Well I really like this guy but I just found out he had a daughter who is 4 yrs younger than me...At least he was honest when we were about to flirt.
Now I'm very confused 'cuz I'm afraid my jealousy will kill it all after a while. Shall we have fun or just end up as friends? (he is serious to me and he has never been married).
2007-04-06 05:14:06 · 21 answers · asked by Schatzi 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well I'm 19, I'm half his age and he stays here in my country. The daughter is with her mom in Aus. Is it any better for a relationship?
2007-04-06 05:38:14 · update #1
If you are speaking about jealousy of his daughter then I say, yes, just remain friends. Personally I have been in this situation as the daughter and I don't think it is ever right for a new woman to compete with her boyfriend's daughter for attention. They are two very different relationships and if you can manage to recognize that and respect it then you will be fine. Otherwise, like I said, it would be better to just keep the relationship at bay.
2007-04-06 05:19:20 · answer #1 · answered by caligurl1382 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Wow! If you two were to get married, you'd have a step-daughter who would (age-wise) be more like a younger sister! lol That could make for some interesting family dynamics... hehe.
Seriously, though, if I were you, I would simply imagine what life would be like under those circumstances. I know women pretty well from having been good friends with women and openly communicating. So, although I can't relate to the jealousy issue (because I'm a guy), I know enough of it to know it's likely to be a big deal.
I wouldn't feel right telling you it probably won't work because you never know. So I'd say just take it slow and see how things go.
Good luck!
EDIT after additional comments posted:
If his daughter doesn't even live in the same country as you and you felt the need to even ask about the jealousy issue-you are NOT yet mature enough to seek a serious relationship with an older man. It will never work because you are too self-centered to please an older man.
Sorry...
2007-04-06 12:34:56 · answer #2 · answered by Leroy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An honest man is hard to find, his daughter was probably a whim in his early days. So, now the question is what you want with him if anything>?
Do you want to marry some day, have kids of your own some day, does him having a daughter stop any of this, if that is what you desire? If it doesn't then move forward and see where life takes you, if it does then decide what is more improtant him or your other desires, if it the latter then just be friends and move on in your relationship world.
Good Luck
2007-04-06 12:19:20 · answer #3 · answered by maazungo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is great, but I gotta wonder about this one.
His daughter is only 4 years younger than you? How old are you? I have to wonder why a man is pursuing a woman so close to his daughter's age. Unless you're like 34 or something that's kind of creepy.
2007-04-06 12:22:42 · answer #4 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run....Don't be friends and don't get involved. You already know the jelousy will get to you. This is not a marriage situation in the future...Of course he likes you you are almost half his age....His daughter will always come first and if she doesn't he is a bad father and still no good....It is not like you will be best friends with the daughter and you will be a happy family...
2007-04-06 12:20:44 · answer #5 · answered by city girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least he was honest with you, which is a good sign. But, why would you be jealous of his daughter spending time with her dad? Maybe you are not ready for a relationship with him. She is probably very nice, why not get to know her, she could become a good friend to you
Good luck
2007-04-06 12:18:15 · answer #6 · answered by Mama~peapod 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are going to be jealous of a man's daughter, then you may need to be with someone that doesn't have any children. And if she is 4 years younger than you, than he is old enough to be your father as well.
You don't sound mature enough to handle a old man.
2007-04-06 12:20:11 · answer #7 · answered by Ms Brown Eyez 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself if he is worth it. I had the same situation. This little 5 yr old hated me, But i killed her with kindness, and was contemplating ever being around her. I hated that when he had her i didnt get tot kiss or hug him cause she would throw a fit.
She needed to warm up to me, I took it into my own hands and started taking her to get pedicure's w me, and out to lunch and shopping, she loves me now. And everything seems to be working.
Just ask are you willing to put up te effort? Is he worth it?
2007-04-06 12:18:32 · answer #8 · answered by gsxr650 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you saying you'd be jealous of his daughter, that's kinda selfish, his daughter will always be more important than you or any other woman in his life, if that's the case dont even bother making his life, your life, and his daughter's life miserable. A child no matter how young or old will always be they're child, the apple of their eyes.
2007-04-06 12:19:13 · answer #9 · answered by antz1230 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Are you saying you would be jealous of his daughter?
If so, then I think I'd pass.
A father deserves to have a good relationship with his daughter... and doesn't need a girlfriend who'll try to tear their relationship apart.
My opinion is this:
If you have to ask... then don't do it.
2007-04-06 12:19:58 · answer #10 · answered by Sweet Melissa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋