Why do people like to push their views on others? Stop judging others!!?

Question

First let me say, I love Yahoo Answers-- especially the Parenting & Baby sections.

I am becoming a little annoyed w/ people pushing their views on others.

Examples:
Spanking vs. Non spanking
Breastfeeding vs. Bottlefeeding
Staying @ Home vs. Working
Original Baby names vs. Common Baby Names

People fail to realize that people have different cultures, beliefs, interests, values, decisions, etc....
In the end we all have one common goal-- to do what's best for OUR family & to raise our children to the best of our ability.

People on Yahoo answers need to respect the decisions of others. Your "way" may not be what a parent decides to do w/ THEIR child. The last time I checked this was a free world.....

Answer 1

And the last time I checked Yahoo!Answers was a place for people to ask for opinions, and for people to give them. DUH.

What YOU fail to realize is that what occurs here in the Parenting section is exactly what was designed - people expressing their beliefs, which stem from how they were raised, as well as them trying to raise their families the best way the can.

That's what makes this so great- all of the different cultures, beliefs, interests, values, decisions we all have coming together, forming a comprehensive and diversified group of proud parents who like to share their opinions and ideas.

You don't have to like it. But perhaps you should consider a different forum to partake in, where everyone shares your view of life. Something like StepfordMoms.com.

Answer 2

I completely agree with you, however it's not going to stop. If you cruise through here enough, you will usually see what people(usually women) who have very strong beliefs on certain matters, and you try to steer clear of them. However, don't be surprised if those people who you clash opinions with, search you out when you ask or answer questions and either give you a nasty judgemental answer or give all your answers thumbs downs. Childish, but it isn't going to stop anytime soon.

Occasionally your going to come across someone, who is generally a nice person, but certain subjects really strike a nerve with them. But normally its going to be people who have a certain way they feel people should parent, and if you dont do things their way, your a bad mom, an idiot, or shouldn't have kids. Like I said, steer clear of those. Ask them, either by email, IM, or posting a detail to your question, to PLEASE not answer any more of your questions, if you do feel they are intentionally going after you, and if they continue to deliberatly attack you, report them for harrassment.

You said it though, people have different cultures, beliefs, interests, values, even religious beliefs, not to mention different family situations. What works for one mom, may not work for another. A woman can disagree with the choice that another woman makes, but there is no need in insulting, putting down, and trying to make another mother feel like dirt, just because she raises her kids differently than you do.

Beware though, just like in high school, Yahoo Answers has cliques. You tick off one person in the clique and the rest of her cronies will go after you, giving you nasty answers or constantly giving you thumbs downs. Its just part of Yahoo Answers. You have to take the good with the bad. But if you talk to women on here, you will find out the specific women on here who are exactly the kind you described, and you will know to take their advice with a grain of salt.

Answer 3

Sorry this is a hodge podge of free advice with no screening, your going to get idiots and some who really believe their own BS, but if you wade through all the junk, sometimes you actually get a good asnwer.

Answer 4

HOWEVER.....each individual IS entitled to their opinion on each and every subject you mentioned. Why can't people just accept that it may be an opinion rather than a pushing of beliefs or judgement? My suggestion is if a person doesn't want to accept a persons opinion as just that then perhaps that individual shouldn't post on answers.

Answer 5

regularly, i have self assurance, that it really is the AGE of the respondent that consistently determines their approach in the course of the reaction. obviously there are a range of exceptions, notwithstanding the more youthful the responder, the more advantageous insults are mandatory to precise what they're questioning. Reptile mind ya comprehend.

Answer 6

Yeah I agree, why would anyone focus their attention time and energy in what other people do? It's beyond me. And a lot of people asking questions aren't asking for opinions! They are asking for advise from experience parent's. Most of all, I really think all the issues that are spoken of when it comes to our chldren, people just make them bigger issues then they need to be! Plain and simple. The thing that makes me laugh is why don't any of these issues come up when our children are adults? Yeah that's my point so why make it an issue now? Because you don't see parent's asking other parent's "did you breastfeed her/him?" When your child is 20 years old!!

Answer 7

Oh my gosh, thank you. I answered a question once in which I said if my child ever did something (I can't remember what the question was), I would spank him. Some creepy YA stalker then went to every question I answered and asked and put on there, "Please don't have any more children! I pray to God for your children!" Give me a break!!

Answer 8

Ah, but we are the only ones who have raised their children properly

My child is free spirited
Your child is disruptive
Their child is a thug.

Answer 9

While I agree with you, it's only because I really could care less what you think.

Answer 10

I think I'm going to spank you, make you stay home and suck on this Johnson