Everyday I go to school and come home to clean and cook for my family every since I was11years old I rarely go anywhere. I do as much as I can to keep my mother from stressing out but my grown brother and his wife and kids make it hard on me and my mother being as she’s always helping others and not me I’m left out of everything I hold the family together ever day if I’m not cleaning I’m changing diapers and if I’m not doing that I’m Cooking and if not that its something in the house that needs to be done and I’m the one doing it I don’t have time for my self I’m always trying to please others but my self I’m stressed everyday and I can’t take it anymore I don’t want to take care of kids that aren’t mine. I’m tried of being the only person in the house trying to keep it together. I fight with my brothers every day over things that are stupid. I get hit by my brothers, we fight all the time none stop. Everyday is like a cycle, the same thing everyday. I just want it to stop to end.
2007-04-06 06:58:40 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Bluntly, if you can't afford to move out and support yourself you shouldn't move out. It's not fair to ask the taxpayers to support you just because you don't like to do housework. Get a job and save some money before you move out. That way you are out of the house so you CAN'T do all the work and you are making some money. I think you can be emancipated at 16, but emancipation means you take care of yourself and all of your own needs.
2007-04-06 07:04:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk to your parents and instead of "telling" them, "ask" them to give everyone some chores to do around the house. Tell them you are having trouble getting your homework done and being able to be a regular teenager like all your friends. Then if they don't lighten your load of things to do that are actually their responsibility you should take some action.
Do you have any relatives where you could go live? Maybe you have a good friend whose parents would let you come live with them for a while. I'd check into those options first.
You could call social services, but sometimes even a foster family can take advantage of their foster kids. I know there are many great foster parents, but I would hate for you to get one of the horrible ones. There have been so many negative news reports on foster parents lately. At least you are at an age where you can leave them if they're not nice.
I don't see any way you could live on Government funding, because they don't give enough for you to live alone. You could live better in a homeless shelter than trying to live on Government funding. At least in a homeless shelter you are given three meals a day, electricity & water.
I hope you are able to find happiness in your life. You deserve it.
2007-04-06 07:34:38 · answer #2 · answered by Ray-Ray 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be able to become legally emancipated. However, you will only be allowed to do so if you can prove that you can support yourself and be able to live on your own. It's about money and frankly, it is not going to be easier than it is now unless you have an independent source of income.
You can call social services, unlike the other reader's comment. Being abused by any member of your family (like your brothers hitting you) is domestic violence. Being neglected by your mother is abuse.
I do have to say, you made no mention of a father. Kudos to you for beating the statistics. Children with only one parent in the picture are at greater risk of dropping out of school. In addition, girls without a father figure are the largest number of teen pregnancies. You seem to have your head on straight & I'm sorry that life is so stressful. Here's what I would do:
Study hard at school. Take college prep classes & get good grades! Talk to your school conselor and start applying for every scholarship under the sun! Document your life and thr struggles you've overcome. Applicants who beat the odds are given scholarships out of kindness! Graduate early from high school if you can and get on to a better life! My girl friend did this and she's becoming a doctor! 90% is paid by scholarships. Good luck, work hard & focus on how much better your life is going to be!
2007-04-06 07:16:20 · answer #3 · answered by brassinpocket 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The government will not give you aid at 16 years old when there are family members and a home that you can live in. You could contact children's services and report the physical abuse, and you could get removed from the home to a foster home, but you may be getting in to worse trouble by doing that. The government aid is for situations where there is no other family members to help you, and when you are not able to work or take care of your self do to some other kind of stuff (like a disability).
2007-04-06 13:16:26 · answer #4 · answered by hr4me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps. You can call social services? They might place you in foster care until you turn 18. In the mean time, you can have a life and be the child the you are. You can finish school, get a part time job, save money and perhaps head out to college.
You dont need this and you also dont need people who take advantage of you. Regarless if its your family or not. Make a stand and learn how to say NO MORE!
2007-04-06 07:04:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Have you had a quiet talk with your mother about this situation? Have you told her how you feel? Go to your school counselor and talk to him/her about the help you need.
Generally, you cannot live alone as a minor unless you convince a judge to give you emancipation, meaning you can take care of yourself, including providing for yourself. Nothing in your letter talks about earning a living. I understand that at your age, you shouldn't have to earn your own way, but you shoudn't have to be the one acting as a maid for everyone else in the house either. You say your mother is always helping someone else, but what does she do around the house? More importantly, what has she told your deadbeat brother and sister-in-law to do. In other words, they should be taking care of themselves and their children without thrusting that obligation onto you and your mother. It sounds like if your mother threw them out of the house to fend for themselves, then you and your mother could carry on in relative peace.
You, your mother and brother need some outside help from professional counselors.
2007-04-06 07:13:40 · answer #6 · answered by rac 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you can't.
If you move out, who is going to be cooking and cleaning the new place ? You. Unless you have arranged a maid to come in and do it for you.
2007-04-06 15:45:46 · answer #7 · answered by kenneth h 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋