theverysexybird says sorry if shes offended anyone, particulary people who have been left with kids.?

Question

so sorry if iv offended anyone out there, yes, i suppose i did get a bit carried away with it all.
just to clear something up to some of you, we were together for 4 years and the child was planned, he wanted the little boy as much as me, i didnt trap him, no one was involved in the break up, he did promise me with all his heart that hed always support the child and be his dad, it just hurts me when i hear the little boy talk about his dad and asks me questions about him thats all, i tell him little white lies and have NEVER rubbished his dad to him, i could never shatter the little boys illusins of his dad, so i let him carry on thinking his dad is a good guy and away with the army in another country, what more can i say.
i didnt mean to offend any other single mums out there whos also been left, some worse off than than me.
xmas, birthdays etc always make me feel like this, i know im not the only one in the world, i have moved on, honestly, i wont mention it on here again, sorry x

Answer 1

I haven't read your other posts..Life is hard some times babe,i haven't got children(not through choice),you enjoy the precious love u and ur son have,yes ur right not to mess his head up and little white Lie's will keep him happy,i hope one day he'll be of the age to realise the truth & that u only lied to protect him, i'm sending this message to u only to realy say good luck in ur life & i hope u find happiness with a man who will love u & ur son,we all deserve happiness,keep smiling.x

Answer 2

I understand completely. I am not offended. I am a single father with two sons. My ex is a scumbag to. She is in prison now. Also infected with HCV. My sons rarely mention their mother, but when they do I answer any questions honestly. I wont have them live with illusion or false hope. I have always been the primary parent to them since they were born so they were pretty much unaffected by the divorce. There mother was always too busy to be a parent. She never seemed to have time for being home with the family.

Answer 3

you were venting. and what better and less harmful way to let that agression out then on a keyboard. at least you are keying his car and slashing the guys tires as mush as he probably deserves that and more. but do keep in mind you can't force someone to be a dad. if he's moved on, you let him go. if he tries to make an effort to be with his son, let him. always take the high road. keep the child support order enforced. i don't know of you had an attorney or if Child Support Services are handling that matter, but don't forget you can get his wages garnished. but don't force him to contact or see his son. nothing is worse then being with someone who blantantly doesn't want you around. don't forget about other positive male role models. such as a big brother program. children do come out of these things okay if you let them.

Answer 4

I think you're a bit overwrought but yes, there is a real problem in the world with men who won't see their children. My boys were only brought out and dusted when there was a new girlfriend. Father's Day was spent with HIS father (what do you think Father's Day means - it means I spend it with my father!), etc. My boys never received a birthday card or present. They were promised trips, he never turned up.
And yes, I'd love to see someone do something positive about this - every child deserves a good, caring father.
So good luck to you.

Answer 5

I didn`t read your other question but from the sound of it you have a point there. There are hundreds of dead beat dads out there - i know one for a start ! It is hard knowing what to tell kids, coz all your instincts are crying out HE`S SCUM ! - but of course you don`t want to hurt your kids so you say, "oh he`s busy working,he`ll see you when he gets time..." Don`t worry,your son won`t always be a little boy - one day he`ll be a big boy - and he`ll remember who was around for him - and who wasn`t. Good luck and best wishes !

Answer 6

I even have helped many friends plan activities and weddings wherein youngsters have been excluded. it truly is what strengthen into stated on one invitation for a social gathering that did not reason a issue: "we could like for each man or woman to attend yet once you at the instant can not acquire a infant sitter for the form we are able to comprehend your absence." additionally, as a area notice, you may desire to be consitent. in case you permit your ideal pal which you grew up with carry her 3 childrens yet insist that absolutely everyone else circulate away their toddlers abode then you definately could ruffle some feathers. additionally, you may time table a small social gathering after the marriage wherein families with their toddlers could attend-evaluate doing this and including this suggestion on your invites.

Answer 7

Your son sounds terrific and so do you! You are a terrific Mom (US as opposed to Mum in GB and Canada). The father of your son is missing out on the most important, formidable years of his young life, years that will never be provided a second chance.

As a Cubscout Leader and Dad of I couldn't imagine NOT being a part of my son's life. Your son is lucky to have you, and you him.

Take Care and Best of Luck!

Answer 8

Hi.I never read your other question.We all let off steam you obviously let it off on here.You were going through a bad patch so do not be sorry.You sound like a very caring person.Good Luck to you & your son.x

Answer 9

Points Taken.Have a good weekend despite,both of you.

Answer 10

you are such a fantastic women ,wish i was so like you and for you to apologise is even better just shows how nice you are .