i met this man at the gym.he doesnt look like 40 y.o.i thought he is 30-35y.o.he s so great.he called me everynight,i still dont know that he's already married.he didnt told me,and i never ask.because i never deal with this.a marreied guy calling me.and then i found out,and he admit.and after that he never called me again and he say sorry for calling me.first time,i feel ok,but day by day i feel i miss him.and that was my fault,i'm the one who first called him.but,he missed me too.and that time we started our relationship.im so guilty to his wife,but both of us have already fell in love.we cant be separated.now i'm 25 y.o.we've been together for 2 years.its time for me to get married.but my BF??!!i dont know,what should i do?
2007-04-06 05:11:21 · 25 answers · asked by nienna 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Whore.
2007-04-06 05:14:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
Leave! I don't usually tell people to stay or leave I just try to help them weigh the pros and cons of the situation, but this is crazy. Why are you settling for a man who can only see or talk to when his wife isn't around, when you can have someone give you their all. If he ever left his wife would you really trust him. How do you know you are the only other person he is seeing on the side there could be others. I understand that you have put two years into this person, but how much more time do you want to waste. That is the hardest part of leaving, accepting the fact that you have been wasting your time all these years. Don't you want someone you can see when you want to, not when you can or it's convenient.
2007-04-06 05:22:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET OUT!! You aren't married, the kids aren't yours, you fight a lot, he still has feelings for someone else... what the heck are you waiting for, lightning to shoot you in the a$$? Get out now while you still have your dignity. If you had said "I'm bummed about his previous marriage and kids, but he's the most awesome man I've ever met and we get along better than anyone I've ever dated, and gosh darn, I love him more than life," I would feel inclined to give you advice about how to deal with the other things. But you didn't say that, so break it off, now. You are right, marrying someone else and being their first spouse and having your first kids together is wonderful. If you desire that, then go search for someone who fits those criteria and you can date without fighting. This is obviously important to you, so make decisions to back that up.
2016-05-18 21:24:04 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A sure way to really know if he loves you.... He will leave his wife. If that's not happening and you're hearing a bunch of excuses, he's not getting divorced. You're simply a toy to a lying, cheating adulterer...and do you really want a long term relationship with those qualities? You're in for some serious heartache, not to mention what you're going to have to deal with if his wife finds out. Get out now and move on. Too many single men out there to be sharing him.
2007-04-06 05:17:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This man has got it made a girlfriend on the side of having a wife that he doesn't want to divorce, or he would of done it already. Wake up and realize that you have spend two years of your life with someone that was never available to you 100%.
2007-04-06 05:20:35 · answer #5 · answered by Bazinga 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darling, honey, sweetie-pie - listen carefully -
You are his MISTRESS. He is NOT going to leave his wife for you. Not tomorrow. Not the next day. Not ever. He tells you that he might so you will continue to be his MISTRESS.
You are also the "other woman". I'm sure that makes you feel great. Does this guy have kids?
Let's pretend for a moment he divorces his wife and marries you. I'm sure he'll be as faithful to you as he is to the woman he married to now.
Dump him. Walk away.
2007-04-06 05:19:12 · answer #6 · answered by mantoothnation 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're talking about marrying a guy that's already married? Talk about a recipe for disaster. Look, as much as you "love" this guy, he started your relationship while he was married. So obviously he's not above cheating if he's not getting what he wants at home. Eventually one of you will cheat, either him again once he gets bored, or you because you don't quite trust him.
Move on. If he gets a divorce on his own, them maybe and only maybe you can reform your relationship.
2007-04-06 05:16:26 · answer #7 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You deserve the guilt. In this day and age of the internet, it is too easy to confirm that someone is single or married.
You did something stupid and the best thing that can come out of this question is someone else being convinced to not repeat your mistake. End it. Move on.
2007-04-06 05:19:03 · answer #8 · answered by Reformed Nice Guy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow You should have know better then to start a relationship
with a married man and then to keep it going for 2 years.
If he has kids with his wife you need to break up and leave
him alone. Find a man of your own.
2007-04-06 05:17:55 · answer #9 · answered by chmar11 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is not "in love" with you. he just wants sex with a younger woman. you should dump him and tell his wife. he has cheated on his wife to be with a younger woman. what makes you think he wont do it again if you guys end up together. when you turn 40 he will do the same to you. save yourself some heartache and find someone else besides his slimeball.
2007-04-06 05:17:09 · answer #10 · answered by ☆(≧∇≦) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off you can't marry a married man until he's divorced. you shouldn't be with him at all. it wasn't your fault in the beginning because you didn't know but know you do and it's wrong to continue that relationship. think about how his wife would feel! and if he wanted to leave his wife to be with you he would have already done that!
2007-04-06 05:15:32 · answer #11 · answered by JM 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋