I've been dating this guy for a few months now, our relationship was good at 1st but went down hill, we said we'd stay friends no matter what. I sent him a message putting an end to our relationship but in a good way, making it clear we would still be friends no matter what. Well he never responded to the message, we now haven't talked in a week. I got a new # and messaged him if he wanted the new number to let me know. He also read that and never responded. Why would he not want to stay friends with me? Relationship didn't really end bad, he kinda started playing games so out of both of us I should be the one not wanting to be friends but now he's giving me the cold shoulder, WHY? I really care about him and think I even fell for him but I know in the long run our relationship couldn't work, there are to many odds against us. Do I just let him go or go out of my way again to contact him? would that be doing to much?? PLZ HELP!!
2007-04-06 07:35:28 · 11 answers · asked by justbeingme_ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When I sent the message to him by email we had already not talked for a few days and he wasn't trying to make contact with me so I didn't want to push anything at that point. Other people were putting their nose into our relationship and we just got overwhelmed with it all. The point of the message was that since he wasn't trying to contact me I wanted to make sure no matter what that I wasn't holding any grudges about what happened or being a dumb scorned ex, that all in all we could still be friends bcuz we were prior to our bf/gf relationship, not cause I was being a chicken and not wanting to confront him face to face. I just felt like he didnt want to talk to me.
2007-04-06 08:06:11 · update #1
sounds like u hurt his ego. he will come around or not. if he doesn't want to b friends then 4get him. it's hard to b just friends after the fact.
2007-04-06 07:41:04 · answer #1 · answered by mschesskey 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Although you say the relationship did not end badly, he may feel differently; you chose to end it through a message and that most likely hurt his pride. He may be having a difficult time seeing you or speaking to you, some sort of heartbreak. I would give him his space, he's probably a bit confused right now. When, and if, he's comfortable with speaking to you again, he will.
As for restarting the relationship, not so smart; relationships will usually end for a reason and are meant to stay ended. Your feelings of falling for him all over again is just attachment to him. Just let it pass over, it will be for the best.
Good luck.
2007-04-06 14:47:21 · answer #2 · answered by Nada Awad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's still upset at the fact that you chose to break up with him by sending him a text. Come on, doesn't he deserve a bit more respect than that? It would've been better for both of you if you had taken the time to sit down with him face to face to tell him how you felt. Put yourself in his shoes...how would you like to find out that you've been dumped via text message? Would you still want to be friends with that person? I think not. At this point, the damage is already done, don't waste your time going out of your way to contact him, you've already lost his respect. I hope you've learned something from this relationship...everyone deserves to hear break up news in person. It maintains their self respect and yours.
2007-04-06 14:45:27 · answer #3 · answered by Elizabeth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg its so obvious. guys have that under cover syndrome as they really dont like us and only deal because they are male and we female. Why hang out with you if we cant f***! u think he just wants to hear you ramble on about **** he could care less about. Thats what a gf 's for. No guys just wants to be friends, unless he's gay. U didnt care enuff to be bed buddies. I bet if u said i dont wana date you But calls at midnight or after the club aint so bad.. ud still be talking at night that is. Guys have there own friends why would they want a chic w \ no benefits as one! and if not that than its ego.
2007-04-06 14:48:09 · answer #4 · answered by Beach724 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys and girls just do that... they give the cold shoulder and really stop any communication. There really isnt a definitive reason as to why people do this. Dont let it get you, you tried and were obviously the bigger person here. Just move on and be happy. Good luck
2007-04-06 14:39:21 · answer #5 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you both care about each other who cares about the "odds" most of them are wrong. I had my son my first month in my senior year."odds" said I would drop out and be a welfare case. I graduated in the top 10% of my class and never went on assistance. I say screw the "odds" and go for happiness.
2007-04-06 14:43:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is hurt. Give him time, but don't push. Hopefully at some time he will accept your reasoning for breaking up and will want your friendship. Many people cannot be friends after a break up.
2007-04-06 14:40:47 · answer #7 · answered by Jan C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain how you feel.
I just did this with my ex...they always want to be friends because they want hope of getting another chance later on the line...which usually ends up happening with ex's are friends...
Sooo...just tell him you can't deal with all the feelings that you are going through...
Good luck.
2007-04-06 14:40:27 · answer #8 · answered by lotsofluv007 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well its either that he really liked you and was really hurt when you broke up with him, or maby hes just trying to put on a show or somthing. you just need to give it some time then maby you guys can still be friends. i wouldent contact him just give him some space but maby go sit next to him at lunch or some thing.
2007-04-06 14:41:34 · answer #9 · answered by angie n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he prolly felt you were being retarded because you broke up with him through a text message, you should have broke up with him on purpose so you two could see eye to eye the problem. he prolly doesn't want to be friends with a retarded person
2007-04-06 14:40:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋