist so that you can overcome the desire to hurt yourself. Maybe your medication needs to be changed. Only a doctor can do that for you and since you are most likely a minor, your mom will have to take you to the doctor. Please talk to your mom. I don't want you to be in pain -- emotionally or physically.

PS - Don't listen to the jerk above me (Maya). She obviously knows nothing.

Answer 7

just try to get use to your life in florida , it can be a fun place think of the people where wars are. if it makes your mom said , do something for her and tell her you are starting to like it there , tell her you were upset at first and started cutting but now you are starting to be ok and will stop the cutting o.k

Answer 8

of course! y would you want to cut yourself? do yourself a favor and get some help, because what your doing is something that can become worst. tell your mom and i bet she will do the best she can to help you. try and avoid cutting, your not going to get anything good out of that. go out and have fun, make new friends! DON'T go home and lock yourself in your room thinking how bad life is. life is too short to be doing something so silly!!! your young, enjoy life!!!
Good Luck!!!
DiAmOnd**

Answer 9

You need to talk to your mother. Obviously, you both are unhappy with the move. You need to help each other out. If you keep cutting, you'll only be making things worse for yourself.

Answer 10

I cut too I have four scares on my left leg and they are equaly spaced apart. I told my mom and she helps me through it and if you need help I can e-mail you or you can E-mail me But you should ask her not to get mad not to go off and cry just tell someone. Tell a friend then wait for some of the cuts to heal and scare over and tell her.