I started dating this guy a few months ago. We broke up because we rushed into it way to fast and both stopped feeling it. I stopped feeling it due to fear he said he just stopped feeling it. He has also made comments that he doesnt want to have to worry about what a gf is up too. He has trust issues. We agreed to stay friends because we have lots of fun together. At first we just talked on the phone, then we started hanging out, which turned into hanging out everyday to now he is with me except when im working. Like when we were dating. Im having a hard time understanding if he is not interested in a relationship why we are having one basically. I have feelings for him. I have had more fun in the last month than in the last five years. Do you think there is any hope for this turning into a real relationship or am I wasting my time wishing for nothing?
2007-04-06 08:52:19 · 13 answers · asked by wikedbutterfly69 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you are having fun then you are not wasting your time even if a relationship never comes of it.
be cool...
2007-04-06 08:57:54 · answer #1 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there is a total chance for the two of you though I do feel that it might not work out so well the second time. It really seems like he just wants to be friends with you and nothing more than that. I mean also if he trust issues, it's not going to be that great of a relationship if he can't even trust his own gf! And sure you have fun with him for the past few months, but things change quickly. And I'm sure you'll find another guy better than him really soon. I think you should just let him go at this point...He's just a friend.
2007-04-06 15:58:20 · answer #2 · answered by coffee! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop asking strangers for insight on your relationship. Voice these exact concerns with the guy, and let him dictate what type of relationship you two are going to have. (if you're okay with it also) most relationship problems can be solved by taking them head on. If he wants to be friends, ask yourself if that's okay and move forward that way. If he does say that, than don't hold out hope that he'll change his mind the more you hang out together. Have your life, let him have his, and in between have fun together. Good luck.
2007-04-06 16:00:06 · answer #3 · answered by If it aint fixed broker it 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you are happy with the way things are then why would you want it to change
i mean if he isn't really seeing any other girls and you both dont feel the pressure then why not let things go as they are and see where it goes
it sounds like you have chemistry and you both like each other but you need to get your problems figured out before you jump in a relationship again
and if you start to pressure him at all he will leave and this time for good so be happy with what you have and dont try to make it something more unless he wants to make the move
hey at least this way you can have your cake and eat it to
2007-04-06 15:59:01 · answer #4 · answered by carmelfude2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as though you both could use a bit of counseling to help sort things out. Trust issues are very difficult to handle without some help. Ask if he'll go with you and work on it. It's not too difficult to get such problems out in the open and handled. Don't make it a "someday let's get counseling" make it, "I'm going to see a counselor in one week and I want you to go with me, Will you go?" Good luck. Hope he goes with.
2007-04-06 16:02:28 · answer #5 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How confusing. I would ask him what the deal is. The suspense would kill me. I would think that after spending time with you as a friend he could see if you are trustable or not, so maybe he can trust you more now and would be willing to be a boyfriend to you. It sounds like he is just scared to get hurt.
2007-04-06 16:32:28 · answer #6 · answered by pookie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just wastage of time, only having fun can't make a friend in reality, its a pain's taking exercise. Just start your life as a fresh drop of dew on the leaf of lotus.
2007-04-06 16:01:52 · answer #7 · answered by vinay s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may not be just a trust thing....he could be a control freak. If that is the case he will want to control you for the entire length of your relationship...over time it will only get worse.
2007-04-06 15:57:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey; anything is possible. Now all you have to do is find out how he feels about all of this. Really he has to notice the change in this "relationship" as well as you have.
Good Luck!
2007-04-06 15:57:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're probably wasting your time and losing out on some great guys. There's too many issues to deal with.
2007-04-06 15:56:49 · answer #10 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋