I was talking to my g/f and we were at a low point in the relationship. I seem to have trust issues. Any way, I have to agreed to trust her fully. I sort of told her that she seems to be a kind of girl I would marry. Was that a good call to make saying that down the line I wouldn't mind getting married?
2007-04-06 09:05:35 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I do intend on doing it but now she may have that as an expectation. lol
2007-04-06 09:10:43 · update #1
Don't over analyze it. I assume you're asking because you're not sure if in fact you do plan to marry her down the road. If it comes up again (i.e. if she brings it up), explain to her that there are a lot of qualities in her that you really admire and love, but that your comment wasn't meant as a proposal. Tell her that you're excited to keep exploring life together, but that you're not thinking of marrying anyone right now.
2007-04-06 09:10:30 · answer #1 · answered by Courtney 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are in a relationship with someone it is important to tell them how you are feeling and express what is in your heart and on your mind. I think what you did was fine. But, you need to work on yourself and the trust issues...otherwise marriage may be a moot point. Or, if he does happen it could lead to divorce if you don't deal with your issues. It sounds like you have a very understanding girlfriend.
2007-04-06 16:15:33 · answer #2 · answered by Challenge 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it was right of you to tell her what you were feeling if you were sincere. If you told her that simply to make her feel reassured about the relationship, given that you said it was at a low-point, then no, you were wrong to say that. Many women take talks of marriage seriously and I definitely would want my boyfriend to be sincere about any possibility of us getting married in the future. So, ask yourself whether you were sincere when you told her that you could see yourself marrying her one day.
2007-04-06 16:17:29 · answer #3 · answered by G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have trust issues about her........yes i would say that saying that might not be the wisest. But at this point you're not married. Thank God.
And if you already feel like you're wavering on trusting her now...it will become MAGNIFIED after you marry. Bad qualities don't go away when you say your vows, contrary to popular belief.
2007-04-06 16:11:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust issues are your problem unless she has given you a very real reason to think otherwise. Be confident, love with all your heart, and don't let your insecurities ruin a good thing. If you get your heart broken, try again. It's live, you're given lots of chances to get it right.
2007-04-06 16:13:11 · answer #5 · answered by If it aint fixed broker it 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It wouldn't have come out of your mouth if you didn't mean it. You're okay....you didn't screw up. Just nurture the relationship...keep the feelings strong and the trust stronger and yeah, it will lead to the altar someday (when you're ready). Cheers!
2007-04-06 16:18:51 · answer #6 · answered by Inday 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marriage does not *** frm trust.. tht was a bad call but u chud get arnd it.. u shud tell tht she is the pretty one tht u hav alwys imagined abt.. try to make u look like the bad guy and she will eventually trust her... also get ovr the trust problems ..it happens wit every.. b like u din c it , don tell her.. keep it inside
girls try to make boyz jealous ..dont fall for it
2007-04-06 16:11:30 · answer #7 · answered by prabhat v 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
But do you want to marry her? You have to be careful how and when you use the M word. Girls grab on to it right away!
2007-04-06 16:10:27 · answer #8 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.
but you shouldn't have because if one day you decide to dump her for whatever reason...
it's gonna hurt, believe me.
Just keep your word or don't repeat it.
2007-04-06 16:12:40 · answer #9 · answered by watnowgurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is a good thing if you meant it :) but things change so you really shouldn't say things like that for future reference ;)
2007-04-06 16:21:19 · answer #10 · answered by notyochic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋