me and this girl broke up three years ago and she calls the house to talk to my sister and she mostly asks about me and she stays the night at our house and i still have feelings for her but i am going to be going to college this year and i am wanting to tell her about my feelings for her before i leave and i was wantig to know if i should tell her my feelings or not and if i should tell her in person or leave her a letter
2007-04-06 08:58:36 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yes you should tell her and you should do it in person if you don't you will always wonder what could have been and the worst she can say is she does not reciprocate the feelings, but at least you would know and can move forward on it
2007-04-06 09:03:37 · answer #1 · answered by Kara B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you need to tell her. Chances are that she has maintained a relationship with your sister on some level to try and be a content in your life. If she was friends with your sister on a purely "over you" level she wouldn't be asking about you. Tell her before you leave, so she has an op. to respond. As far as doing it with a letter or vocally, I would suggest doing it in which ever way you feel you communicate best. Just make sure that if you do it by letter you make yourself available to speak with her when she is ready to talk about it.
2007-04-06 09:04:25 · answer #2 · answered by mav426 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you write her a letter, then you won't have to deal with her reaction. But if you tell her to her face, she might reject you, and it's obvious that you're going to be hurt while going to college. Just write her a lovely letter and tell her everything you have to say to her. Words on paper mean a lot. Good luck!
2007-04-06 09:02:37 · answer #3 · answered by coffee! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my gosh thats a tough one. you've still had feelings for her for 3 years and you haven't told her??? I would've told her earlier if I were you. man. i don't know cause if you're leaving for college that could screw stuff up. maybe you should wait a while because once you get to college you might find another girl who takes your mind off her. maybe you just think you still like her because she's over all the time and you haven't been able to move past her yet. see what it's like once you get to college. if you don't meet anyone else and you still think about her all the time, call her up.
2007-04-06 09:03:33 · answer #4 · answered by YourSummerObsession 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her in person, definitley. Writing a letter or poem will just make it seem like a childish school crush, when you two have already dated before. let her know how you feel. if she likes you, then she likes you. but if she doesn't then oh well. what's the worst that can happen if you've already broke up?
2007-04-06 09:03:58 · answer #5 · answered by jmt347@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are wanting something to happen between you two then I guess the only real way for that to happen is for you to speak to her. Even if you are going to college then I would say its worth telling her just so that she knows because after all you wont be in college all your life/.
2007-04-06 09:02:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing is to tell her in person..
you never know, maybe she still have feelings about you too..
remember this,, guys always makes the first move..
maybe that's why she stays at your house and calls your house.. just to see you and hear your voice..
so, it's better if you tell her in person... so she could tell you what's her answer in person too..
good luck =)
2007-04-07 14:37:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
before you tell her... are you going to be going to college very far away? because chances are you will go to college and meet plenty of young ladies of interest. and if you dont get to see this girl your feelings might change. so why create extra heartache for yourself and for her? if you are going to go to college close by then go for it. if you cant tell her in person write her a note but be there when she reads it so you can talk afterwards.
2007-04-06 09:07:18 · answer #8 · answered by kimmie_ray 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you seem that you still want to be with her, just tell her in person. that way you can see how she feels. you would be able to read her expressions and body movement. if you wrote her a letter or told her on the phone, she might be just saying something not to hurt your feelings.
2007-04-06 09:03:30 · answer #9 · answered by crissyrose19 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you kidding youre fixing to leave and yorue going to bare your soul to this girl? what if she likes you too? then you are going to have that stess of a long distance relationship while youre at college. eve good enough alone. you broke up because the bad out weighed the good. remember?
2007-04-06 09:05:20 · answer #10 · answered by Bobby L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋