Its been over a year since she left me for someone else, someone with money, also another abusive man, in my mind i want to hate her, but i cant let her out of my heart. I still care about her and love her more than anything. But I dont know what to do. She ruined my life and reputation emotionally, physically, mentally. I tried to treat her as a queen, even though i am not poor but low-middle class. I loved her and her family like they were my own because i dont acknowledge mine exists. Im 27 yrs old and I know I dont have much more time on this earth. Her "manipulation" of everyone around me with her lies and stories is killing me more and more each day and i cant wait to die. I have nothing left to be happy or pleased about. I have not been with anyone since her, not even gone on a date. And honestly i dont want to. I want to get out, but i dont want a relationship. I dont think i can ever care or love again about someone else. She has my whole heart. Maybe im just a loser.
2007-04-06 05:42:18 · 10 answers · asked by intimidator5229 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
u arent a loser. u are going through a tuff time right now and thats understandable.. its going to be hard to be able to trust someone again like u did her. u gave her ur heart and now its torn to pieces..
maybe hangin with friends will help u.. staying in doors not doing anything is only going to make things worse for u.. get out and do something.. be out doors.. u dont need to put urself through stress or being depressed. when and if u decide to go out again its not going to be easy as to give your heart to someone else just like that.. cheer up.. dont be so down.. your young like me..........enjoy life while u can
2007-04-06 05:49:33 · answer #1 · answered by blue eyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As grim as your situation sounds, you have simply given this woman too much power in your life. She took everything you had to give, then moved on when she decided she wanted more. She is not worth this kind of heart ache. You really should try to get out and enjoy some aspect of life again. Start a relationship, not a really serious one, just someone to hang out with and forget about your troubles for a bit.
You say you are not long for this earth, but I'm not sure if you are serious, or speaking metaphorically. Either way, you are poisoning yourself by blaming yourself for this. That woman is a user and a leach. I know it's hard, but tell yourself that she is the one at fault and let go of the self hatred. Like I said, find something to enjoy again. Anything. A daily walk in the park, a new hobby, just sitting in a mall staring at girls, anything.
I wish you well and hope you can find yourself again soon.
2007-04-06 05:51:58 · answer #2 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart. Listen...
From what you are saying about this woman is that she is not a very nice person.
I think from what you are saying you are very depressed. Please go see your doctor about this. You are still young you have a lot of living to do and pining away from someone who abused the privilege of you loving her is pointless. You Deserve the best! Not the trash.
I know in my heart that there is someone out there just waiting for you to come along and treat her like a queen because she will treat you like a king.
You are not a loser. Just because this woman left you for someone with more money. She's the loser cause She tossed you aside. There is more to like than money, like someone who really loves you.
So get out there and go for it!
2007-04-06 05:52:41 · answer #3 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur not a loser and nothing in this world can be a good enuff reason for taking your life. Tell her this not the world, if she really cared about you in the first place then maybe you guys could get back together. It's your chose not to love again you can do anything you want to try going out with someone else and don't think about her your letting her run your life and your not trusting yourself.
2007-04-06 05:49:44 · answer #4 · answered by linlinloop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes love never dies but you can go on and if it's over a year I feel you need to see a Dr. for an anti-depressant. Sometimes it takes years to re-cover but you can continue to live a life without her. If she was so dishonest use that to get over her and do not focus on the good times. Maybe it's the rejection from her instead of actually her that hurts so much. You can not direct the course of love, but if it finds you worthy, directs your course. Not saying you cannot ever get her out of your system. Sometimes "when thou art more cruel than she, then will love be kind to thee". Good luck and try to seek other activities and go out some and see a Dr. if you can.
2007-04-06 05:53:37 · answer #5 · answered by luminous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your not a loser, just afraid to get hurt again. Don't let it get to you. Just let time take care of it. You don't have to start dating or anything, just go out with friends and hang out, have a little fun. You never know what might happen, you might end up meeting someone. Its hard to forget, but don't dwell on it and stop living your life, you can still move not, but don't have to forget. Loving someone takes time, right now you might think that you can't ever care or love again, but you might end up meeting that one special girl. Its all with time.
2007-04-06 06:23:08 · answer #6 · answered by SS3_GrL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you were a loser, you wouldnt be having the feelings you are now. i know from exp. that it seems things will never get better, but they will. if she is turning your friends against you, they werent friends anyway. get out and meet new people. consentrate on self improvement. that is what i did. at first i turned to drugs and alcahol. one day i woke up and decided i wasnt going to destroy myself like that.i focused 100% on improving me. now, 2 yrs later, im doing o k. i still think about donna every day, but it isnt near as painfull. mostly i worry about her, is she o k, does she need anything? its going to take time dude, but things will definatly get better. i wish there wrer some magic words i could give you, but there arent any, only time. good luck.
2007-04-06 06:04:13 · answer #7 · answered by gary w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need to put GOD first in your life so all those troubles will disappear and He can bless you with a woman you will love so much, it will make this relationship you were in seem like a one night stand.
2007-04-06 05:48:28 · answer #8 · answered by mikey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not a looser
you still love her
that doesnt make you a looser
the best thing to do for your self
is mingle with some people
you dont have to have a relationship
but meeting new people always helps me when im down
2007-04-06 07:54:41 · answer #9 · answered by therealsakura 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
isnt it sad how many people on here is being hurt by other humans..............................
2007-04-06 05:55:46 · answer #10 · answered by Peggy C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋